I have a somewhat overdeveloped sense of right and wrong, and yet I see absolutely no harm in wishing someone dead. I remember when I was about eight years old I wished fiercely for a certain girl’s death. In fact, I took fiendish delight in getting her best friend to help me plot out an entirely fictional “perfect murder” while I imagined that it was the evil girl herself who would be the victim. Heh, heh, heh.
More recently, I have on numerous times voiced the wish that a former boss of mine (at the company where I still work) would suffer an untimely death. At one point, because he frequently traveled on airplanes, I wished for his plane to crash, but then I realized that would do unnecessary harm to innocent bystanders, so I just started wishing that he would be struck by lightning while on the golf course, killing him instantly but harming no one else.
I should point out here that I am completely anti-violence and obedient to the law, and would never even think about acting on such a wish. In fact, that’s why most of my death wishes for people involve some external agent acting to cause the death (I never wish that I could shoot someone, for instance.)
This does not negate the fact that in certain instances, death wishes can be wrong.
If the death wish is designed specifically to incite violence, then that’s clearly wrong.
If the death wish is the result of bigotry, that is, wishing death on someone not because of his or her actions, but because of who he or she is, then that’s wrong because it’s bigotry.
If you express a death wish to someone in person, or to someone who cares about or supports the ideals of the person on whom you’re wishing death, then that’s just plain rude, and might even be dangerous.
A final thought. Every New Year’s, I make ten predictions. On of the ten is the “death prediction” (that a specific person will die in the coming year). One particularly gloomy year, I decided that all of my predictions should be for things that I truly wished for. When I came to the death prediction, I struggled. How could I sincerely wish for someone’s death? My prediction: Saddam Hussein.
Unfortunately, I failed to take into account the fact that in over 20 years, not a single one of my death predictions have ever come true. But I certainly didn’t feel bad about predicting Hussein’s demise.