# Woman blogs about sexual assault at tech conference **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 7, 2010, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-blogs-about-sexual-assault-at-tech-conference/559766 "2010-11-07T03:56:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 86
**Author:** ![Snowboarder\_Bo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowboarder_bo/32/229_2.png) [@Snowboarder\_Bo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snowboarder_Bo)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2010, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-blogs-about-sexual-assault-at-tech-conference/559766/86 "2010-11-08T17:12:29Z")
> [@tumbleddown](#): > > Here’s the thing, she tried to get away from him when he **kissed** her. Whether she fumbled away, shoved him away, tried to wiggle away (because he was holding onto her) or just turned her head away, whether she said “no” or “stop that” or “ick” or “gross” or “fuck off” or didn’t say anything with full words at all, she did not (or tried not to) let him continue to kiss her. _That alone is a pretty clear and key bit of evidence that she did not want him to try to jam his fingers into her vulva._ When someone turns down a _kiss_, it is **not reasonable** to assume that they’re okay with an act that is considerably more sexual, more invasive and more intimate. Normally I would agree with you, but what we have here is not fact, it’s a recollection by a woman who was inebriated. A woman who in the very next sentence admits that she may not have been clear in her verbal rebuke. The only reason I can see for her not clearly recollecting or not being clear in the first place is the alcohol she had imbibed. This calls into question both her recollection of “tried to push him off” and the action of pushing him off itself. Perhaps her “push” wasn’t much of a push: she was drunk at the time, and her memory of the incident is admittedly “not clear”. Also, as **bengangmo** points out, we only have her side of the story: an admittedly unclear recollection of at least some of the events, in which she is controlling the presentation and content. As such, I think it was stupid for this woman to post this to her blog. It’s going to affect her career, her social life, etc. If the guy is ever charged with a crime and found guilty, she’ll no doubt come out on top as a heroine of sorts. If he isn’t charged, or is charged and found innocent, she will prolly be seen as a pariah. Who wants to work with or be around someone who would attempt to destroy another person like that? Like her night of drinking, I don’t think she thought this through very well. --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-blogs-about-sexual-assault-at-tech-conference/559766)._