# Women Checking for Wedding Rings

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-checking-for-wedding-rings/528393>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [February 10, 2010, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-checking-for-wedding-rings/528393 "2010-02-10T05:23:16Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 4\
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**Author:** ![Gala\_Matrix\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/4da419/32.png) [@Gala\_Matrix\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gala_Matrix_Fire)\
**Post date:** [February 13, 2010, 1:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-checking-for-wedding-rings/528393/41 "2010-02-13T13:53:41Z")

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I never used to notice. I started noticing after, as a young woman, I flirted heavily with a guy at work, never noticing his big, honking wedding ring. I felt extremely stupid.

And just like that, wedding rings went from something I never noticed to something I notice.

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**Author:** ![Serenata67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/serenata67/32/10646_2.png) [@Serenata67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serenata67)\
**Post date:** [February 13, 2010, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-checking-for-wedding-rings/528393/42 "2010-02-13T16:24:24Z")

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I notice. I used to be a bartender and I picked that up… it’s almost a fun little game to see who is cheating, who isn’t, who sometimes comes in with a ring (and who doesn’t)! It also helps make conversation with the customers.

And I still have that habit.

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**Author:** ![Harriet\_the\_Spry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e56c9b/32.png) [@Harriet\_the\_Spry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harriet_the_Spry)\
**Post date:** [February 13, 2010, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-checking-for-wedding-rings/528393/43 "2010-02-13T18:51:07Z")

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I notice if a woman is wearing a sizable engagement rock. It’s informative about her socioeconomic status and perhaps priorities. To borrow a phrase from the girl one of my ex-boyfriends went on to be briefly engaged to: “It’s not worth doing for less than a full carat.” If it’s obviously more than a carat, I feel like I have learned something worth noting about her.

Just a band, though, honestly I don’t pay much attention to. I wear a wedding band (no major bling) but it is kind of unique and I’ll get compliments on it fairly often when I meet new people, so some people are noticing.

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**Author:** ![InterestedObserver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@InterestedObserver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InterestedObserver)\
**Post date:** [February 13, 2010, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-checking-for-wedding-rings/528393/44 "2010-02-13T19:25:36Z")

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I (a woman) never check for or notice wedding rings (meaning a ring of a particular sort on the traditional finger). I guess it might have something to do with the fact that I was in a committed relationship (common law marriage) for 23 yrs and never wore one, nor did my “husband”, and I realize that the lack or presence of one means exactly DICK.

I currently wear 2 rings…one, a silver celtic band on my left thumb (a gift from my late DH and the mate of one I gave him…it was too big but I refused to let him replace or resize it) and a thin, plain silver band on my right ring finger. (a gift to myself). Both have special signifigance for me, but I don’t expect anyone else to know that. And I don’t expect to learn anything by examining other peoples’ rings.

Now, if some guy was wooing me and I happened to notice a plain gold band on the marriage finger (or a tan line where one usually was:D) I would likely make inquiries. :dubious:

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