# Wife caught sexting lover while at Atlanta Braves game with clueless husband. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 25, 2015, 8:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142 "2015-07-25T08:18:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/121 "2015-07-26T00:49:23Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > Said it better than I could have. Courtesy and etiquette are not lost arts. Yes, yes it seems they almost are, and going fast. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/122 "2015-07-26T00:53:38Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > **I have my hands full keeping track of my own dick** ; I can’t imagine trying to monitor others. 😃 This board needs a thumbs up smilie. Or a dancing chicken. ---
**Author:** ![actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/actualliberalnotoneofthose)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/123 "2015-07-26T01:12:03Z")
> [@chappachula](#): > > Bad analogy—Pickpocketing is a criminal offence. > And you can be absolutely sure that you know the victim’s attitude—he will thank you for your assistance. > > Cheating is not a crime. And you can be absolutely sure that you know nothing about the vicitim’s attitude. He may not thank you at all–he may prefer to be cheated on _and never know about it_. Maybe your “assistance” will ruin his life–lead to public embarrassment, divorce, financial ruin, losing contact with his children, etc. > > You have no business interfering with the intimate private life of a total stranger. It’s much better to be exposed to STDs, possibly raise the offspring of another man as your own, etc. IMHO, it’s better to have information you need to make an, uh, informed decision. If you live in ignorance and choose to stay married to someone who is NOT committed to the marriage, I don’t see how that is a happy life at all. Maybe for people with very low self-esteem. Women initiate most divorces, and in many cases it’s after she’s been cheating and very likely leaving her husband (and kids in many cases) for the affair partner(s). A man in the situation, IMHO, is MUCH better off learning about the affair before the wife walks out and moves in with the other man and gets blindsided. Yes, some marriages might have an arrangement like Bill Cosby and his wife or the Clintons and the Kennedys and Royals, etc- but many people expect their spouses to be faithful and would want to know. As far as “humiliation” goes, the man (or woman) who does not know about the affair is already being humiliated. You can bet other people already know, and are probably talking about him behind his back. In many cases of infidelity, the cheater re-writes history, lies about the spouse to friends and family, etc. Some dude is already “lying naked” with his wife, and people KNOW. Her friends, sisters, maybe even HIS siblings and parents. perhaps they are on here right now saying “No, no don’t tell him about it. Cheating is only shameful for the person being cheated on. Everyone supports the cheater, and I’m sure the guy she’s cheating with is saving her from her abusive marriage, etc.” FWIW, “Exposure” is frequently the only way to save a marriage with infidelity, if the cheated spouse chooses to attempt such a thing. If he/she doesn’t, it’s also a good way to move on. Also, this forum’s posts and opinions on this subject in previous are overwhelmingly supportive of dishonesty in marriage, supportive of cheaters, and “shame” the victims. I find this completely bizarre. And anyone who would rather not know about being cheated on and stay in such a marriage is not only a cuckold but a willing on. You might as well place personal ads inviting dudes to bang your wife. ETA: That said, I am personally in a Mind your own business camp. I don’t even really believe in calling the police for anything at all. So, yeah. I would feel obligated if it’s a friend or family member though. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/124 "2015-07-26T01:16:04Z")
Nm. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/125 "2015-07-26T01:17:18Z")
> [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](#): > > It’s much better to be exposed to STDs, possibly raise the offspring of another man as your own, etc. > > IMHO, it’s better to have information you need to make an, uh, informed decision. If you live in ignorance and choose to stay married to someone who is NOT committed to the marriage, I don’t see how that is a happy life at all. Maybe for people with very low self-esteem. > > Women initiate most divorces, and in many cases it’s after she’s been cheating and very likely leaving her husband (and kids in many cases) for the affair partner(s). A man in the situation, IMHO, is MUCH better off learning about the affair before the wife walks out and moves in with the other man and gets blindsided. Yes, some marriages might have an arrangement like Bill Cosby and his wife or the Clintons and the Kennedys and Royals, etc- but many people expect their spouses to be faithful and would want to know. > > As far as “humiliation” goes, the man (or woman) who does not know about the affair is already being humiliated. You can bet other people already know, and are probably talking about him behind his back. In many cases of infidelity, the cheater re-writes history, lies about the spouse to friends and family, etc. Some dude is already “lying naked” with his wife, and people KNOW. Her friends, sisters, maybe even HIS siblings and parents. perhaps they are on here right now saying “No, no don’t tell him about it. Cheating is only shameful for the person being cheated on. Everyone supports the cheater, and I’m sure the guy she’s cheating with is saving her from her abusive marriage, etc.” > > FWIW, “Exposure” is frequently the only way to save a marriage with infidelity, if the cheated spouse chooses to attempt such a thing. If he/she doesn’t, it’s also a good way to move on. > > Also, this forum’s posts and opinions on this subject in previous are overwhelmingly supportive of dishonesty in marriage, supportive of cheaters, and “shame” the victims. I find this completely bizarre. > > And anyone who would rather not know about being cheated on and stay in such a marriage is not only a cuckold but a willing on. You might as well place personal ads inviting dudes to bang your wife. If you’re a relative or close friend of the cheatee, I can see where you’re coming from. If you’re a stranger looking over someone’s shoulder at a ballgame, then MYOFB. And I hit submit after you edited your post, so we’re in agreement with each other. ---
