# Women: Are breasts really an erogenous zone? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 16, 2010, 5:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401 "2010-06-16T05:52:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![kapri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4491bb/32.png) [@kapri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kapri)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/41 "2010-06-16T21:44:19Z")
Huh. The poll indicates one thing, but the comments here indicate another. Oh well. I certainly enjoy having my breasts touched, etc. I love it, in fact. One is definitely more sensitive than the other, though. ---
**Author:** ![SciFiSam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/47e85d/32.png) [@SciFiSam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SciFiSam)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/42 "2010-06-16T22:06:33Z")
IME they are for most women but not all. I’ve heard the breastfeeding/orgasm thing before but I’m not sure it’s actually true. Not many women orgasm from breast stimulation alone even when it’s sexual - how many would when it’s their baby doing it? The sensation is totally different. If your friend kisses you on the cheek, it doesn’t feel the same as if your lover does the same; a hairdresser arranging your coiffure feels different to a lover running their hands through your hair. Breasts are like this too, sensual _and_ practical \*and \*sexual, it’s just that we’re used to thinking of them as solely sexual objects and have to adjust to them being multipurpose like the rest of our bodies. So breastfeeding does sometimes make a temporary difference, yeah. There’s also the problem of milk squirting out at an inopportune time. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Audrey\_Levins](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Audrey\_Levins](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Audrey_Levins)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2010, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/43 "2010-06-16T22:52:36Z")
My boobs are 2/3’s of what I refer to as My Bermuda Triangle. Mr. Levins knows that to get anywhere with me, the boobs are absolutely involved. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/44 "2010-06-17T02:42:12Z")
If I’m “worked up” oh hell yes. You can’t use them to work me up, though. If I’m not already worked up, I may not even feel it. I got other places, but I ain’t tellin 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/45 "2010-06-17T05:03:10Z")
As a male, is it too strange to say that women’s breasts are among MY erogenous zones? I’m not sure how well I could handle being, er, _disouraged_ from playing with the fun bags. 😛 Fortunately I haven’t encountered this, or Og forbid maybe I haven’t noticed. ---
**Author:** ![Chickie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9de053/32.png) [@Chickie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chickie)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 6:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/46 "2010-06-17T06:38:07Z")
I love my nipples being played with in a gentle way. My bf likes nipple clamps and slapping them around. We compromise- he sucks on them gently when the clamps come off 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 6:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/47 "2010-06-17T06:41:38Z")
> [@PookahMacPhellimey](#): > > Yes, yes, oh yes! When it’s done properly it’s phenomenal. And nursing, once you get past the baby’s learning stage (eeyowch :D), is a very cozy, warm, glowy thing, as other dopers have said. ---
**Author:** ![Drain\_Bead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47774/32.png) [@Drain\_Bead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drain_Bead)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 2:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/48 "2010-06-17T14:03:45Z")
Mine are kinda numb. I wonder if it’s a function of them being big–same amount of nerve endings in a much larger space. They do nothing for me sexually. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/49 "2010-06-17T14:33:12Z")
> [@Drain\_Bead](#): > > Mine are kinda numb. I wonder if it’s a function of them being big–same amount of nerve endings in a much larger space. They do nothing for me sexually. Nope. Nerve endings grow more branches with a larger space. People who lose a lot of weight and have skin reduction surgery experience a hellacious amount of pain because they have \*more \*nerve endings than average. My breasts are now (at an I cup) more sensitive than they were a few cup sizes back, but I think for me my former numbness was an emotional thing. Sensitivity varies, but big are not generally less sensitive than small. ---
**Author:** ![Avarie537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/48db29/32.png) [@Avarie537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avarie537)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/50 "2010-06-17T15:25:31Z")
I love nipple stimulation … touch, caress, a little pinch, lick, suck, little nibbles … yowza! ---
**Author:** ![control-z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2010, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/51 "2010-06-17T15:32:27Z")
How do the ladies feel about motorboating? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Askance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/askance/32/8281_2.png) [@Askance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askance)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2010, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/52 "2010-06-18T04:59:39Z")
