# Wife caught sexting lover while at Atlanta Braves game with clueless husband. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 25, 2015, 8:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142 "2015-07-25T08:18:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![leftfield6](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leftfield6/32/18780_2.png) [@leftfield6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leftfield6)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 9:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/141 "2015-07-26T09:57:01Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > I too am quite shocked at the posts here that are supportive of the woman’s dishonesty and deceit > > This is one time I don’t mind being on the unpopular side of an issue. I find it amazing that you can clearly understand what is on a tiny screen in some one else’s hand, but so totally not get the point in this thread. I know what I have to do. I need to summarize this thread into a few text sized nuggets and have someone read them over my shoulder while at a baseball game. They in turn post pictures up on Twitter, along with lots of emoticons and smugness. That kind is stupid lowbrow thing is sure to get picked up by your favorite sources. Yep the Daily News and Daily Mail will be all over that. Then you can read it and immediately start a thread about it. And we will be right back here. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 1:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/142 "2015-07-26T13:07:39Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > I too am quite shocked at the posts here that are supportive of the woman’s dishonesty and deceit. That photo of her arm around her husband moments before tweeting really bothered me. Really? Who is supportive of her dishonesty? ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 1:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/143 "2015-07-26T13:17:48Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > I too am quite shocked at the posts here that are supportive of the woman’s dishonesty and deceit. Cite? Can you point to the bad man’s post that said this? The fact that you can read what people have said and this is your take away is . . . disconcerting at best. ---
**Author:** ![kayT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayt/32/3633_2.png) [@kayT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayT)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 1:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/144 "2015-07-26T13:31:30Z")
Disconcerting, yet not surprising. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 1:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/145 "2015-07-26T13:40:57Z")
Let’s assume that the woman in question is the most duplicitous cockmonster in the whole world. When did it become the duty of total strangers to do anything about it? Gossips and scolds have never been esteemed, and for very good reason. ---
**Author:** ![Flyer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/flyer/32/7298_2.png) [@Flyer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flyer)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/146 "2015-07-26T13:50:32Z")
> [@BlankSlate](#): > > This is no different than the creeps who follow women around, taking upskirt pics and posting them online. Incorrect. The ONLY way it could be the same would be if a woman wears a skirt and **deliberately** shows her panties, and somebody takes a picture of that. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 1:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/147 "2015-07-26T13:51:45Z")
> [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](#): > > It’s much better to be exposed to STDs, possibly raise the offspring of another man as your own, etc. You’re acting as if the only two choices here were: a) To stay silent or b) to expose this woman to the WORLD. Surely you could have come up with a solution that satisfies both your conscience AND this couple’s privacy. Because even if you think that SHE deserves to be exposed to the entire world, HE clearly does not. > [@](#): > > As far as “humiliation” goes, the man (or woman) who does not know about the affair is already being humiliated. You can bet other people already know, and are probably talking about him behind his back. You don’t know ANYTHING about this couple. You don’t know what prompted her to have an affair. Maybe he cheated on her first. We have no idea. And if you cannot appreciate the difference between a private humiliation and a public humiliation, I hope your next boss fires you via a billboard posted on the most heavily traveled highway in your town, with you unnamed but photographed from behind. You know, to protect your privacy. > [@](#): > > Also, this forum’s posts and opinions on this subject in previous are overwhelmingly supportive of dishonesty in marriage, supportive of cheaters, and “shame” the victims. I find this completely bizarre. I’d find this to bizarre, too, if such a thread actually existed. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/148 "2015-07-26T13:52:44Z")
> [@Flyer](#): > > Incorrect. > > The ONLY way it could be the same would be if a woman wears a skirt and **deliberately** shows her panties, and somebody takes a picture of that. No, it’s more like if she sat on a bench with a gap on it, someone noticed something she thought was private was visible and took a photo of that, and spread it around. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/149 "2015-07-26T14:00:58Z")
Unless invited, don’t read what’s on my phone. Period. Seriously, if I had read something on a strangers phone, I’d be too embarrassed to tell anyone. You don’t accidentally read the e-mail of someone sitting in front of you. If your eyes dart in that direction, you glance away before you’ve had time to read what’s there. Anything more is prying into something private. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/150 "2015-07-26T14:23:58Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Cite? Can you point to the bad man’s post that said this? > > The fact that you can read what people have said and this is your take away is . . . disconcerting at best. That’s his typical level of reading comprehension. Why try to actually understand something before you go off half-cocked spouting an uniformed opinion? That would take all the fun out of being a knee-jerk bloviator. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/151 "2015-07-26T14:49:01Z")
