# Women - do you think about boffing random strangers? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 24, 2016, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267 "2016-06-24T21:13:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2016, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/1 "2016-06-24T21:13:26Z")
OK, sorry about the crude title. Based on [this](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=796475) thread, it seems that a large number of women think that men are constantly thinking about having sex with them. OK, we probably are. I guess it’s true that when I see an attractive woman, some part of me wonders what it would be like to have sex with her. But, that’s all it is - just a passing curiosity. So, my question is - do women ever think the same thing? If they see an attractive guy, do they wonder what it would be like to sleep with them, or is this purely a guy thing? ---
**Author:** ![Sattua](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sattua/32/11906_2.png) [@Sattua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sattua)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2016, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/2 "2016-06-24T21:41:42Z")
I don’t think about sleeping with them, no. My reaction is mostly "look at \*that \*… " followed by looking at it as long as I can without being rude. ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2016, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/3 "2016-06-24T21:58:22Z")
I tend to imagine killing strangers, the annoying ones at least, more often than anything else and I am probably going to get flamed for this. Women are no less sexual than men, so yes on a level of pure fantasy, never to be indulged in because I am in a committed relationship and my husband trusts me, yes, women, or at least me, do sometimes imagine hooking up with guys they know nothing more about than that they look really sexy. We (all humans of either gender) are probably all wired that way by nature, but as Katherine Hepburn once said, “Nature is what we were put here to rise above.” ---
**Author:** ![Periwinkle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Periwinkle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Periwinkle)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2016, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/4 "2016-06-24T22:21:14Z")
No. I might think “nice eyes” or “what a great smile”, but that’s about it. I am much more likely to feel a flash of attraction to a man who has impressed me in some way, by seeming smart/funny/confident. Then, I might notice something about his physicality and think “you know, this guy is pretty attractive”. Doesn’t really work the other way around, as I think it does more so for men (I know everyone is different and there must be many exceptions for both sexes). ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2016, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/5 "2016-06-24T23:45:35Z")
No way, never have. I don’t even think about people sexually at all; it’s more of a romance thing with the sex as part of the affection and closeness. I have looked at strangers and thought they were attractive but it’s more like looking at a nice statue. I can appreciate it without wanting to hump it. ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2016, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/6 "2016-06-24T23:53:59Z")
I may think about it, but that is all I do. ---
**Author:** ![jtur88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e9c0ed/32.png) [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/7 "2016-06-25T00:01:45Z")
> [@Rushgeekgirl](#): > > No way, never have. I don’t even think about people sexually at all; it’s more of a romance thing with the sex as part of the affection and closeness. I have looked at strangers and thought they were attractive but it’s more like looking at a nice statue. I can appreciate it without wanting to hump it. As a male respondent, this is pretty close to what I think. If I see some woman who catches my eye, my thoughts are about what it would be like to be in an intimate relationship with her, doing all the things that such a relationship would encompass. For this reason, I was pretty much left adrift by the OP’s question, and I’m glad you elucidated it this way. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/8 "2016-06-25T00:09:15Z")
Nope. Not that I don’t enjoy seeing a sexy or cute guy. I just don’t think about doing it with him. ---
**Author:** ![GroovyDA](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/53a042/32.png) [@GroovyDA](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GroovyDA)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/9 "2016-06-25T00:33:03Z")
Firstly, love that term! OK, if I see a guy I find attractive, do I fantasize about having sex with him. Hmmm…Well, I would have to say it depends. Mostly on my mood at that particular moment because that can influence me tremendously. I think more than anything I tend to look at a man’s hands & forearms for some crazy reason! If the guy has fairly muscular forearms, they don’t have to be weightlifter kind of muscular but just have that look of strength, then I admit I then may think about his hands on my body, etc., & probably will then look at his face & lips & eyes & if all of that is check-check-check I might fantasize about him kissing me or kissing me & touching me - The list goes on & on! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/10 "2016-06-25T00:33:07Z")
