# Will oral sex change a man's mind? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 30, 2003, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639 "2003-01-30T16:10:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Manduck](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/manduck/32/256_2.png) [@Manduck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Manduck)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 6:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/41 "2003-01-31T06:42:02Z")
There is NOTHING that feels like a good blowjob! I can’t even describe it. ---
**Author:** ![MeanJoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanjoe/32/5693_2.png) [@MeanJoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanJoe)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 7:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/42 "2003-01-31T07:13:52Z")
Um… I’ll get tossed out of here for this but: First relationship involving sex and my SO would not perform oral to completion. Just foreplay to get things pointing in the proper direction for other activities. I was okay with this, trying to be a gentleman about it and not pushing the issue. Then after that relationship ended, for entirely unrelated reasons, I got my first complete blow-job and well… I’m not -exactly- saying it would be reason to leave a relationship but it would be highly unlikely I’d be in a relationship without it. Mean “Returns the favor!” Joe ---
**Author:** ![Washte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/dc4da7/32.png) [@Washte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Washte)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 9:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/43 "2003-01-31T09:25:13Z")
> [@](#): > > Why _are_ blowjobs such a big deal? They are very special indeed. There are myriad reasons why - from psychological to sensual. \*Trust is a major part of it. \*Being able to relax enough to truly enjoy it - and perhaps actually climax (some men can’t though oral alone). \*Remember - men are visual. Being able to watch a woman perform on him is very stimulating. \*It feels bloody fantastic (or so I’ve been told ;)) Also if a woman enjoys giving, it can be the biggest turn on for her as well. ---
**Author:** ![EhhMon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ce73a5/32.png) [@EhhMon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EhhMon)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 10:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/44 "2003-01-31T10:54:31Z")
Depends on what kind of blow job you get… Let me tell you, there are blow jobs, and there are BLOW JOBS, not the kind that will make you slap your MAMA, but the kind that will make you leave your WIFE!!! ---
**Author:** ![DougC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7feea3/32.png) [@DougC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DougC)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 11:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/45 "2003-01-31T11:01:32Z")
> [@](#): > > There is NOTHING that feels like a good **head** job! I can’t even describe it. - - - I second that emotion. It feels fantastic, and there simply isn’t anything else even remotely similar. Is it fun for the woman? I don’t care, it’s not for her. It’s all about being willing to do something just because of how good it makes the other person feel. And about taking turns, of course. * * * ## Important Consumer Information: Where I come from, a “head job” is _suction_, and a “blow job” is _moistening with blowing_. Like, alternately, for that cold feeling of, I don’t know, something that’s supposed to be really sexy or something. “Blow jobs” do nothing for me, “head jobs” are what I refuse to live without. . > [@](#): > > If men could teach themselves to give themselves blowjobs more marriages would survive. . -And a guy can’t do it properly to himself, silly! The tongue’s gotta rub on the _underside_. ~ ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 12:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/46 "2003-01-31T12:57:28Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Washte \* > \*\*The pen(is) is mightier than the sword 😃 \*\* Only if the sword is very blunt, or the penis is very large. …You were talking about fighting duels, weren’t you? ---
**Author:** ![Oblong](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/c0e974/32.png) [@Oblong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oblong)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 2:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/47 "2003-01-31T14:07:33Z")
Question: Does it only become a blow job when done to completion? The word “Job” to me means that there should be a goal or end result, otherwise it’s just oral sex. Make sense? Either way, every encounter begins with the hope that I’ll get oral sex. Don’t always do obviously but that just makes it better for when I do. As much as it pains me to say it, less is more. If I got one every day or even 3 times a week, it’d get boring. I was going to describe the ideal blowjob but this isn’t Penthouse Forum. The key to enjoying them is to relax. Ladies, make your man at leastthink you enjoy doing it and that you want nothing more than for him to feel at his best for the next 10-15 minutes. ---
**Author:** ![Gorgon\_Heap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f475e1/32.png) [@Gorgon\_Heap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorgon_Heap)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/48 "2003-01-31T14:40:43Z")
I cannot add anything that has not already been said, but I do have to tell you … I am really missing my wife right now. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Blue\_Sky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d26b3c/32.png) [@Mr.Blue\_Sky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Blue_Sky)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/49 "2003-01-31T14:46:10Z")
**Will oral sex change a man’s mind?** yes, yes, yes, Yes, Yes, YEs, YEs, YES, YES, YES, YES…no. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/50 "2003-01-31T17:06:35Z")
"Question: Does it only become a blow job when done to completion? " That is a great line to give the wifey. ‘Oh, I didn’t have oral sex with her because it wasn’t done to completion, so I’ve been faithful’ 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Sejal\_Traurig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Sejal\_Traurig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sejal_Traurig)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/51 "2003-01-31T17:21:04Z")
