# Why you shouldn't use somebody for $100,000 **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 14, 2009, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054 "2009-09-14T17:42:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malleus_incus_stapes/32/3293_2.png) [@Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malleus_Incus_Stapes)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/21 "2009-09-15T13:36:19Z")
> [@Evil\_Economist](#): > > The secret to success for this guy would have been to stop being so loose with his money. She’d quit her job, was dependant on him for the rent & utilities. All he had to do was start holding back a little, and I bet she would have worked for it. > > ummm…is that a bad thing to say? Username/post combo. ---
**Author:** ![Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swallowed_My_Cellphone)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/22 "2009-09-15T14:08:30Z")
> [@Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](#): > > Username/post combo. I was thinking the same thing. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/23 "2009-09-15T14:40:36Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > Please tell me you’re joking. Otherwise, that’s really fucking offensive. Yes. I think that every person who can’t get a date would set up the object of their affection to be kidnapped and mutilated to force them into permanent dependency. You probably want to give your hyperbolometer a good boot. It seems to be malfunctioning. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/24 "2009-09-15T14:44:13Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > Please tell me you’re joking. Otherwise, that’s really fucking offensive. It’s offensive to call a creep a creep? Everyone seems pretty eager to call the woman in the situation a whore, and she isn’t even that, just a user who found a sucker, if she did nothing in return for the money. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/25 "2009-09-15T14:45:08Z")
> [@Shot\_From\_Guns](#): > > You probably want to give your hyperbolometer a good boot. It seems to be malfunctioning. Ah. I’ll take it in to the shop ASAP. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/26 "2009-09-15T14:49:04Z")
> [@Telperien](#): > > It’s offensive to call a creep a creep? Read the comment again. It’s offensive to state that anyone who has trouble getting a date must be that creepy. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/27 "2009-09-15T14:59:47Z")
And here I thought having tons of money would solve all my dating problems. Oh well… ---
**Author:** ![Harmonious\_Discord](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/74df32/32.png) [@Harmonious\_Discord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harmonious_Discord)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/28 "2009-09-15T14:59:55Z")
> [@Telperien](#): > > It’s offensive to call a creep a creep? > > Everyone seems pretty eager to call the woman in the situation a whore, and she isn’t even that, just a user who found a sucker, if she did nothing in return for the money. I did a word search on the thread and you’re the only person to use the term whore. I did say she was wrong in her userous behavior. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/29 "2009-09-15T15:03:07Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > Read the comment again. It’s offensive to state that anyone who has trouble getting a date must be that creepy. That’s not what he said, though. He was talking about “guys who always whine “how come no girls like me.”” You can be single or dateless without whining about it, but the ‘I’m a nice guy, why don’t girls like me?’ type tends to get creepy. We’ve had a lot of threads about this over the years. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/30 "2009-09-15T15:10:46Z")
> [@Telperien](#): > > It’s offensive to call a creep a creep? I think he means that all the guys who have trouble finding dates who aren’t this guy would be offended. Some people just aren’t that attractive. They don’t have to be creepy. Although if you start throwing around tons of money and mayhem so girls will sleep with you, that’s pretty creepy. The guy in that story looks fucking creepy before he spent dollar one. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/31 "2009-09-15T16:39:17Z")
> [@Marley23](#): > > That’s not what he said, though. He was talking about “guys who always whine “how come no girls like me.”” You can be single or dateless without whining about it, but the ‘I’m a nice guy, why don’t girls like me?’ type tends to get creepy. We’ve had a lot of threads about this over the years. Exactly. Men who whine about not understanding how no women want to date them are usually overlooking some glaringly obvious personal flaw. Usually it’s not anything approaching the level of “it’s because you’re a psychopath who would mutilate someone to force them to love you,” but there’s almost always **something** that is the fault of the man him and not the objects of his affection. Psssst, I’m not a “he.” ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/32 "2009-09-15T16:41:59Z")
D’oh. Sorry, **Shot From Guns**. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/33 "2009-09-15T16:52:15Z")
> [@Shot\_From\_Guns](#): > > Exactly. Men who whine about not understanding how no women want to date them are usually overlooking some glaringly obvious personal flaw. Usually it’s not anything approaching the level of “it’s because you’re a psychopath who would mutilate someone to force them to love you,” but there’s almost always **something** that is the fault of the man him and not the objects of his affection. Either that or they just don’t understand how attraction works. Far cry from the psychotic behavior cited in the OP, though. Since you were hyperbolizing, though, it’s all good. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/34 "2009-09-15T17:36:47Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > I think he means that all the guys who have trouble finding dates who aren’t this guy would be offended. Some people just aren’t that attractive. They don’t have to be creepy. See **tdn**? He didn’t mean to offend— you could just be ugly! ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/35 "2009-09-15T17:40:44Z")
Now I feel better! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/36 "2009-09-15T17:58:21Z")
And note the caveat: it’s not \*\*anybody \*\*who can’t get a date, it’s people who \*\*whine \*\*about \*\*not knowing why \*\*they can’t get a date. Those are the ones who tend to be the creepers. Or yeah, you’re just fugly. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/37 "2009-09-15T18:00:44Z")
And yet you keep grabbing my ass. Hmm… :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/38 "2009-09-15T18:27:36Z")
Only out of rampant sexism, **tdn**. Only out of rampant sexism. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swallowed_My_Cellphone)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/39 "2009-09-15T18:34:53Z")
> [@Shot\_From\_Guns](#): > > Exactly. Men who whine about not understanding how no women want to date them are usually overlooking some glaringly obvious personal flaw. Usually it’s not anything approaching the level of “it’s because you’re a psychopath who would mutilate someone to force them to love you,” but there’s almost always **something** that is the fault of the man him and not the objects of his affection. It’s my big ears, isn’t it? ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2009, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054/40 "2009-09-15T18:37:12Z")
> [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](#): > > It’s my big ears, isn’t it? Yes. But not for the reason you think. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/why-you-shouldnt-use-somebody-for-100-000/510054.md?page=3)