# Wife caught sexting lover while at Atlanta Braves game with clueless husband. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 25, 2015, 8:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142 "2015-07-25T08:18:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2015, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/101 "2015-07-25T23:31:43Z")
aceplace57: I was mocking your bad spelling. ---
**Author:** ![leftfield6](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leftfield6/32/18780_2.png) [@leftfield6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leftfield6)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2015, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/102 "2015-07-25T23:32:00Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > The point being, I don’t object to shoulder surfing. Never have, never will. Read my screen all you want. I expect you too and assume you did. We already know this about you. It’s not attractive. And no one can read your damn flip phone anyway. If all these two little twits had done was shoulder surf, then we would not even know about it. But they decided to stick their noses in and then go on social media and publicize it. They are the worst. And you are supporting them. Figure it out. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2015, 11:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/103 "2015-07-25T23:34:39Z")
> [@Monty](#): > > aceplace57: I was mocking your bad spelling. I deserved it. My bad on that. Serf/Surf is one that I usually catch before posting. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2015, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/104 "2015-07-25T23:35:53Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > The point being, I don’t object to shoulder surfing. Never have, never will. Read my screen all you want. I expect you too and assume you did. I won’t because you’re not that interesting, and even were I fascinated, I do my best to ignore conversations that don’t involve me, avert my eyes from private moments, and respect the fact that I might be in close proximity to someone but that doesn’t mean I should intrude on them any more than I have to. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2015, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/105 "2015-07-25T23:41:25Z")
> [@cochrane](#): > > God save us from self-appointed moralists. I have my hands full keeping track of my own dick; I can’t imagine trying to monitor others. ---
**Author:** ![apollonia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/2bfe46/32.png) [@apollonia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/apollonia)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2015, 11:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/106 "2015-07-25T23:42:46Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > The point being, I don’t object to shoulder surfing. Never have, never will. Read my screen all you want. I expect you too and assume you did. Regardless of your cutesy made-up name for it, where I’m from we call that “snooping” and well-bred people don’t do it. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2015, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/107 "2015-07-25T23:44:10Z")
> [@leftfield6](#): > > We already know this about you. It’s not attractive. And no one can read your damn flip phone anyway. > > If all these two little twits had done was shoulder surf, then we would not even know about it. But they decided to stick their noses in and then go on social media and publicize it. > > They are the worst. And you are supporting them. Figure it out. I still carry a laptop for work. Use it at restaurants or when traveling. I expect that people see my screen. Shoulder surfing has been part of my professional life for 28 years. I’m not going to start crying about it now. I don’t expect some invisible privacy bubble to shield my screen from the public. Screaming about shoulder surfing will not make it go away. Nothing wrong with it unless there is criminal intent to steal passwords or account numbers. I’ve said several times the sisters should have kept this incident private. The man texted back for the screen shots. That should have ended their involvement. People crave attention. These sisters wanted to celebrate and gloat online. Its very unfortunate. That doesn’t mean that I’m expected to censure legitimate news. Its on the front page of [http://www.nydailynews.com/](http://www.nydailynews.com/) right now. Tens of thousands see it as they scroll down. ---
**Author:** ![Stringbean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Stringbean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stringbean)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2015, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/108 "2015-07-25T23:48:43Z")
Just take a few pics and show the guy when the whore goes to the bathroom. Why people today need this public shaming thing is beyond me. ---
**Author:** ![Locrian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/locrian/32/14146_2.png) [@Locrian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Locrian)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2015, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/109 "2015-07-25T23:51:06Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > Unless, if true, it was all a joke between the spouses. I saw a picture of the sisters and they’re pretty young (think late teens or early twenties), so if I got a sense they were eavesdropping on my privacy, I’d screw with them. Then when they decided to tattle, my spouse and I would laugh at their busybody-ness. I mean, really. Do you honestly believe that he’d give them “the thumbs up” after a note like that? This. I’m betting we find out that the wife was screwing with the teens seated behind them. Or they all knew each other and pulled a prank. Why would UK’s The Daily Mail be the big resource on this story from a baseball game anyway? All the other cites I’ve seen quote the Mail story. ---
**Author:** ![kayT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayt/32/3633_2.png) [@kayT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayT)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2015, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/110 "2015-07-25T23:53:29Z")
Well, I for one appreciate this thread. Now I know who thinks snooping and interfering in other people’s business is admirable behavior, and who does not. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2015, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/111 "2015-07-25T23:53:33Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > Its on the front page of [http://www.nydailynews.com/](http://www.nydailynews.com/) right now. Tens of thousands see it as they scroll down. Maybe you shouldn’t spend all day on a website that thinks dogs that jump out of 3rd story windows won’t die…because they have giant ears like [DUMBO](http://www.nydailynews.com/news/world/dumbo-dog-basset-hound-survives-30-foot-jump-window-article-1.2303995). ETA, it’s on Daily Mail also. > **[Remy the dog saved by his 'Dumbo' ears after jumping out of window](https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3172313/When-Basset-Hound-fly-Remy-dog-saved-Dumbo-ears-jumping-floor-window-spotted-cat-ground-below.html)** > > The puppy dropped more than 30ft out of an attic in Steyning, West Sussex, after spotting a cat on the ground, and landed on his face on concrete - but his owners say the fall was broken by his huge ears. ---
