# Wives that have lots of guy friends (or vice versa)

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [August 28, 2022, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wives-that-have-lots-of-guy-friends-or-vice-versa/970484 "2022-08-28T21:03:58Z")\
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**Post date:** [September 1, 2022, 12:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wives-that-have-lots-of-guy-friends-or-vice-versa/970484/33 "2022-09-01T12:54:49Z")

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> [@msmith537](#):
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> It just means that maybe you maintain those friendships in a way that doesn’t make your spouse think there is a credible risk of infidelity.

I’m sorry, but I reject this categorically. Infidelity is actual infidelity, not “credible risk of infidelity.” Life itself is a credible risk of infidelity. If there is no actual infidelity, then the person being “uncomfortable” has a problem. This problem shouldn’t restrict the other partner’s autonomy.

If this is the level of control governing a marriage, then it is–in my opinion–an unhealthy marriage.

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