# Women and cleavage **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 28, 2014, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892 "2014-06-28T22:16:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![occupant](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecc23a/32.png) [@occupant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/occupant)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/1 "2014-06-28T22:16:30Z")
Why do women like to show significant cleavage, but get ticked when men stare at it? ---
**Author:** ![Canadjun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/76d3ee/32.png) [@Canadjun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Canadjun)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/2 "2014-06-28T22:19:49Z")
reported for forum change ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/3 "2014-06-28T22:27:02Z")
Moving this to IMHO. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/4 "2014-06-28T22:29:36Z")
You’re expected to be a gentleman even while being a pig. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![chiroptera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@chiroptera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chiroptera)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/5 "2014-06-28T22:38:39Z")
> [@occupant](#): > > Why do women like to show significant cleavage, but get ticked when men stare at it? Do you have a cite for this? IME, most women who show cleavage are quite OK with being ogled. If you have proof of the contrary, please provide it, since you’re the one who is bringing the claim. Otherwise I’m calling a bullshit straw man. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/6 "2014-06-28T22:39:28Z")
I have a cartoon on my wall that shows a flat-chested woman sitting in a plastic surgeon’s office. She says “I want them big enough that I can yell at men for looking at them.” The caption is “Why men will never understand women.” 😉 But otherwise, what **running coach** said. ---
**Author:** ![Fuzzy\_Dunlop](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/848f3c/32.png) [@Fuzzy\_Dunlop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fuzzy_Dunlop)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/7 "2014-06-28T22:41:29Z")
> [@occupant](#): > > Why do women like to show significant cleavage, but get ticked when men stare at it? Because it’s rude to stare. More importantly, you probably just aren’t one of the men that particular woman wanted to entice. If you’re at home alone with your wife, does she get ticked when you admire her body? I’d hope not. ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/8 "2014-06-28T22:46:28Z")
Because you’re supposed to be discreet about these things.[If you’re doing it like this](http://37.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lppxsx3FdE1qfeilqo1_400.jpg), you’re doing it wrong.😉 ---
**Author:** ![occupant](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecc23a/32.png) [@occupant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/occupant)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/9 "2014-06-28T22:48:08Z")
> [@chiroptera](#): > > Do you have a cite for this? > IME, most women who show cleavage are quite OK with being ogled. If you have proof of the contrary, please provide it, since you’re the one who is bringing the claim. > > Otherwise I’m calling a bullshit straw man. Seems a batface doesn’t bother them! ---
**Author:** ![Fishtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ed655f/32.png) [@Fishtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fishtar)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/10 "2014-06-28T22:59:05Z")
My auntie is like this. She does not mind white guys looking, but whenever she catches a Latino doing it, she gets very offended. So, if this thread is regarding some particular woman…perhaps she just doesn’t like you… ---
**Author:** ![CheshireKat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheshirekat/32/1207_2.png) [@CheshireKat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CheshireKat)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/11 "2014-06-28T23:02:31Z")
They need air. Please don’t stare. ---
**Author:** ![Fishtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ed655f/32.png) [@Fishtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fishtar)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/12 "2014-06-28T23:06:16Z")
> [@CheshireKat](#): > > They need air. Please don’t stare. Eloquent. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/13 "2014-06-28T23:06:40Z")
> [@occupant](#): > > Why do women like to show significant cleavage, but get ticked when men stare at it? I think women don’t mind men checking out their cleavage when they wear something that calls attention to that area. They just don’t like it when men act like fools, either by being unable to look at anything else, by making comments, or by assuming that an invitation has been made. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/14 "2014-06-28T23:13:04Z")
They do it to weed out the real men from the pigs? Try not staring. Girls might like you more. Just an idea. Or at least cut back on the drooling and honking sounds. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/15 "2014-06-28T23:13:42Z")
> [@CheshireKat](#): > > They need air. Please don’t stare. They were staring at me first. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/16 "2014-06-28T23:30:13Z")
> [@occupant](#): > > Why do women like to show significant cleavage, but get ticked when men stare at it? The word **some** needs to be inserted here. **Some** women… **Some** men… And **some** women **do** like it when **some** men stare. ---
**Author:** ![Zeldar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/b77776/32.png) [@Zeldar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeldar)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/17 "2014-06-28T23:41:19Z")
> [@Colibri](#): > > Because you’re supposed to be discreet about these things.[If you’re doing it like this](http://37.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lppxsx3FdE1qfeilqo1_400.jpg), you’re doing it wrong.😉 I understand: no bow tie! ---
**Author:** ![Bumbershoot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bumbershoot/32/3428_2.png) [@Bumbershoot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bumbershoot)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/18 "2014-06-28T23:41:46Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > They do it to weed out the real men from the pigs? > > Try not staring. Girls might like you more. Just an idea. > > Or at least cut back on the drooling and honking sounds. It took me years to perfect the honking sounds. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/19 "2014-06-28T23:55:45Z")
On the other hand, I did on one occasion have a woman walk up to me in a bar, pull her top down, and shove her cleavage in my face. Of course, one can never be 100% certain about these things, but I feel fairly confident in saying that she actually wanted me to look. I also think she wanted me to buy her a beer. Although, honestly, I can’t be sure exactly what she wanted, since my brain completely bluescreened. (I also didn’t look. Cleavage can actually be scary when it comes at you aggressively at 20 miles per hour.) ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2014, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892/20 "2014-06-28T23:59:22Z")
> [@CheshireKat](#): > > They need air. Please don’t stare. so blowing on them is just being helpful. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-and-cleavage/691892.md?page=2)