**Author:** ![splatterpunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3be4f8/32.png) [@splatterpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/splatterpunk)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/126 "2015-07-26T01:21:43Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > I’m not back pedaling. I fully support letting the husband know… I’m glad you feel that way. Now, about your wife’s Wednesday night “Bible Study” meetings… ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/127 "2015-07-26T01:28:19Z")
> [@kayT](#): > > Well, I for one appreciate this thread. Now I know who thinks snooping and interfering in other people’s business is admirable behavior, and who does not. A lot of the Dope’s inhabitants serve as a cautionary tale on how not to behave if you want to be seen as a functioning, decent member of society. I appreciate the constant reminders they provide for everyone. Don’t you? ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/128 "2015-07-26T01:30:41Z")
> [@Locrian](#): > > This. > > I’m betting we find out that the wife was screwing with the teens seated behind them. Or they all knew each other and pulled a prank. > > Why would UK’s The Daily Mail be the big resource on this story from a baseball game anyway? All the other cites I’ve seen quote the Mail story. Yeah. I can see how the wife (if she really was that) could’ve overheard their rude asses, texted her friend to say, “Let’s fuck with them.” and then proceeded to enjoy the nonsense between them all and her husband (or whatever). Maybe nosy girls were real life trolled. Wouldn’t that be a hoot? ---
**Author:** ![BlankSlate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blankslate/32/80_2.png) [@BlankSlate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlankSlate)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/129 "2015-07-26T02:28:27Z")
This is no different than the creeps who follow women around, taking upskirt pics and posting them online. ---
**Author:** ![Jophiel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jophiel/32/66_2.png) [@Jophiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jophiel)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/130 "2015-07-26T03:00:35Z")
Maybe it wasn’t “their business”. But it’s the husband’s business and he seemed happy with the two women injecting themselves into it so I can’t fault them if he isn’t going to. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/131 "2015-07-26T03:52:58Z")
> [@Jophiel](#): > > Maybe it wasn’t “their business”. But it’s the husband’s business and he seemed happy with the two women injecting themselves into it so I can’t fault them if he isn’t going to. aceplace doesn’t mind if people read over his shoulder, but that doesn’t mean that I have to think reading over someone’s shoulder is okay. Just because some people are okay with things doesn’t mean that I think those things are necessarily polite. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/132 "2015-07-26T04:18:59Z")
> [@BlankSlate](#): > > This is no different than the creeps who follow women around, taking upskirt pics and posting them online. Well if people are going to be wearing skirts outdoors they should realize that they are exposing themselves to anyone with an arm and a camera. It’s been that way for as long as there’s been arms and cameras. I should know, I have both. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/133 "2015-07-26T04:24:02Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > Well if people are going to be wearing skirts outdoors they should realize that they are exposing themselves to anyone with an arm and a camera. It’s been that way for as long as there’s been arms and cameras. I should know, I have both. One time I was on the subway and a guy came up and asked to take a photo of my skirt, b/c he thought it was so pretty. I said yes, and we struck up a friendly conversation. Thus, no one else can possibly have a bad experience with men photographing their skirts on the subway. Nope. ---
**Author:** ![Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilarity_n.suze/32/6223_2.png) [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 4:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/134 "2015-07-26T04:27:06Z")
There is always something about these stories that makes me wonder. In this case, what I wonder is: If people in a row behind this couple could read the texts, why could the man beside her not read the damn texts as well? Now maybe I missed something. Maybe he was blind. Maybe he was really into the game. But… ---
