# Women: do you ever get bored during intercourse? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 4, 2010, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338 "2010-05-04T22:58:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![SecondJudith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5ac83/32.png) [@SecondJudith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SecondJudith)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/21 "2010-05-05T15:32:53Z")
> [@emmaliminal](#): > > I like a man’s orgasm; it’s sexy. If I have to wait too long for it, though, without much going on, I lose momentum. Ditto, and my SO has said this is true for him, too. Maybe one out of six or seven times, he won’t be close to orgasm (or getting closer), and if I haven’t already done so, watching him get the “I’m getting tired, I wonder how long I have to keep doing this without disappointing her” look isn’t getting me anywhere near. So we knock off and snuggle and watch some TV. There’s just no point in keeping at it if you’re both getting sore and/or tired, and it’s not going anywhere. ---
**Author:** ![breaking-reality](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a8b319/32.png) [@breaking-reality](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/breaking-reality)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/22 "2010-05-05T15:33:01Z")
Depends. There have been times where I’ve felt like saying “Really? That’s it? You’re done already?” There have also been times I started a mental to-do list while waiting for it to be over. I’ve found on both counts that talking and moving around/switching positions can help. I’ve also given him a breather so we can go for round two (or three). Also guys, foreplay is highly underrated. Do it, do it often, and do it well - you will be rewarded. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Max\_Torque](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Max\_Torque](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_Torque)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/23 "2010-05-05T15:51:02Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > I make sure that they aren’t bored! As I tell them, “it’ll be the best minute and a half of your lives!” 😛 Drew Carey: “I’m not a great lover, but at least I’m fast.” ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/24 "2010-05-05T16:57:10Z")
Q: What does the [ethnic/religious woman of your humorous choice] think while having sex? A: “Beige… I think I’ll paint the ceiling beige.” ---
**Author:** ![umop\_ap\_sdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/dbc845/32.png) [@umop\_ap\_sdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/umop_ap_sdn)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/25 "2010-05-05T18:14:19Z")
I’ve not been with a man (only women) but yes, sometimes it happens. If the foreplay stops abruptly and my partner moves down to the _next place_ then my arousal usually drops like a stone. Otherwise I can be enjoying it a lot but not climaxing; I’ve even had to outright insist that it really is just as good. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/26 "2010-05-05T18:51:24Z")
> [@Chickie](#): > > If it seems to be going unusually long without resulting in anything, I’ll generally ask if he wants to finish in my mouth. [begins slow clap] On occasion this will happen to me, and I generally just slow down and tell her I need a break. Then we snuggle, after about five minutes she begins to fondle me, we choose another position, and pretty quickly I’m showing her my ‘O’ face. I think it’s the short break that hits the reset button. ---
**Author:** ![Kaio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c68b51/32.png) [@Kaio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaio)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/27 "2010-05-05T21:39:37Z")
I’ve only gotten bored if he was bad in bed. Of course, continuing to do something that obviously isn’t working for anyone is pretty much the definition of “bad in bed.” Although the only guy I’ve been with who was that bad was my first; and since I had nothing to compare it to, I didn’t realize it could be better (MUCH better, as it turns out), nor did I have any ideas for how to switch things up. Thankfully, since then they’ve been quite a bit more creative. The first guy was also very focused on himself in bed, which definitely made things worse. The others were focused on me, I was focused on him, and so we were very much in tune with each other and could adjust on the fly if something wasn’t working. No boredom there. ---
**Author:** ![GESancMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gesancman/32/2923_2.png) [@GESancMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GESancMan)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2010, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/28 "2010-05-05T22:09:51Z")
Time to [Wrap It Up](http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/index.jhtml?videoId=11879&title=wrap-it-up)… ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2010, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/29 "2010-05-06T00:25:30Z")
I go through spells, but yeah I get bored sometimes. It’s always when it goes on too long. Mig is like superduper-multi-orgasmic, it’s frickin non-stop I swear. He could go hours and hours. I cannot, at least not without pondering the universe or making lists. I figure I had my fun in the first hour or so. He just takes a little longer is all. I don’t think we’re “doing it wrong”. We both sure seem to be satisfied in the end. (I know there’s a joke hidden somewhere in that statement.) ---
