# Why would good looking guy in good shape need to resort to posting a creepy CL ad solicting sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 17, 2013, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215 "2013-06-17T22:37:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2013, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/1 "2013-06-17T22:37:32Z")
I ran[across this news item](http://blogs.westword.com/latestword/2013/06/creepy_craigslist_it_ad.php) and my first thought was (as a 55 year old man) That guys in pretty good shape, and he’s not bad looking, why the hell is he doing this? If he posted this on a dating website I guarantee you he would be covered up with women’s responses. So why is he doing it? Why the creepy ad? He should be able to all the free play he can handle (other than the usual date stuff). ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2013, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/2 "2013-06-17T22:44:41Z")
It seems like he was looking for some IT help, not sex. The sex was how he was going to compensate the “IT Girl.” ---
**Author:** ![AngelSoft](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angelsoft/32/440_2.png) [@AngelSoft](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelSoft)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2013, 10:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/3 "2013-06-17T22:45:54Z")
Uhh because he’s probably a narcissistic asshole? I mean really. Offering the pleasure of his company in return for marketable job skills? That guy’s got some issues and clearly not enough money to make certain women ignore said issues. ---
**Author:** ![Altivu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a8b319/32.png) [@Altivu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Altivu)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2013, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/4 "2013-06-17T22:52:24Z")
There’s a chance that the ad was more of a joke/set-up rather than an actual “your skills for my sex” request. Not that we’ll ever really know that. On the other hand, it doesn’t even sound that far-fetched to me. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2013, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/5 "2013-06-17T23:09:43Z")
If a woman posted the same type ad, asking to barter her romance and sex skills for IT help, how would that be? Still creepy? Also a narcissistic asshole? ---
**Author:** ![JackieLikesVariety](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackielikesvariety/32/296_2.png) [@JackieLikesVariety](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JackieLikesVariety)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2013, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/6 "2013-06-17T23:12:45Z")
creepy either way. IMHO folks could choose to meet others in different ways - pay for eharmony, whatever - but choose to do creepy on CL. they wouldn’t\* have \*to. ---
**Author:** ![gallows\_fodder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8c91f0/32.png) [@gallows\_fodder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gallows_fodder)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2013, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/7 "2013-06-17T23:38:00Z")
Check this out: being good-looking does not preclude one from being creepy. So if this dude is resorting to posting a creepy CL ad soliciting sex, maybe it’s because his options with the women who know him are limited. ---
**Author:** ![stoplight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@stoplight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stoplight)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2013, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/8 "2013-06-17T23:43:48Z")
> [@Bricker](#): > > If a woman posted the same type ad, asking to barter her romance and sex skills for IT help, how would that be? Still creepy? Also a narcissistic asshole? Maybe not Narcissistic, more histrionic basket case, which this dude maybe as well. and yes still creepy not as creepy but still a reason to pause. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2013, 11:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/9 "2013-06-18T11:29:06Z")
**Why would good looking guy in good shape need to resort to posting a creepy CL ad solicting sex?** He may not “need” to, but instead “wants to”. Need and want are two very different things. Maybe that’s how he like to get off. He probably knows that there are some women who get off the same way. ---
**Author:** ![Tapioca\_Dextrin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Tapioca\_Dextrin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tapioca_Dextrin)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2013, 11:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/10 "2013-06-18T11:45:29Z")
He’s had bad experiences with online dating places The library blocks dating sites, but not Craigslist ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2013, 11:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/11 "2013-06-18T11:53:53Z")
I know a guy who is good looking enough to walk into a bar (or grocery store, mall, wherever) and have women interested in him. But he chooses to find women via CraigsList type venues. Why? Apparently he is a sick fuck. Pretty simple. He has learned that the type of woman that responds to his ad is exactly what he is looking for. ---
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2013, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/12 "2013-06-18T12:01:34Z")
I can’t believe nobody thought of the possibility that… It works? Maybe _because_ he’s good looking, he actually has women respond to his ad that think this arrangement is perfectly fine? As for why people post this stuff, it works? That, or there is so little investment in trying, that even if someone responds back a month later it makes the effort worth it. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2013, 12:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/13 "2013-06-18T12:02:44Z")
Because while he may be good looking, he’s not nearly as good looking as he \*thinks \*he is. Yeah, I’m going with “narcissistic” on this one. Or the victim of a cruel prank by his friends. ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2013, 12:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/14 "2013-06-18T12:06:53Z")
Why can’t it be as simple as he needs IT help and can’t afford the cash? ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2013, 12:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/15 "2013-06-18T12:19:15Z")
I believe he got hits. I posted an add one time on a dating site that I was a handy man with no honey do list and had plenty of women calling telling me thier house needed fixing and maybe we could work something out. Well plenty of women over an extended period of time. ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2013, 12:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/16 "2013-06-18T12:22:04Z")
I just realized mine was the opposite, he was offering his sex, Sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Mdcastle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/958977/32.png) [@Mdcastle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mdcastle)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2013, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/17 "2013-06-18T12:30:15Z")
Don’t assume dating sites actually work for everyone. I was rejected outright by eHarmony, and was a member of [Chemistry.com](http://Chemistry.com) for a year. In that time I got a total of two nibbles, one was horribly obese and one didn’t make it to the point of actually meeting in real life. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2013, 12:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/18 "2013-06-18T12:34:55Z")
Just because some guy is “good looking” and “in good shape,” doesn’t make him universally hot. Lots of women (and men) would turn him down. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2013, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/19 "2013-06-18T12:38:57Z")
> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#): > > I just realized mine was the opposite, he was offering his sex, Sorry. Yes, this is much more like a 50’s secretary ad which includes “light housekeeping”, only more, well, honest. He wants IT help AND sex. The messages (massages?) might be nice. But apparently he also needs a proofreader. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2013, 12:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215/20 "2013-06-18T12:48:24Z")
I worked with a photogenic guy in great shape who was nervous, twitchy, and had a problem with staring. Unblinking, intense gaze with no smiles at all. New female employees would fall for him on sight, but after a few minutes in his presence they cooled off and lost interest. He also belonged to a church which devalued women, so his interest was pretty much limited to sex or breeding. His Facebook page looks like a Hollywood portfolio, but he’s still single because he’s an odd jerk with a low opinion of women. He trolls for attention on Craigslist and every dating site. Doubt he ever gets past one date. But he’s pretty! [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-would-good-looking-guy-in-good-shape-need-to-resort-to-posting-a-creepy-cl-ad-solicting-sex/661215.md?page=2)