**Author:** ![gladtobeblazed](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/85f322/32.png) [@gladtobeblazed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gladtobeblazed)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/135 "2015-07-26T04:40:13Z")
They intentionally recorded a private conversation between two people. We need to update our wiretapping laws to make this illegal. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/136 "2015-07-26T04:57:32Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > I’ve wondered how many copies of Lotus I helped sell between 87-92. I’d guess at least 50 or more. People were fascinated by spreadsheets. Mom and Pop businesses that needed to track expenses. Its boring at the airport and I didn’t mind showing them how quickly one could be set up. total the column. apply a discount. I saw it as an extension of my day job. > > The point being, I don’t object to shoulder surfing. Never have, never will. Read my screen all you want. I expect you too and assume you did. What the absolute …WHAT does this have to do with invading someone’s space and splashing their business all over the internet? ---
**Author:** ![Inna\_Minnit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Inna\_Minnit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inna_Minnit)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 5:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/137 "2015-07-26T05:54:49Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > I’ve had a few room numbers slipped (maybe six in 25 years) to me at conferences. Threw them straight into the trash after the woman was out of sight. Room numbers, restraining orders. Tomato, tomahto. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 5:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/138 "2015-07-26T05:56:58Z")
> [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](#): > > It’s much better to be exposed to STDs, possibly raise the offspring of another man as your own, etc. > > IMHO, it’s better to have information you need to make an, uh, informed decision. If you live in ignorance and choose to stay married to someone who is NOT committed to the marriage, I don’t see how that is a happy life at all. Maybe for people with very low self-esteem. > > Women initiate most divorces, and in many cases it’s after she’s been cheating and very likely leaving her husband (and kids in many cases) for the affair partner(s). A man in the situation, IMHO, is MUCH better off learning about the affair before the wife walks out and moves in with the other man and gets blindsided. Yes, some marriages might have an arrangement like Bill Cosby and his wife or the Clintons and the Kennedys and Royals, etc- but many people expect their spouses to be faithful and would want to know. > > As far as “humiliation” goes, the man (or woman) who does not know about the affair is already being humiliated. You can bet other people already know, and are probably talking about him behind his back. In many cases of infidelity, the cheater re-writes history, lies about the spouse to friends and family, etc. Some dude is already “lying naked” with his wife, and people KNOW. Her friends, sisters, maybe even HIS siblings and parents. perhaps they are on here right now saying “No, no don’t tell him about it. Cheating is only shameful for the person being cheated on. Everyone supports the cheater, and I’m sure the guy she’s cheating with is saving her from her abusive marriage, etc.” > > FWIW, “Exposure” is frequently the only way to save a marriage with infidelity, if the cheated spouse chooses to attempt such a thing. If he/she doesn’t, it’s also a good way to move on. > > Also, this forum’s posts and opinions on this subject in previous are overwhelmingly supportive of dishonesty in marriage, supportive of cheaters, and “shame” the victims. I find this completely bizarre. > > And anyone who would rather not know about being cheated on and stay in such a marriage is not only a cuckold but a willing on. You might as well place personal ads inviting dudes to bang your wife. > > ETA: That said, I am personally in a Mind your own business camp. I don’t even really believe in calling the police for anything at all. So, yeah. I would feel obligated if it’s a friend or family member though. I too am quite shocked at the posts here that are supportive of the woman’s dishonesty and deceit. That photo of her arm around her husband moments before tweeting really bothered me. I’ve seen the word moralist thrown around. This isn’t about a religious view of marriage or supporting society’s view of morality. imho This is a clear cut betrayal of trust. A spouse is your best friend, confidant, the person that stands by your side when things get tough. What that lady did goes beyond carrying on an affair. Its like she’s mocking him by cuddling in his arms and carrying on right under his nose. It’s disturbing and cruel. I’d say exactly the same thing if its the guy doing that to his wife. The husband might get violent has been raised. Really? reverse sexism on the SDMB? He’s a guy and naturally he’ll beat her up. People played that card in this thread and it went unchallenged. Fixate on the relatively minor violation of personal space and the ill-advised internet posting all you want. I find it quite sad that people here, and other places I checked feel that’s the most important issue. This is one time I don’t mind being on the unpopular side of an issue. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/139 "2015-07-26T06:27:46Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > I too am quite shocked at the posts here that are supportive of the woman’s dishonesty and deceit. Not one single person here has supported the woman cheating on her husband. Not. One. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 7:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/140 "2015-07-26T07:06:55Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > This is one time I don’t mind being on the unpopular side of an issue. Yes, why should this time be any different? :rolleyes: [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142.md?page=8)