**Author:** ![Perciful](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b38774/32.png) [@Perciful](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Perciful)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2010, 1:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/30 "2010-05-06T13:54:54Z")
I was just thinking of when my normal bf took Viagra just for the fun of it. Has that ever happened to any of you? I was so mad when I found out why he took so long. I walked like Yosemite Sam for a week! Jerk 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Righteous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Dr.Righteous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Righteous)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2010, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/31 "2010-05-06T15:00:09Z")
[Some people must get bored.](http://mashable.com/2010/05/05/texting-during-sex/) ---
**Author:** ![Wile\_E](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c37758/32.png) [@Wile\_E](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wile_E)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2010, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/32 "2010-05-06T16:03:14Z")
Well … uh … I think I’ll go answer the “which side do you carry your bag” question instead. ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2010, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/33 "2010-05-06T16:53:18Z")
> [@Dr.Righteous](#): > > [Some people must get bored.](http://mashable.com/2010/05/05/texting-during-sex/) Focus, kids! _Focus!_ ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2010, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/34 "2010-05-06T17:45:00Z")
> [@emmaliminal](#): > > Many years ago, I gave up on a semi-promising guy soon after I found out he was _proud_ of being able to blandly pump away indefinitely, and apparently really enjoyed it. “I could do this for hours,” he said, “all night if you want.” I didn’t want. When I realized I didn’t feel like explaining what I \*did \*want, I also realized I just wasn’t that into him. > > It’s not that I wish a fella would “finally come and leave [me] alone” so much as I like a steady build. I like a man’s orgasm; it’s sexy. If I have to wait too long for it, though, without much going on, I lose momentum. Misconceptions guys have: Bigger is better (bigger hurts!) Lasting a long time is a plus (a minute and a half might be a little short, but its probably better than an hour and a half - we chafe - and yes, get bored). ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2010, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/35 "2010-05-07T01:10:44Z")
Oh ho ho! I actually last _two_ minutes and a half! I just tell all the ladies one minute and a half so they’ll be surprised. I know, I’m a real gentleman. ---
**Author:** ![Peremensoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ce7236/32.png) [@Peremensoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peremensoe)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2010, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/36 "2010-05-07T02:17:23Z")
> [@Dangerosa](#): > > Lasting a long time is a plus (a minute and a half might be a little short, but its probably better than an hour and a half - we chafe - and yes, get bored). _I’d_ get bored by an hour and a half of “blandly pumping,” as **emmaliminal** describes. But I have lots more tricks. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2010, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/37 "2010-05-07T02:47:27Z")
> [@spark240](#): > > But I have lots more tricks. 😉 Cite? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Maiira](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f04885/32.png) [@Maiira](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maiira)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2010, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/38 "2010-05-07T04:21:00Z")
I’m more likely to chafe than get bored, but that kills my arousal pretty quickly. At that point, it’s time to stop. Sometimes it just doesn’t work out. Either we’re too tired or we’re just not feeling it. ---
**Author:** ![nashiitashii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7c8e57/32.png) [@nashiitashii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nashiitashii)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2010, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/39 "2010-05-07T15:52:11Z")
> [@Kaio](#): > > I’ve only gotten bored if he was bad in bed. Ditto. I’ve had the scenario where I’m not getting anything out of it and I’m mentally contemplating how long it’s gone on and how long it’s going to take him to finish. At that point when it was happening, I wasn’t mature enough to make the right kind of suggestions, so I’d try to get him to finish faster in any way that I could so I could escape the situation. Now that I’m more experienced, I don’t get bored because I have a good partner and know how to ask for (and receive) what I want. RE: Chafing-- I’ve had that happen on several occasions, and most of the time it’s a matter of the other party having something distracting them from their goal. Whether it be “I need some water” or “my knees/back/legs/etc. hurt” or “I think I need the lights to be brighter/dimmer”, it’s enough of a distraction to make finishing tougher. It doesn’t mean I don’t whine about being chafed and uncomfortable the next day, though, as it really hurts when it happens and very little seems to help. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2010, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338/40 "2010-05-07T16:32:46Z")
Yes I get bored. But unless it was because he was really bad at it in which case `i’d spend the time trying to remember where my underwear is, I be nice about it, as in “I’m so sore!” ie you’re a wild man and so well hung and not “I’m sick of fucking you”. And then I’d probably suck him off. I hate to leave something (or someone) unfinished. “Anne is very sweet, she always eats her meat…” David Bowie Strangely enough that’s my real name. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-ever-get-bored-during-intercourse/538338.md?page=3)