# Women: Do you enjoy the thought/sight of men having sex with men? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 8, 2003, 12:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807 "2003-08-08T12:27:13Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Lamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Lamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamia)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2003, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/21 "2003-08-08T18:38:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Draelin \* > \*\* > Personally, I’m a big fan of the scene with Ewan jumping up and down naked and covered in glitter. 😃 \*\* Me too, but mostly because I like the song. 😉 “TV Eye”, oh yes, baby! I’m such a rock geek! Hmmm, maybe I should start a thread asking who gets turned on by rock and roll… ---
**Author:** ![Orange\_Skinner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/3be4f8/32.png) [@Orange\_Skinner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orange_Skinner)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2003, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/22 "2003-08-08T18:42:48Z")
I’m a straight female…and no, the thought/sight of guys going at it doesn’t turn me on at all, though I think there is nothing wrong with homosexuality. I just don’t get aroused by gay men. I do get turned on with heterosexual or girl/girl pornography and the like…which (even on the SDMB) is weird for a (more or less) heterosexual female. ---
**Author:** ![Gravity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gravity/32/14322_2.png) [@Gravity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gravity)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2003, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/23 "2003-08-08T18:51:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by ErinPuff \* > \*\*Yes yes yes. But I’d much rather read about it than watch it. \*\* Me, too - exactly. But I feel that way about all sex. I’d rather read it so I can imagine it. ---
**Author:** ![Draelin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ce73a5/32.png) [@Draelin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Draelin)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2003, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/24 "2003-08-08T18:54:16Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Orange Skinner \* > \*\*I do get turned on with heterosexual or girl/girl pornography and the like…which (even on the SDMB) is weird for a (more or less) heterosexual female. \*\* I don’t know how weird it is, I know that in addition to myself, I have a good number of hetero female friends who for some reason find girl/girl porn stimulating. None of us can explain it, but that doesn’t make it any less true. ---
**Author:** ![Orange\_Skinner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/3be4f8/32.png) [@Orange\_Skinner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orange_Skinner)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2003, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/25 "2003-08-08T20:17:28Z")
Glad to hear it, **Draelin**. It seemed like I was the only one on the board (or that I knew in real life) who felt that way. ---
**Author:** ![Priam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/77aa72/32.png) [@Priam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Priam)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2003, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/26 "2003-08-08T20:22:33Z")
Obviously I can’t answer the op personally, but I’ve met a lot of women who certainly do find it hot. Frankly, I don’t find anything demeaning about a girl finding two guys making out hot. Indeed, I would feel more flattered than offended to be the subject of such fantasies regardless of the gender involved. Its an ego boost after all! I think also women tend to be less… overbearing about it. There aren’t a whole ton of women who think they can turn a gay guy straight, but apparently plenty of men believe that about lesbians. So the equation is a bit different. ---
**Author:** ![superstar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f4b2a3/32.png) [@superstar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/superstar)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2003, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/27 "2003-08-08T23:17:47Z")
No attraction at all. My partner (also female… yes I’m gay!) have a gay male couple as best friends, and the though of them ‘doing it’ leaves me blank, but when they come over and cuddle on the lounge together it gives me a warm fuzzy feeling, knowing that they are so in love and are free to share that around us. What is funny is that when we cuddle they joke around being rude etc. As it’s a scene that they don’t want to visualise, yet I don’t care if they do it. It’s not double standards, maybe it’s because they have been gay since birth, and the thought of being with a women makes them squirm,whilst my partner and I have been married to men in our past lives and are not gay because we hate men, but simply fell in love with each other and we both happened to be female??? Who knows! Sorry getting off track. But a big NO to men/men!! ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2003, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/28 "2003-08-08T23:37:06Z")
I was surprised to discover a few years ago that I do find it arousing. A friend had said that she liked gay porn, and I thought that a bit odd, but then I found a site that had pictures of men having sex and found that I liked it too. I also like guy-girl and girl-girl. Like **Draelin** said, sex is sexy. ---
**Author:** ![cuauhtemoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ecb155/32.png) [@cuauhtemoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cuauhtemoc)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/29 "2003-08-09T00:36:13Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by pepperlandgirl \* > \*\*I’m trying to convince my husband that he really, really wants to have sex wiht a man and let me watch…so far, he’s not buying it. 😉 😃 > > So I content myself with fanfic about Spike fucking everybody, men and women alike… \*\* Hmm. If I had a girlfriend who got turned on by watching two guys get it on, I might consider putting on a show for her with a willing male participant. I would, of course, have to hold veto power over any guy she picked, and there’s no guarantee of how far I’d go. But I could see having fun with it. But I’d have to be talked into it, and promised that she’d be very _very_ appreciative of my efforts. And if she were to reciprocate by letting me watch her snuggle up to an understanding female… well, that would be nice too. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![cuauhtemoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ecb155/32.png) [@cuauhtemoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cuauhtemoc)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/30 "2003-08-09T00:49:59Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by pepperlandgirl \* > \*\*I’m trying to convince my husband that he really, really wants to have sex wiht a man and let me watch…so far, he’s not buying it. 