# Will I know if someone 'pits' me? **URL:** \ **Category:** About This Message Board\ **Created:** [August 26, 2005, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799 "2005-08-26T21:41:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![pinkfreud](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pinkfreud/32/17603_2.png) [@pinkfreud](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pinkfreud)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2005, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/1 "2005-08-26T21:41:38Z")
A non-admirer mentioned in an email that he thought I was likely to be ‘pitted’ someday. Just wondering: if someone starts a thread in the BBQ Pit which complains about another Doper, is the subject of the pitting typically notified of the existence of the thread? I don’t routinely go to the Pit. ---
**Author:** ![Scott\_Plaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Scott\_Plaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scott_Plaid)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2005, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/2 "2005-08-26T21:53:54Z")
Usually, if they want you to know, they will link to it in the thread that started the whole thing. If they don’t and you don’t notice it, no big deal. > [@TVeblen](#): > > People aren’t required to participate in a Pitting in their ‘honor’. Their absence rather echoes but so it goes. Posters can decide for themselves about what non-particpation means, if anything. Could be holding onself above the fray; could be avoidance of consequences. At any rate, that’s up to the reader to decide. It’s one case where what’s not written is weighed along with what is. [Linky](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=297278). ---
**Author:** ![pinkfreud](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pinkfreud/32/17603_2.png) [@pinkfreud](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pinkfreud)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2005, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/3 "2005-08-26T21:57:40Z")
Thanks, **Scott**. I appreciate the info. ---
**Author:** ![TubaDiva](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tubadiva/32/507_2.png) [@TubaDiva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TubaDiva)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2005, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/4 "2005-08-26T22:27:06Z")
And the Straight Dope nurse will come by your house to pull that knife out of your back, no charge. your humble TubaDiva ---
**Author:** ![pinkfreud](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pinkfreud/32/17603_2.png) [@pinkfreud](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pinkfreud)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2005, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/5 "2005-08-26T22:31:02Z")
> [@TubaDiva](#): > > And the Straight Dope nurse will come by your house to pull that knife out of your back, no charge. > > your humble TubaDiva LOL! It’s nice to get some aftercare. I love this place. ---
**Author:** ![Dark\_Side\_of\_the\_Floyd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bb73d2/32.png) [@Dark\_Side\_of\_the\_Floyd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dark_Side_of_the_Floyd)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2005, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/6 "2005-08-27T00:37:39Z")
Why would anyone Pit you? ---
**Author:** ![pinkfreud](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pinkfreud/32/17603_2.png) [@pinkfreud](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pinkfreud)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2005, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/7 "2005-08-27T01:57:10Z")
> [@DarkSideoftheFloyd](#): > > Why would anyone Pit you? Damfino. I am an ol’ sweetie pie. And so humble, too. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![roger\_thornhill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/d9b06d/32.png) [@roger\_thornhill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/roger_thornhill)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2005, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/8 "2005-08-27T02:07:05Z")
Could be one of Pinkers’s flames from her wild psychedelic days. Or the beads’ salesman come back for payment… _:: Eleanor Bron voice from **Absolutely Fabulous** : “Take it away…and bring me another lover!”::_ ---
**Author:** ![pinkfreud](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pinkfreud/32/17603_2.png) [@pinkfreud](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pinkfreud)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2005, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/9 "2005-08-27T02:52:09Z")
Ah, yes, those wild psychedelic days. I barely remember them, but the shocking photos are all over the Internet… ---
**Author:** ![Jet\_Jaguar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jet_jaguar/32/3562_2.png) [@Jet\_Jaguar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jet_Jaguar)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2005, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/10 "2005-08-27T03:28:12Z")
I was Pitted once. Didn’t find out for like a year and a half. I rarely read the BBQ Pit, I stumbled onto it when someone asked in some thread if anyone had ever been Pitted or something. Didn’t think I was but searched to make sure and turns out I had unwittingly offended someone a couple of times. ---
**Author:** ![Laughing\_Lagomorph](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Laughing\_Lagomorph](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Laughing_Lagomorph)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2005, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/11 "2005-08-28T01:11:39Z")
> [@Jet Jaguar](#): > > I was Pitted once. Didn’t find out for like a year and a half. > … I was pitted once. In 1960. For 20 minutes. **Pinkfreud** I doubt you have anything to worry about. ---
**Author:** ![Shalmanese](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shalmanese](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shalmanese)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2005, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/12 "2005-08-28T01:57:15Z")
Usually, it’s good manners for the pitter to leave a note to the pitee in the thread that sparked the pit thread. Otherwise, you can occasionally run vanity searches by putting your name in the keyword section and finding any threads you don’t remember posting in. ---
**Author:** ![Derleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Derleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Derleth)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2005, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/13 "2005-08-28T02:54:14Z")
Being pitted doesn’t really matter: Nobody ever got banned for being pitted. A lot of people got pitted for behavior that later got them banned, but the pitting itself was irrelevant to the later banning. If you put in an appearance at your own pitting, it is at your option and probably won’t make much of a difference unless you undergo a complete meltdown. ---
**Author:** ![kniz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c37758/32.png) [@kniz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kniz)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2005, 5:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/14 "2005-08-28T05:40:39Z")
:rolleyes: **I was pitted twice, for this.** ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 11:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/15 "2005-08-29T11:58:29Z")
> [@Dark Side of the Floyd](#): > > Why would anyone Pit you? I was wondering the same thing. ---
**Author:** ![glee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b5a626/32.png) [@glee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/glee)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 12:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/16 "2005-08-29T12:55:40Z")
As far as I know, I’ve only been Pitted once. :eek: And the perpetrator was Banned soon after, anyway. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Askia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/96bed5/32.png) [@Askia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askia)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2005, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/17 "2005-08-29T14:53:17Z")
I pitted **glee** once, but it was an accident. Aaaaaaaand I’m still around. An oversight, surely. ---
**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2005, 7:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/18 "2005-08-30T07:44:01Z")
I was pitted once. The person who did it had searched the internet, found my real name and phone number, then called me to complain about a comment I’d made. He pitted me for hanging up on him… He’s gone now. ---
**Author:** ![Sarah\_Woodruff](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df788c/32.png) [@Sarah\_Woodruff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sarah_Woodruff)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2005, 8:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/19 "2005-08-30T08:24:33Z")
> [@Dark Side of the Floyd](#): > > Why would anyone Pit you? Add me to the list of people who are thinking this. You have to be one of the most charming, least irritating members of this board, **pinkfreud**. Pitting you would be like pitting Aung San Suu Kyi. Whoever your maggoty little ‘unadmirer’ is, he’s probably jealous of the fact that, even after having to deal with several of the major shocks that flesh is heir to, you still seem to be a non-bitter, intelligent, thoughtful and sweet person. ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2005, 9:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799/20 "2005-08-30T09:52:34Z")
> [@picunurse](#): > > I was pitted once. The person who did it had searched the internet, found my real name and phone number, then called me to complain about a comment I’d made. > He pitted me for hanging up on him… > He’s gone now. That is scary. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-i-know-if-someone-pits-me/318799.md?page=2)