# Why we have jerks. **URL:** \ **Category:** About This Message Board\ **Created:** [February 11, 2014, 3:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-we-have-jerks/681030 "2014-02-11T03:44:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![drastic\_quench](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e36b37/32.png) [@drastic\_quench](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drastic_quench)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2014, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-we-have-jerks/681030/41 "2014-02-14T15:51:17Z")
I’ve got one yellow card from Marley for “Personal Insults.” Okay, fine. But the other two? “Being a jerk.” From twickster. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2014, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-we-have-jerks/681030/42 "2014-02-14T16:35:03Z")
> [@42fish](#): > > His wife is in a coma. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![TBG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c89c15/32.png) [@TBG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TBG)\ **Post date:** [February 14, 2014, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-we-have-jerks/681030/43 "2014-02-14T23:43:48Z")
> [@Happy\_Lendervedder](#): > > Yeah, well I had sex with your wife! Take my wife, please! jk, I don’t even have a wife ---
**Author:** ![Cheshire\_Human](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Cheshire\_Human](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheshire_Human)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2014, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-we-have-jerks/681030/44 "2014-02-15T01:49:51Z")
> [@drastic\_quench](#): > > I’ve got one yellow card from Marley for “Personal Insults.” Okay, fine. > > But the other two? “Being a jerk.” From twickster. [Welcome to the club…](http://www.penny-arcade.com/comic/2004/03/19) Also, [Welcome to the fold](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uq_REsvdCg0&feature=kp)… ---
**Author:** ![buddha\_david](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ee7513/32.png) [@buddha\_david](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/buddha_david)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2014, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-we-have-jerks/681030/45 "2014-02-15T23:37:42Z")
I’d rather be jerked off than jerked on. ---
**Author:** ![Blue\_Blistering\_Barnacle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blue_blistering_barnacle/32/3386_2.png) [@Blue\_Blistering\_Barnacle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blue_Blistering_Barnacle)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2014, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-we-have-jerks/681030/46 "2014-02-16T15:58:18Z")
> [@nevadaexile](#): > > My thoughts: > > [ol] > [li]People stink at self-assessment - Just like no one is stupid,ugly,unfunny or a bad driver, no one will admit to being a jerk.[/li] > [li][http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning\_Kruger[/li][/ol]](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning_Kruger%5B/li%5D%5B/ol%5D) Should’ve been called the Robert Burns Effect: \*\*O, wad some Power the giftie gie us To see oursels as others see us!\*\*It wad frae monie a blunder free us, An’ foolish notion. What airs in dress an’ gait wad lea’e us An’ ev’n Devotion To a Louse, st. 8 (1786) [1] ---
**Author:** ![Blue\_Blistering\_Barnacle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blue_blistering_barnacle/32/3386_2.png) [@Blue\_Blistering\_Barnacle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blue_Blistering_Barnacle)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2014, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-we-have-jerks/681030/47 "2014-02-16T16:53:48Z")
> [@sentrix](#): > > i just think its a bit silly to call someone a jerk. if you don’t like their behaviour call it out, say yeah well what are you on about, explain? > > name calling my kids do at school. if you are not american ‘jerk’ has no meaning. > > watch your language. I actually suggest to my kids to say, “You are \*\*acting \*\* like a jerk.”, or “Why are you \*\*acting \*\* like a jerk?” when thay are confronted with jerky behavior. I see this as: [ol] [li]softening the insult a bit, leaving room for reconciliation,[/li][li]hopefully, getting the other person to think about their behavior (who wants to act like a jerk?)[/li][/ol] [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-we-have-jerks/681030.md?page=2)