I admit… There is one woman from my past who, were she to offer oral, could change my mind about a great many things… I believe someone above referred to it as “Porn Star Head” ---
**Author:** ![Oblong](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/c0e974/32.png) [@Oblong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oblong)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/52 "2003-01-31T17:48:14Z")
> [@](#): > > "Question: Does it only become a blow job when done to completion? " > > That is a great line to give the wifey. ‘Oh, I didn’t have oral sex with her because it wasn’t done to completion, so I’ve been faithful’ 🙂 I’m comparing the terms Oral Sex and blowjob. To me, it’s only a blowjob if taken to completion. Otherwise, it’s Oral Sex. If during foreplay I get a little oral sex to “Warm up”, but we have intercourse, I don’t consider that “getting a blowjob”. It’s still nice obviously, just I wouldn’t use taht term. I like threads about oral sex. ---
**Author:** ![Goofus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7feea3/32.png) [@Goofus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Goofus)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/53 "2003-01-31T17:58:08Z")
When I started reading this thread, I was interested. Then I got more interested, then VERY interested, then suddenly I lost interest. ---
**Author:** ![Tomcat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Tomcat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tomcat)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/54 "2003-01-31T18:09:13Z")
Yes. If a blowjob meant nothing, then there wouldn’t be any reason NOT to do it. I was in a very intense relationship that gave blowjobs in the beginning, but then left me high and dry. She loved me going down on her, but she never reciprocated. I went through a tough time wondering if lack of oral sex was worth giving up a relationship, and I determined, for myself, that that is true. It feels entirely too good for me to go without for the rest of my life. I am not going to be in a relationship where I only hope that I’ll get something that is A) normal, B) feels like heaven on earth, but is never given. That is it for me. It feels SO GOOD that going without it for 50 years (potentially) seems insane. Especially when I was doing it to her. How could she expect to get that kind of wonderful feeling but not return it? In my experience, good sex did not always equal a good relationship, but bad sex most definitely equalled a bad relationship. This past girl led to a joke: What do manipulative bitches and carpentry floor-layers have in common? They both say “Lay 'em right the first time and you can walk on them for years.” THANK GOD I got out of that hell. I am extremely happy to say that I learned my lesson and am 6 years into a great marriage with the best blowjob giver I have ever met (as well as many other great things to say about her)! -Tcat ---
**Author:** ![Oblong](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/c0e974/32.png) [@Oblong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oblong)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/55 "2003-01-31T20:03:57Z")
Someone should market a sex video for couples and married people called “Porn Star Head”. I’ve never heard the term before but I certainly will introduce it to my wife. Some internet browsing will show her what it is. Just another twist to things. Save it for special occasions. Blow Jobs in the shower are wonderful too but it’s hard to finish because of the heat and the fact I’m standing. But the wife loves them because she can just “stand, rinse” No repeat though. ---
**Author:** ![Washte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/dc4da7/32.png) [@Washte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Washte)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2003, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/56 "2003-01-31T21:16:11Z")
Porn Star BJ’s are stupid. All that slobbering, and big puppy dog eyes and… oh god… They are just ridiculous. Now, if a woman were really into it and getting off with it as much as he was, well… that’s another story. It should be good for both parties involved. If she is doing it just for the sake of shutting up his begging, of bloody course it’s not going to be as good as it could be… slurp slurp… stroke stroke… oh baby oh baby… Yeah. Does it for me :rolleyes: If you’re gonna do it. Do it right. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/57 "2003-02-01T00:56:21Z")
I’ve seen a topic here on the board from some guy who said he got married & wondered what happened to the Bj’s after marriage. ---
**Author:** ![Rubystreak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e5b9ba/32.png) [@Rubystreak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rubystreak)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/58 "2003-02-01T02:56:14Z")
I hope this question isn’t too entirely beyond the pale, but… how many men have tasted their own semen? Because if you haven’t, and called it good, how can you expect someone else to not only taste it but SWALLOW it on a fairly regular basis? The flavor of said fluid varies from guy to guy, but some are really biohazard, and how do you tell someone you love such a thing? Answer: you don’t. You just find ways to avoid… Which leads to another risque query: would you consider it a satisfactory blowjob if, at the moment of ejaculation, she let you come all over her, instead of just in her mouth? Because in my limited experience viewing Porn Star Head, that’s exactly what they do. They NEVER swallow b/c then, we’d all miss The Money Shot. So, how 'bout it, all you cats that demand PSH? Would you compromise on the Money Shot and call THAT good? ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/59 "2003-02-01T04:11:28Z")
As Dr. Einstein remarked to the elder Brewster in _Arsenic and Old Lace_, “When you make up your mind, you lose your head.” I guess that cuts both ways for some fellas. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 9:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639/60 "2003-02-01T09:19:30Z")
> [@](#): > > I’m not -exactly- saying it would be reason to leave a relationship but it would be highly unlikely I’d be in a relationship without it. I have to agree with this myself. Come to think of it I’ve never been in a LTR with a woman that _didn’t_ suck pipe. I also have to say that a woman going down, was never a deciding factor for me, but it surely didn’t hurt either. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/will-oral-sex-change-a-mans-mind/151639.md?page=4)