# Woman sets fire to husbands genitals **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 8, 2008, 10:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-sets-fire-to-husbands-genitals/476224 "2008-12-08T10:08:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Sunrazor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2acd7d/32.png) [@Sunrazor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunrazor)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2008, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-sets-fire-to-husbands-genitals/476224/41 "2008-12-09T03:33:38Z")
I think we’re confusing “deserved” with “provoked.” Does anyone really deserve to be shot, hacked, burned or beaten by another person? Of course not. Do people sometimes, by their own selfish, abusive, outrageous acts, provoke equally outrageous attacks? Almost certainly, they do. So then the question becomes, why is it funny when a man provokes a woman to attack and mutilate his genitals, but it’s outrageous when a woman provokes a man to beat her senseless. Both are unacceptable behavior, but one is treated with a wink and a slap, the other with imprisonment and social condemnation. I’m just sayin’. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2008, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-sets-fire-to-husbands-genitals/476224/42 "2008-12-09T03:42:19Z")
> [@Kalhoun](#): > > From your job…I thought you said you worked worked with domestic violence among the native population…_and I completely missed my own pun!_ I’m a lawyer with a family law practice in a region with a lot of aboriginal people. For example, today I was dealing with a matter in which one party was aboriginal while the other was not. In this case, the aboriginal female had assaulted the non-aboriginal male spouse in a drunken rage. Her background was that her father had been shot to death in a bar fight, her brother has lost body parts from frostbite due to passing out drunk in the winter and has been hospitalized for liver problems, her husband (not the non-aboriginal spouse) has have many very violent fights with her and has been stabbed by his aboriginal girlfriend , and her mother is a street drunk with whom she has had several very violent fights. Unfortunately, this is pretty typical.-- dealing with domestic violence, particularly in the aboriginal community, is a large part of my job. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2008, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-sets-fire-to-husbands-genitals/476224/43 "2008-12-09T04:07:07Z")
> [@Q.E.D](#): > > I don’t find the incident itself funny, either. I’ll thank you kindly not to ascribe motives to my response, and that goes for everyone else who has done so. I’m all for gallows humor. AIDS, 9/11… Bobbitt-style jokes just make me think too much of America’s Funniest Home videos or something. ---
**Author:** ![Influential\_Panda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Influential\_Panda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Influential_Panda)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2008, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-sets-fire-to-husbands-genitals/476224/44 "2008-12-09T04:09:14Z")
Guys, this is a stupid debate. We would all be cracking up if he set her weiner on fire. ---
**Author:** ![Lynn\_Bodoni](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e47c2d/32.png) [@Lynn\_Bodoni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lynn_Bodoni)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2008, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-sets-fire-to-husbands-genitals/476224/45 "2008-12-09T04:09:19Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > Thank you for posting those stats Muffin. > > As for the sexist response to this sort of thing, to me it feels like a bit of a holdover from when women basically had no recourse when it came to adultery or abuse– times (and current locations) where men could divorce, beat or cheat on their wives as they pleased but not vice versa. Overall, I find it as funny as prison rape (as in, not). My first reaction is to find it funny. However, I’m trying to grow beyond that, and see it as one human hurting another human. I’m still working on it. ---
**Author:** ![palacheck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a88e57/32.png) [@palacheck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/palacheck)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2008, 9:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-sets-fire-to-husbands-genitals/476224/46 "2008-12-09T09:07:10Z")
Since we’re on about gender equality, I’ll give the type of response you’d hear about a male abuser. I hope she gets thrown in prison and raped by Bertha with a splintered broomstick! ---
**Author:** ![placebo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e274bd/32.png) [@placebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/placebo)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2008, 2:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-sets-fire-to-husbands-genitals/476224/47 "2008-12-09T14:13:42Z")
> [@Muffin](#): > > The prime factors leading to aboriginal communities being violent places include economic and social depr **a** vation […] An unfortunate typo in an otherwise great post. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2008, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-sets-fire-to-husbands-genitals/476224/48 "2008-12-09T15:40:26Z")
> [@placebo](#): > > An unfortunate typo in an otherwise great post. Oops. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2008, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-sets-fire-to-husbands-genitals/476224/49 "2008-12-09T15:43:33Z")
Hey, all this talk about a woman setting a spouse’s parts on fire reminded me to bill out my file in which the female spouse is alleged to have tried to murder her spouse by setting the sauna on fire while he was in it. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/woman-sets-fire-to-husbands-genitals/476224.md?page=2)