**Author:** ![Lucretia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/13edae/32.png) [@Lucretia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucretia)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/112 "2015-07-26T00:01:48Z")
> [@jsgoddess](#): > > I won’t because you’re not that interesting, and even were I fascinated, I do my best to ignore conversations that don’t involve me, avert my eyes from private moments, and respect the fact that I might be in close proximity to someone but that doesn’t mean I should intrude on them any more than I have to. Need a like button. ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/113 "2015-07-26T00:07:38Z")
> [@Flyer](#): > > And I’m gobsmacked that there are supposedly intelligent people, even here on the Straight Dope Message Board, who seemingly cannot understand that **actions deliberately done in public (a) have NO expectation of privacy, and (b) may have unpleasant consequences.** (a) No dispute, and (b) No dispute And still… None of that excuses the abominable behavior of twerps who read texts over strangers’ shoulders, let alone outing things like this for the world to see. Just because they can, you think it’s good? Sheesh. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/114 "2015-07-26T00:11:55Z")
> [@jsgoddess](#): > > I won’t because you’re not that interesting, and even were I fascinated, I do my best to ignore conversations that don’t involve me, avert my eyes from private moments, and respect the fact that I might be in close proximity to someone but that doesn’t mean I should intrude on them any more than I have to. Said it better than I could have. Courtesy and etiquette are not lost arts. ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/115 "2015-07-26T00:18:37Z")
> [@DigitalC](#): > > Helping someone is always going to be messing around with their private life. Hear your neighbors having a knock-down battle with yelling and screaming and crying for help? Maybe, with just a little common sense, you would call the police. See your neighbor lady inviting the mail-man in while the Mr. is at work? Maybe, with just a little common sense, you’d keep your mouf shut. Look, I used to be a sysadmin. Mal-addressed e-mails tended to get automatically forwarded to the root account, which came to me. I looked at those e-mails because I could often tell who they should have gone to, and I could forward them. I also found out things I shouldn’t have known. I knew who some of our gay employees were, in an era where that would likely have been very damaging. And you know what? I kept that stuff totally confidential and kept my big mouf shut. That was the professional thing to do, and it was also the common sense thing to do. If I had discovered some embezzling or under-the-table drug running, maybe I’d have let someone know. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/116 "2015-07-26T00:18:41Z")
> [@Ann\_Hedonia](#): > > Or what if the guy was an abusive husband and killed his wife after he found out? I’m firmly in the “mind your own business” camp. If I knew either party I might feel differently but doing something like that to two total strangers is playing with fire and it’s disingenuous to pretend that you were “helping” in some way. Ann, I agree with your conclusion; I just think is fair to show ALL the roots of that tree. Yes, the husband could have reacted with violence… BUT… so could the Lover (about to be cut off from sex) or even the wife (reduced to only having One penis to choose from that week). Purses carry guns too, even amongst Dodgers fans. Either way, yeah, you are right: somebody lit a fuse. That said, those barrels of powder were placed under that marriage long before the 2015 baseball season… ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 12:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/117 "2015-07-26T00:30:06Z")
> [@DigitalC](#): > > That guy certainly wanted help, did you not read the story? The sisters actually identified themselves to him. Then he texts them to ask for the pictures. Maybe he’s collecting evidence to sue their asses. The sisters even called them “hoes” in their public post? I could imagine a good healthy libel lawsuit coming out of this, if they wanted to pursue it. ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/118 "2015-07-26T00:33:36Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > I hope this is a wake up call for smart phone users. Use that thing in public and people will shoulder surf. They hear what you say on voice calls. Sometimes its so loud I hear the other person too. Its a modern day PITA, Nails on a Chalkboard ☹ > **Guaranteed**. Um, yeah. True enough. Protect yourself by being discreet with your phone in public, as you say you do. No argument there. There _will_ be nosy twits out there that do shit like that. That DOESN’T excuse nosy twits from what they did. ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/119 "2015-07-26T00:45:17Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > I’ve wondered how many copies of Lotus I helped sell between 87-92. I’d guess at least 50 or more. People were fascinated by spreadsheets. Mom and Pop businesses that needed to track expenses. Its boring at the airport and I didn’t mind showing them how quickly one could be set up. total the column. apply a discount. I saw it as an extension of my day job. > > The point being, I don’t object to shoulder surfing. Never have, never will. Read my screen all you want. I expect you too and assume you did. That’s reeeeeaaaalllllllllyyyyyyyy easy to say when you were doing those oh-soooo-embarrassing spreadsheets. Oh look, Twitterverse, there’s a guy in the airport doing spreadsheets! If you were viewing porn and your nearby shoulder-surfer started asking you about your favorite preferences in T&A pics, you might object. Of course, you wouldn’t be looking at stuff like that in public because you say you know how to protect yourself by not looking at stuff like that. Good for you. But like I wrote about the e-mails I saw as a sysadmin, when you oversee confidential stuff, _you keep it to yourself and keep your mouf shut._ ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/120 "2015-07-26T00:46:07Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > I’ve wondered how many copies of Lotus I helped sell between 87-92. I’d guess at least 50 or more. People were fascinated by spreadsheets. Mom and Pop businesses that needed to track expenses. Its boring at the airport and I didn’t mind showing them how quickly one could be set up. total the column. apply a discount. I saw it as an extension of my day job. > > The point being, I don’t object to shoulder surfing. Never have, never will. Read my screen all you want. I expect you too and assume you did. Keep fucking that chicken, **aceplace**. 😉 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142.md?page=7)