Debaser, your system of categorization lacks sophistication. Presuming that you are sincere, I will respond.
No, I am not a pacifist, though I sincerely admire such moral rigor, I cannot adhere to it. I believe it is not sufficient to refrain from evil, evil must be actively resisted.
Hence, it is necessary to have a military, and a strong one. And I believe a military career to be a worthy, and honorable, option.
I believe we make a pact with our soldiers. They give up much autonomy and self-determination. We have a debt in return, that we will not send them in harm’s way for any reason short of necessity. I don’t honestly know which is worse: to send an honorable soldier to die for an ignoble cause, or to send him to kill for it. That is for the philosophers and theologians.
Further, I believe that a soldier has rights to moral decisions. I would, for instance, in the case of Bosnia, or any other military intervention based on humanitarian concerns and not directly related to national security, that individual soldiers have the right to volunteer or abstain, because that lies outside of the contract, since no plausible threat to the US from Bosnia exists. I would be very surprised if there were not enough volunteers, but if that is the case, then we are obliged to respect thier wishes.
The situation with Iraq does not meet those tests. The threat from Iraq is a presumption, not a fact. Further, I find the timing of the alleged “crisis” to be suspicious at best, appalling at worst.
As to war crimes, that is almost too simple. We do not have the right to wage war without just cause. The clairovoyance of our leaders do not constitute just cause, or the Nuremberg criminals might have been able to mount a defense against thier crimes by stating that they sincerely believed that Poland was a threat. Of course, that is absurd.
What makes a war crime a crime is not the loss of soldiers, though that is certainly something a moral and just nation should approach with great caution and dread. What makes it a crime is the deaths of thousands of non-combatants, corpses we cover with a shrug, “collatteral damage”, innocent people who will die for our country.
To oversimplify: I would prefer my country be willing to withstand an atrocity, than that it be willing to commit one. That is my patriotism, you must find your own.