😉 😃 > > So I content myself with fanfic about Spike fucking everybody, men and women alike… \*\* Hmm. If I had a girlfriend who got turned on by watching two guys get it on, I might consider putting on a show for her with a willing male participant. I would, of course, have to hold veto power over any guy she picked, and there’s no guarantee of how far I’d go. But I could see having fun with it. But I’d have to be talked into it, and promised that she’d be very _very_ appreciative of my efforts. And if she were to reciprocate by letting me watch her snuggle up to an understanding female… well, that would be nice too. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![DebiJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f08c70/32.png) [@DebiJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DebiJ)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/31 "2003-08-09T03:25:07Z")
I think that it depends on the guys and the guy I’m with. I think I like the forbiddenness of it, but mostly when the guy I’m with reacts like he’s turned on - even if it’s because he feels like I am, then it’s a turn on… if he acts like I’ve just stuck a hot poker between his legs… well, it’s hardly a turn on, ya know? 🙂 With my guy, it’s a turn on simply because he’s secure in his sexuality and he’s in tune with mine. Guinastasia: What the hell is slash fiction??? ---
**Author:** ![nisosbar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c37758/32.png) [@nisosbar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nisosbar)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/32 "2003-08-09T03:42:09Z")
WOW! You really CAN learn something every day if you just ask, huh?! I’ve always had a fantasy that I’m screwing a guy who’s screwing a girl at the same time - wouldn’t that be hot - and we all orgasm at the same time. ---
**Author:** ![shrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7ab992/32.png) [@shrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shrew)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/33 "2003-08-09T04:11:58Z")
Heterosexual female checking in. I love to watch it all. Girl/Girl, Boy/Boy, Hetero, Gay, whatever…it’s all good. ---
**Author:** ![Vlad\_Dracul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/50afbb/32.png) [@Vlad\_Dracul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vlad_Dracul)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/34 "2003-08-09T04:30:58Z")
I don’t even like the sight of naked people, of either gender. We cover up certain body parts for good reason… they’re just plain ugly! ---
**Author:** ![pizzabrat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e9c0ed/32.png) [@pizzabrat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pizzabrat)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/35 "2003-08-09T04:35:31Z")
Theres a studio called Daddy Oohh that makes gay porn specifically for women, so apparently there’s a market for it. jsgoddess: > [@](#): > > And a lesbian friend of mine said this was demeaning to gay guys in exactly the same way that straight men fantasizing about lesbians is demeaning to lesbians. I don’t think men are as sensitive as women are in this respect. superstar: > [@](#): > > What is funny is that when we cuddle they joke around being rude etc. As it’s a scene that they don’t want to visualise, yet I don’t care if they do it. > It’s not double standards, maybe it’s because they have been gay since birth, and the thought of being with a women makes them squirm,whilst my partner and I have been married to men in our past lives and are not gay because we hate men, but simply fell in love with each other and we both happened to be female??? Who knows! Maybe men are just more squeamish about “different” sex than women are. Welp, those were my two sweeping generalizations for the day. ::dusts hands:: ---
**Author:** ![Krisfer\_the\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Krisfer\_the\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Krisfer_the_Cat)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 6:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/36 "2003-08-09T06:01:28Z")
Well might as well add me to the lot. OH YEAH! DEFINATELY YEP YEP YEP! umm yeah I do I’d NEVER ask anyone I knew to “perform” for me but if I happened to be there… well. **pepperlandgirl** I have got to see my hubby with a guy… sizzle:D Or maybe I just think about the many variations of sex way too much! ---
**Author:** ![pepperlandgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@pepperlandgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pepperlandgirl)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 7:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/37 "2003-08-09T07:44:41Z")
> [@](#): > > pepperlandgirl I have got to see my hubby with a guy… sizzle _sigh_ It’ll happen one day. Yo uknow, I haven’t badgered him about it lately…I think I’ll go ask… ---
**Author:** ![MamaHen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c89c15/32.png) [@MamaHen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MamaHen)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/38 "2003-08-09T14:06:25Z")
I don’t like straight porn but I love gay porn. I find gay porn more erotic. In gay porn the men are much more focused on pleasing their partners, in straight porn it’s all about the money shot. The thought of two men being intimate thrills me. I don’t know why. ---
**Author:** ![Priam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/77aa72/32.png) [@Priam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Priam)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/39 "2003-08-09T14:10:18Z")
One could also point out that in a lot of straight porn, the guy is some hideous Frankenstein-beast which communicates only in grunts and scratching his gut. Gay porn, for obvious reasons, kinda has to have good looking guys of some sort (even bears have their own criteria of good looking). ---
**Author:** ![Yuki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/8edcca/32.png) [@Yuki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yuki)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2003, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807/40 "2003-08-09T17:08:15Z")
Actually quite a few women enjoy it. So much so that there’s even a yearly convention. Yup, I’m serious. It’s geared towards the anime culture but the premise is the same. Male/Male relationships. It’s called yaoi and is VERY popular. There are differing degrees of intensity, some very subtle, some rivaling even hentai pieces. The convention’s held every year in San Francisco. I went the very first year and plan to go again this year. The subject manner sold/discussed there is such that you must be 18 to attend. About 90-95% of those in attendance are straight women, although I have seen some men there. So basically in a nutshell, yes, yes I do enjoy watching man on man action 😉 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-enjoy-the-thought-sight-of-men-having-sex-with-men/193807.md?page=3)