I had one gf who I could get to come through breastal stimulation alone, which amazed me the first time. > [@control-z](#): > > How do the ladies feel about motorboating? 😉 Not much internal combustion, I’m thinking. ---
**Author:** ![AboutAsWeirdAsYouCanGet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@AboutAsWeirdAsYouCanGet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AboutAsWeirdAsYouCanGet)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2010, 8:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/53 "2010-06-18T08:49:52Z")
> [@](#): > > Not many women orgasm from breast stimulation alone even when it’s sexual - You’re kidding me! I can, and my girlfriend can too …I remember reading in one of those lesbian sex books that a lot of women feel that there’s a direct connection from their boobs to their clit. As for the OT, I LOVE having them sucked. Love them love them love them. ---
**Author:** ![Gleena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b3f665/32.png) [@Gleena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gleena)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2010, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/54 "2010-06-18T12:43:31Z")
I said other - cause breasts in general, meh. Nipples specifically, oh god yes. Rougher the better. Yum. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2010, 1:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/55 "2010-06-18T13:01:04Z")
Question–how are we defining erogenous zone? I know, the dictionary says sensitive areas that when stimulated lead to sexual excitement. I know that my genitals are that way. But I enjoy being stroked/lightly tickled over lots of areas of my body–my back, my bottom, my arms, and in particular my arms. I’m not sure if that’s necessarily sexual, though. It just feels really good if someone takes their fingertips and rubs them over it. But that’s true no matter how sexy the person doing it is. Maybe I don’t have any erogenous zones. Or maybe I’m polymorphous perverse. ---
**Author:** ![Dogzilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@Dogzilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogzilla)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2010, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/56 "2010-06-18T14:43:33Z")
I love breast play. I’m an A-cup, which doesn’t disturb me in the least, but in my experience, I’m shocked at the number of men who seem to skip over this bit and go straight down south. That’s all nice and everything, but if you want to get me _really_ revved up, start (with kissing, then) at my boobs. It’s as if some men think that smaller-breasted women don’t feel anything. Most guys could get my entire boob in their mouth; I’m usually disappointed at how few actually _try_. ---
**Author:** ![control-z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2010, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/57 "2010-06-18T14:51:02Z")
In my experience about 2 out 5 women seem to really enjoy breast play. 2 of the others tolerated it, the other had sensitive breasts that didn’t like much sucking or squeezing. ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2010, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/58 "2010-06-18T15:13:14Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > I can’t bring myself to say the words, “that’s not really working,”\* but I will gently move the hands (or head) to a more fun zone. Anyone who’s not a total idiot understands what I’m not saying, and I haven’t slept with a total idiot in years. Argh! The number one cause of bad sex is _not communicating_. Expecting the other person to “just know” is insane. We’re humans. We cannot communicate via telepathy. I’m a straight guy and I’m very proud of my skill at cunnilingus. And every bit of credit for that skill goes to an old girlfriend who spoke up and told me what to do (yes, every woman likes different things, but she taught me a wide variety of techniques). It probably helped that she was bisexual and had done it herself. Sex is a skill and, like any skill, has to be learned. Some folks are natural athletes, for instance, but none of them will become champions without someone to critique their performance. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2010, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/59 "2010-06-18T15:44:04Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > Argh! > > The number one cause of bad sex is _not communicating_. Expecting the other person to “just know” is insane. We’re humans. We cannot communicate via telepathy. I agree, but not all communication is verbal, either. I’m quite satisfied, as is my partner, with nonverbal communication in some areas. Really, if I take your hand off my breast and put it on my labia, press your finger into my clit and moan, that’s not _communicating_? ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2010, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401/60 "2010-06-18T15:50:29Z")
It is communicating, but if someone’s not getting your method of communication, perhaps you should try a different one. You can say “Do this,” then show him what you want. He will be more than happy to comply. If he’s playing with your nipples too aggressively, if you just say “That hurts,” he’ll stop. You don’t have to say “Whatever you’re doing, it’s not right.” I wouldn’t enjoy saying that either. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-are-breasts-really-an-erogenous-zone/543401.md?page=4)