# Why Would An Actor/Actress Not Want A Fan Club/Official Website **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [March 12, 2006, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-an-actor-actress-not-want-a-fan-club-official-website/348091 "2006-03-12T22:26:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2006, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-an-actor-actress-not-want-a-fan-club-official-website/348091/21 "2006-03-25T16:49:01Z")
Personally, I think if I were in this situation, at this point I’d back off and tell him, “Well, if you change your mind, let us know!”. It’s better to have an unofficial site while staying on good terms with the celeb than to keep pushing to get his “official” stamp of approval and possibly alienate him. I remember your prior thread about how the fan club prez is interested in him romantically. Could it be that he has picked up on that and is reluctant to get too closely involved because he suspects there’s an ulterior motive? Sorry that you guys experienced this disappointment. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Frylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@Frylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frylock)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2006, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-an-actor-actress-not-want-a-fan-club-official-website/348091/22 "2006-03-25T16:55:53Z")
> [@MrDibble](#): > > Following the conversation where the person said they were kind of wierded-out, I think (if it was me) the batch of cookies and invitation to meet the fanclub president “you know, just to talk and stuff” would have pushed it over to bizarro stalker territory. YKMV. Exactly what I was thinking. -FrL- ---
**Author:** ![Subterraneanus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@Subterraneanus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Subterraneanus)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2006, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-an-actor-actress-not-want-a-fan-club-official-website/348091/23 "2006-03-25T19:23:45Z")
> [@Squeaker Snow](#): > > Just wondering… > > Why would an established, fairly well-known actor/actress be hesitant to give the go-ahead to a group of fans to run an official website/fan club for the performer? > The fans are established professionals in their own fields…advertising, public relations, corporate management, a CPA, a paralegal… > > We have assured this person that we do not want to intrude upon his/her personal life, but want to celebrate his/her career. This is a person who to this point has never answered fan mail, etc., but is very gracious and humble when approached by fans. > > We respect this person’s decision, but, jeez…why become a performer if you don’t want attention? I’m not talking front cover of the National Enquirer, showing your altogether like Paris Hilton attention either…I’m talking…this is your upcoming project…kind of attention. > > I’ve seen accountants in community theater productions in church basements want more attention. > > Go figure… > > ??? [For you](http://www.hobbies.net). ---
**Author:** ![lissener](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lissener/32/6139_2.png) [@lissener](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lissener)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2006, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-an-actor-actress-not-want-a-fan-club-official-website/348091/24 "2006-03-25T19:46:13Z")
> [@Subterraneanus](#): > > [For you](http://www.hobbies.net). What a pompous, condescending asshole you are, Subterraneous. Welcome to the Dope. You’ll fit right in. ---
**Author:** ![lissener](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lissener/32/6139_2.png) [@lissener](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lissener)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2006, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-an-actor-actress-not-want-a-fan-club-official-website/348091/25 "2006-03-25T20:41:57Z")
Oh man, I thought I was in the Pit! I’m emailing a mod. I’m really sorry for that last post; too many windows open, not enough sleep. ---
**Author:** ![lissener](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lissener/32/6139_2.png) [@lissener](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lissener)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2006, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-an-actor-actress-not-want-a-fan-club-official-website/348091/26 "2006-03-25T20:46:16Z")
Please, Subterraneous, accept my apology. We have rules here for polite behavior in this thread; displays of temper are only allowed in the Barbecue Pit forum. I sincerely hope my rudeness, wrong forum or not, does not prevent you from participating further in the Dope. The proper thing for me to have done, if I felt your post was deserving of an angry response, was to have started a thread in the Pit and addressed it there. Within the rules of Cafe Society, I should have either ignored it in this thread, or attempted to discuss it with you in a mature, non-angry, non-personal manner. Again, I apologize. ---
**Author:** ![Subterraneanus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@Subterraneanus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Subterraneanus)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2006, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-an-actor-actress-not-want-a-fan-club-official-website/348091/27 "2006-03-25T22:00:28Z")
> [@lissener](#): > > Please, Subterraneous, accept my apology. We have rules here for polite behavior in this thread; displays of temper are only allowed in the Barbecue Pit forum. I sincerely hope my rudeness, wrong forum or not, does not prevent you from participating further in the Dope. > > The proper thing for me to have done, if I felt your post was deserving of an angry response, was to have started a thread in the Pit and addressed it there. Within the rules of Cafe Society, I should have either ignored it in this thread, or attempted to discuss it with you in a mature, non-angry, non-personal manner. Again, I apologize. Apology accepted—but spell my name correctly. P.S. I’m originally from Puyallup. ---
**Author:** ![C\_K\_Dexter\_Haven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b2d939/32.png) [@C\_K\_Dexter\_Haven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/C_K_Dexter_Haven)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2006, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-an-actor-actress-not-want-a-fan-club-official-website/348091/28 "2006-03-26T00:00:04Z")
::: Moderator speaketh ::: OK, mistakes happen, we’ve had apology and explanation, and acceptance. No harm, no foul. Well done. ---
**Author:** ![C\_K\_Dexter\_Haven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b2d939/32.png) [@C\_K\_Dexter\_Haven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/C_K_Dexter_Haven)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2006, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-an-actor-actress-not-want-a-fan-club-official-website/348091/29 "2006-03-26T00:03:06Z")
:: Moderator speaketh :: Mistakes happen. There’s been explanation and apology, which is accepted. No harm, no foul. Well done. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-an-actor-actress-not-want-a-fan-club-official-website/348091.md?page=1)