> [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](#): > > Unless invited, don’t read what’s on my phone. Period. > > Seriously, if I had read something on a strangers phone, I’d be too embarrassed to tell anyone. > > You don’t accidentally read the e-mail of someone sitting in front of you. If your eyes dart in that direction, you glance away before you’ve had time to read what’s there. Anything more is prying into something private. Yeah, this. Growing up, I remember being told that it was rude to read over someone’s shoulder. That was in a print context (reading a book over someone’s shoulder), but it applies to pretty much anything. Maybe the rest of the world didn’t get the memo… ---
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/152 "2015-07-26T16:01:49Z")
> [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](#): > > It’s much better to be exposed to STDs, possibly raise the offspring of another man as your own, etc. > > IMHO, it’s better to have information you need to make an, uh, informed decision. This still doesn’t explain why the story had to end up on the internet for the whole world to read. It would only justify informing the husband. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/153 "2015-07-26T16:50:57Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Yeah, this. Growing up, I remember being told that it was rude to read over someone’s shoulder. That was in a print context (reading a book over someone’s shoulder), but it applies to pretty much anything. Maybe the rest of the world didn’t get the memo… What’s funny is that \*\*ace \*\*usually is bemoaning the passing of “the good old days” - where people, for instance, had manners. But this time he’s flipping the script and saying we all need to get with the program and realize we’re in the damned future and we’d better get used to it. ---
**Author:** ![sparky\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/77aa72/32.png) [@sparky\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sparky_1)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/154 "2015-07-26T18:32:02Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > What’s funny is that \*\*ace \*\*usually is bemoaning the passing of “the good old days” - where people, for instance, had manners. But this time he’s flipping the script and saying we all need to get with the program and realize we’re in the damned future and we’d better get used to it. The need to inflict morals on others always trumps manners and such. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/155 "2015-07-26T19:44:36Z")
> [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](#): > > Unless invited, don’t read what’s on my phone. Period. > > Seriously, if I had read something on a strangers phone, I’d be too embarrassed to tell anyone. > > You don’t accidentally read the e-mail of someone sitting in front of you. If your eyes dart in that direction, you glance away before you’ve had time to read what’s there. Anything more is prying into something private. Exactly. Yes, sometimes it’s impossible not to be aware of someone else’s private moment. But this idea that because you can intrude you are justified in intruding is simply not okay. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2015, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/156 "2015-07-26T23:17:48Z")
I am nosy, but I wouldn’t invade someone’s privacy like that. Sadly, to my shame, now that the privacy has been invaded – I would _like_ to be able to read the messages that are in green - the ones from “Mark Allen”/“Nancy.” ---
**Author:** ![Nema98](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/d2c977/32.png) [@Nema98](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nema98)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2015, 12:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/157 "2015-07-27T00:31:25Z")
Yes being a cuckold is painful, at least for normal majority of men and not those who get off from their wives cheating on them. But he is not a fool because he did not know, I think you are a fool when you know and turn a blind eye. Hopefully he leaves her. Shame on the wife. Trust is everything in a marriage. ---
**Author:** ![fjs1fs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/9e8a1a/32.png) [@fjs1fs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fjs1fs)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2015, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/158 "2015-07-27T18:16:43Z")
> [@Frank](#): > > Yes, many. My attention is going to be on the field. Someone’s phone may be in my field of vision, but that doesn’t force me to concentrate on it. I’m literate; I’m also not interested in what someone else has on their phone. > > I can’t believe this is a thing these days, that everybody runs around looking at everybody else’s phone. That’s rude and ill-mannered. And SO MUCH WORSE than people who fuck around on their long term spouses!!! ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2015, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/159 "2015-07-27T18:17:41Z")
> [@fjs1fs](#): > > And SO MUCH WORSE than people who fuck around on their long term spouses!!! Again, no one is excusing any infidelity by the wife. ---
**Author:** ![fjs1fs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/9e8a1a/32.png) [@fjs1fs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fjs1fs)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2015, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142/160 "2015-07-27T18:31:08Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > Again, no one is excusing any infidelity by the wife. But by focusing one’s response on how bad the actions of the two nosy snoopers were it implies that theirs was the more bothersome transgression. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142.md?page=7) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wife-caught-sexting-lover-while-at-atlanta-braves-game-with-clueless-husband/726142.md?page=9)