# Women: do you ever get bored during intercourse? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 4, 2010, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338 "2010-05-04T22:58:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Dog80](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/6bbea6/32.png) [@Dog80](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dog80)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/1 "2010-05-04T22:58:30Z")
You are doing the nasty with your man, but for whatever reason he cannot finish. So he keeps pumping and pumping and pumping… Do you enjoy that when it happens? Or do you wish he could finally come and leave you alone? ---
**Author:** ![kapri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4491bb/32.png) [@kapri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kapri)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/2 "2010-05-04T23:08:24Z")
Not usually, and yes. When/if that happens I start thinking about what I need to do next, what’s on TV . . . ---
**Author:** ![Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maggie_the_Ocelot)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/3 "2010-05-04T23:08:33Z")
I generally just change things up…switch positions, do something else, etc. Or eventually it just fizzles out. No biggie. Sex is not necessarily defined by male orgasm. ---
**Author:** ![Laudenum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7993a0/32.png) [@Laudenum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Laudenum)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/4 "2010-05-04T23:11:24Z")
> [@Oni no Maggie](#): > > I generally just change things up…switch positions, do something else, etc. > > Or eventually it just fizzles out. No biggie. **Sex is not necessarily defined by male orgasm**. Maggie, meet Blue-Balls. Blue-Balls, Maggie. ---
**Author:** ![Kimmy\_Gibbler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Kimmy\_Gibbler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimmy_Gibbler)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/5 "2010-05-04T23:14:34Z")
I am reminded of [this scene](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ujAq86tchZ0#t=2m19s). ---
**Author:** ![Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maggie_the_Ocelot)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/6 "2010-05-04T23:15:15Z")
Yes. Because I, as a woman, have _never_ had sex without coming somewhere close to orgasm. Women don’t know _anything_ about being aroused and then, eventually, frustrated. Also, all sex involves men, and begins with their erection and ends with their ejaculation. How do I make that rolleyes smiley again? If he’s just pumping away and can’t reach his finish, we aren’t either one enjoying it. So we might as well watch The Wire or something. ---
**Author:** ![interface2x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c0e974/32.png) [@interface2x](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/interface2x)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/7 "2010-05-04T23:17:06Z")
> [@Laudenum](#): > > Maggie, meet Blue-Balls. > > Blue-Balls, Maggie. I don’t know, I’ve had many times where I didn’t go all the way. Eventually, I just give up and I suffer no ill consequences. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2010, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/8 "2010-05-04T23:20:22Z")
I did once, and my balls exploded! Jizz all over the house! I got better No really, when I had my back injury nine years ago, I had some serious problems with reaching ejaculation. There were plenty of times where I had to just plain give up, and plenty of times where I realized that up front and said “I’m going to make her happy, then we’re done.” ---
**Author:** ![ShelliBean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f9ae1b/32.png) [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/9 "2010-05-05T00:03:15Z")
It usually goes something like this: party time ~ whoop whoop ~ train in the tunnel ~ fireworks ~ around the bend again ~ yay me! ~ still going! ~ ok, really? ~ alrightly now… ~ ok. really. ~ seriously ~ are you thinking of baseball? ~ might need lube ~ i’m getting kind of hungry ~ did I fold that laundry? ~ oh maybe I can go again before this ends (thinks good thoughts) ~ jesus christ, it is not happening for me again ~ chafing ~ oh yeah, it’ll be any minute now ~ whew boy it’s almost over ~ yay for you!! ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/10 "2010-05-05T00:07:12Z")
I got caught looking at the clock once. That stopped stuff _real_ quick. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 12:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/11 "2010-05-05T00:08:54Z")
On rare occasion my mind will wander to something very mundane (work, shopping, meals) and I’ll laugh at myself for being something out of a clichéd movie scene like the part of \*What Women Want \*where Marisa Tomei wonders who’s on Leno tonight. But that’s just the human brain. It snaps back very easily to blank, in the moment, spank bank material, whatever. ---
**Author:** ![emmaliminal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7bcc69/32.png) [@emmaliminal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/emmaliminal)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/12 "2010-05-05T00:25:08Z")
Many years ago, I gave up on a semi-promising guy soon after I found out he was _proud_ of being able to blandly pump away indefinitely, and apparently really enjoyed it. “I could do this for hours,” he said, “all night if you want.” I didn’t want. When I realized I didn’t feel like explaining what I \*did \*want, I also realized I just wasn’t that into him. It’s not that I wish a fella would “finally come and leave [me] alone” so much as I like a steady build. I like a man’s orgasm; it’s sexy. If I have to wait too long for it, though, without much going on, I lose momentum. ---
**Author:** ![Chickie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9de053/32.png) [@Chickie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chickie)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 2:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/13 "2010-05-05T02:15:56Z")
I rarely get bored, but every once in a while I’ll get dry if it lasts too long, and that makes things uncomfortable. If it seems to be going unusually long without resulting in anything, I’ll generally ask if he wants to finish in my mouth. ---
**Author:** ![Zulema](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/db5fbb/32.png) [@Zulema](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zulema)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/14 "2010-05-05T03:24:40Z")
Yes. For personal reasons I don’t need to go into on a message board things are like that more often than not at my house so it’s not like we can always just quit and wait for next time. Next time will be the same. Somehow I find it more boring than doing nothing. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/15 "2010-05-05T03:49:30Z")
I thought you were supposed to call a doctor if you had an erection that lasted that long and couldn’t finish… ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/16 "2010-05-05T03:57:27Z")
I make sure that they aren’t bored! As I tell them, “it’ll be the best minute and a half of your lives!” 😛 ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/17 "2010-05-05T05:23:09Z")
That never happens, would not enjoy it if it did! ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 12:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/18 "2010-05-05T12:24:31Z")
Do women get bored during intercourse? Is that a trick question? ---
**Author:** ![Perciful](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b38774/32.png) [@Perciful](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Perciful)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 12:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/19 "2010-05-05T12:37:28Z")
> [@emmaliminal](#): > > Many years ago, I gave up on a semi-promising guy soon after I found out he was _proud_ of being able to blandly pump away indefinitely, and apparently really enjoyed it. “I could do this for hours,” he said, “all night if you want.” I didn’t want. When I realized I didn’t feel like explaining what I \*did \*want, I also realized I just wasn’t that into him. > > It’s not that I wish a fella would “finally come and leave [me] alone” so much as I like a steady build. I like a man’s orgasm; it’s sexy. If I have to wait too long for it, though, without much going on, I lose momentum. Yes, like too much ice cream… ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/20 "2010-05-05T13:58:51Z")
> [@Chickie](#): > > If it seems to be going unusually long without resulting in anything, I’ll generally ask if he wants to finish in my mouth. Well, at least one person here is willing to get off their butts and take matters into their own hands to solve the problem. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338.md?page=2)