# With whom would you share your problems? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 1, 2015, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097 "2015-10-01T00:51:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/1 "2015-10-01T00:51:01Z")
Your innermost problems and feelings. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/2 "2015-10-01T01:03:49Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Your innermost problems and feelings. A qualified therapist with whom I have a good rapport. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/3 "2015-10-01T01:25:32Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > A qualified therapist with whom I have a good rapport. When I had a therapist it was great. Before about 2010. ---
**Author:** ![madsircool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madsircool/32/3432_2.png) [@madsircool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madsircool)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/4 "2015-10-01T02:18:32Z")
Closest friends or better yet significant others. It builds intimacy. ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/5 "2015-10-01T02:24:16Z")
I have to vote for a complete stranger most likely of the opposite sex that I have almost a zero chance of ever seeing again. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/6 "2015-10-01T02:24:42Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > When I had a therapist it was great. Before about 2010. What is preventing you from seeing a therapist in 2015? ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/7 "2015-10-01T02:32:10Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > What is preventing you from seeing a therapist in 2015? I prefer not to discuss my dependence on my parents – I depend on them 100%. Sadly I am totally alone. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/8 "2015-10-01T02:33:11Z")
> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#): > > I have to vote for a complete stranger most likely of the opposite sex that I have almost a zero chance of ever seeing again. Unfortunately anyone online can be doxxed. ---
**Author:** ![madsircool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madsircool/32/3432_2.png) [@madsircool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madsircool)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/9 "2015-10-01T02:38:56Z")
> [@CCitizen](#): > > Unfortunately anyone online can be doxxed. In your situation woulkd it really matter? What harm could it do you? ---
**Author:** ![brovolone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a88e4f/32.png) [@brovolone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brovolone)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/10 "2015-10-01T02:39:05Z")
A forum. I couldn’t even open up to my psychologist properly. ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/11 "2015-10-01T02:46:26Z")
For deep innermost problems, my therapist is the first person I turn to. Followed by the internet. But I am really trying to get out of the habit of sharing my problems with anyone. I am somewhat unflappable, but I still fall short of how I’d like to be. I’d love to be able to channel all my negative emotions into productivity and creativity, instead of going through occasional bouts of useless sadness and frustration. I know bad feelings are inevitable and just a part of the process. But they make it hard to be completely independent of others. ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/12 "2015-10-01T02:58:31Z")
I think strangers are best for this sort of thing. You could sit next to someone on the bus and unload your innermost problems and feelings on them. But you’re housebound, so that won’t work. How about walking up to your next-door neighbor and talking to them? If they start to back away from you, make sure to follow them home, continuing to share your problems and feelings as they [DEL]get away[/DEL] step away from you. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/13 "2015-10-01T03:07:12Z")
Cleverbot, obviously. ---
**Author:** ![Mudshark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f04885/32.png) [@Mudshark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mudshark)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 7:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/14 "2015-10-01T07:28:28Z")
A close personal friend. ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/15 "2015-10-01T14:56:49Z")
I went with “Closest Friends” assuming that category would include my wife. ---
**Author:** ![Knorf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/58956e/32.png) [@Knorf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Knorf)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/16 "2015-10-01T15:02:29Z")
Mainly to myself. And my imaginary friend, Lothar the Llama Assassin. Or my wife and one or two closest friends, whichever. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/17 "2015-10-01T15:24:24Z")
You might want to re-think that - Lothar blabs everything you tell him to me. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/18 "2015-10-01T15:36:38Z")
Anyone interested in them (a presumably limited contingent, that). I value the right to privacy but I don’t have a particularly strong urge to exercise it. I have the odd and probably ridiculous tendency to think my thoughts and feelings are fascinating. ---
**Author:** ![Knorf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/58956e/32.png) [@Knorf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Knorf)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/19 "2015-10-01T15:46:54Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > You might want to re-think that - Lothar blabs everything you tell him to me. > > Regards, > Shodan I knew it! Lothar and I are going to have words. Words, I say! He didn’t tell you about that time in Newark, with the svelte pharmacist, flock of penguins, etc., did he? ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2015, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097/20 "2015-10-01T16:02:40Z")
Nobody knows the trouble I’ve seen. Nobody. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/with-whom-would-you-share-your-problems/733097.md?page=2)