# Why \*wouldn't\* you date Mr/Ms Right? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 23, 2003, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-wouldnt-you-date-mr-ms-right/157019 "2003-02-23T21:18:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![monica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a183cd/32.png) [@monica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monica)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2003, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-wouldnt-you-date-mr-ms-right/157019/21 "2003-02-25T02:02:33Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by kniz_ > She’s only sixteen. > \ > Also, I thought girls her age avoided “nice guys” like the plague. As another sixteen-year-old, I feel that I have to point out the fact that we do _not_ avoid nice guys. I happen to be beginning a relationship with a very nice guy. He’s sweet, and he’s definately not a jerk. ---
**Author:** ![raisinbread](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8491ac/32.png) [@raisinbread](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raisinbread)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2003, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-wouldnt-you-date-mr-ms-right/157019/22 "2003-02-25T02:11:55Z")
They’re polyamorous. Of course the whole concept of a Mr/Miss Right is the fact that they are perfect in your eyes through and through so if they had some flaw (religion/race/white after labor day) then they wouldn’t be Mr/Miss Right in the first place, nu? ---
**Author:** ![NinjaChick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/71c47a/32.png) [@NinjaChick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinjaChick)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2003, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-wouldnt-you-date-mr-ms-right/157019/23 "2003-02-25T02:33:31Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Maeglin \* > \*\*Race for me isn’t an issue, either, but dating someone within my martial arts school is. 🙂 > > Every time that seems to happen, both parties have an odd romance and then _both_ leave the school. Even when I was single, I did my best to look the other way when attractive, eligible women trained with me. \*\* Yeah, that’s actually a point that’s come up between us. But our school is far from traditional, and it ended up being kind of obvious that there was at least a little ‘mutual spark’ (does that sound as stupid as I think it does?), and we came to the consensus that it would just be easier to dive head first into the issue instead of tiptoeing. And, FWIW - I do know some girls my age who do avoid ‘good guys’, but their perception of ‘good guys’ is that he’s a geek. My guy is not. College isn’t an issue (at least not until I graduate HS and take off), he’s not going that route. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![glee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b5a626/32.png) [@glee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/glee)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2003, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-wouldnt-you-date-mr-ms-right/157019/24 "2003-02-28T19:52:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by cjhoworth \* > **Glee** , you may certainly call me CJ, or even “Seige” if you like. In return, I offer you a list of my pros and cons: > > - I was born in Sussex, live in America (and speak English and American fluently ) > > - I am a Doper (and will get to a Dopefest eventually ) > > - I am single (and unattached ) > > - I consider Mensa Regional Gatherings a good place to meet men, in addition to playing backgammon, computer games, and role playing games. I can also arrange an introduction to a friend who has published role playing games. “A hint of nerdiness”? I’m afraid sometimes I reek of it, but I’ve come to enjoy it. In fact, someone who didn’t have at least a hint of nerdiness probably wouldn’t be Mr. Right. > > A furiously blushing > CJ Lumme! Strewth! Gorblimey! For years my nerdiness has told against me in the romance stakes - now suddenly it’s trendy! I may have to sit in a darkened room to calm down (I may as well play computer games while I’m there) … OK, a sense of humour is jolly important in a relationship. How does this one appeal to you? A little girl goes into a pet shop. Timidly she lisps “I’d like to buy a wabbit.” The pet store owner smiles sweetly. “Would you like a fluffy rabbit, or a longhaired rabbit?” The little girl thinks carefully. “I don’t think it will matter to my python!”. (P.S. - you blush, I use exclamation marks) ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2003, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-wouldnt-you-date-mr-ms-right/157019/25 "2003-02-28T20:13:50Z")
I think he’s a little old for you, since relations between the two of you is probably illegal in your state. Plus, I have to wonder what a 20-year-old wants with someone so young. 4 years isn’t much when one is 24 and one is 28, but at 16 it is different. I don’t know if that makes sense or not. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-wouldnt-you-date-mr-ms-right/157019.md?page=1)