I gotta admit, I’m a bit disappointed with these answers. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 12:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/11 "2016-06-25T00:34:57Z")
Well, I guess I’ll be the first “yes.” I’m surprised. ---
**Author:** ![wipetheclock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/b19c9b/32.png) [@wipetheclock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wipetheclock)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/12 "2016-06-25T01:08:48Z")
At the time I see the sexy guy? Rarely. Later? Yes. My spank bank is quite nice 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/13 "2016-06-25T01:14:38Z")
Yes. I’m surprised there are only three yes responses(so far). ---
**Author:** ![SeaDragonTattoo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@SeaDragonTattoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SeaDragonTattoo)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/14 "2016-06-25T01:56:19Z")
Yes here, too. I wasn’t a stranger to occasional one night stands when I was between boyfriends, back in the 90’s. Once the 00’s hit, I became more sensible, but the thoughts are still there. ---
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/15 "2016-06-25T02:14:51Z")
Yes. I don’t have one-night stands as it takes more than physical attraction to get me into bed, but if there’s an attractive man I’ll most likely wonder about having sex with him. I do have an SO of 12 years so that puts a damper on one-night stands as well. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![spamforbrains](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e274bd/32.png) [@spamforbrains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spamforbrains)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/16 "2016-06-25T02:41:54Z")
> [@](#): > > No way, never have. I don’t even think about people sexually at all; it’s more of a romance thing with the sex as part of the affection and closeness. I have looked at strangers and thought they were attractive but it’s more like looking at a nice statue. I can appreciate it without wanting to hump it. ditto. I admire a good-looking person (regardless of apparent sex) but it’s kind of the same way I admire a handsome horse or a nice piece of art. Sexual attraction only gets going once you know someone. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/17 "2016-06-25T02:42:46Z")
I don’t usually answer threads addressed to “women” because I’m male-bodied, but I do identify as a woman genderwise… I tend to think the people asking these questions aren’t likely to be interested in what’s going on with me or people like me… but what the hell… My attraction is such that to find someone visually attractive isn’t unusual, to the point that it’s sort of background noise almost. Yeah lots of deliciously cute specimens out there. Conscious thought is mostly limited to “Mmm, yummy nice!”. I don’t conjure up images of us going at it. I don’t need to conjure up images, I have a visual already available to me, ya know? I appreciate what I see when I see it. **wipetheclock** refers to the spank bank. It’s sort of like that but more generic. I think it all gets filed away as additional evidence that those folks are way yummy and I want a chance to play with. Like bank deposits, it builds interest. ---
**Author:** ![E-DUB](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/e-dub/32/403_2.png) [@E-DUB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/E-DUB)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/18 "2016-06-25T02:49:22Z")
“Did you say ‘boffing’?”-Steven Franklin ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/19 "2016-06-25T02:53:26Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > I tend to imagine killing strangers, the annoying ones at least, more often than anything else and I am probably going to get flamed for this. Well, yes. Yes, you probably are going to get flamed for this. You’ve got a much more deeply entrenched reputation on the board than I had even imagined, for your attitude that the act of any male _offering to shake your hand_ is sexual assault – at least [as far back as 2010](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=12949046#post12949046) and [as recently as just yesterday (June 23, 2016)](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=19428276#post19428276). A quick Google search immediately turned up at least 10 threads in which you wrote to that effect, and/or it was mentioned by others. Indeed, you _have_ been flamed already, repeatedly. The top two Google hits were Pit threads: [This one](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=608479) (see the third quote in the OP), and [this one](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=593049); both mention your aversion the the poisonous male handshake, among many other choice tidbits. Even **Jimmy Chitwood** , famed feminist apologist on this board, [has acknowledged that](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=19430286#post19430286), even in the very act of flaming me for remarking on it myself. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2016, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267/20 "2016-06-25T02:53:53Z")
I just had the most _horrible_ thought about **boffking**. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-do-you-think-about-boffing-random-strangers/758267.md?page=2)