# Women Dopers - How Do you Read this Situation ?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [November 28, 2019, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-dopers-how-do-you-read-this-situation/844138 "2019-11-28T19:07:37Z")\
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**Post date:** [December 21, 2019, 6:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-dopers-how-do-you-read-this-situation/844138/98 "2019-12-21T06:48:50Z")

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In a rather hopeless quest, I’m trying to keep this straight: from your OP:

> [@Les\_Espaces\_Du\_Sommeil](#):
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> Sorry, rambling post.
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> In the past month, I’ve spent a lot of time with a new female colleague. I had begun to think that she was showing some romantic interest in me. Now, it seems that I was wrong about it, but I really don’t know what to think.

and as someone linked earlier in this thread, you have this from July, talking about something going on from at least a year ago.

> [@On Hetero-normative Dating: The Woman Makes the First Move](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-hetero-normative-dating-the-woman-makes-the-first-move/836227/48):
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> So, after some inner deliberation, I suggested we had a drink together. Her face lit up immediately and she said yes three times in a row. Well, that was supposed to be today. I dropped by her office twice and she wasn’t there. No voice mail or email to cancel either. I finally sent her a neutral mail an hour later and she answered almost immediately with what sounds like “plausible BS”.
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> Seriously, I’m too old for this kind s\*\*\*. I cannot avoid her completely as our company isn’t that big, but the problem is that she is so much my type it’s ridiculous, about my age and usually so affectionate when we meet that I just can’t help falling for it. If only she could be clear about all of this once and for all. It doesn’t matter whether it’s “yes” or “no”, anything would be much better than this constant hesitation. And I know I could ask her, but it would be awkward for many reasons.
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> If the dust ever settles without a clear answer, I’ll start a thread with a poll on the whole thing 😃 .

Is Sandra the same as this second woman? Or are there just an endless stream of women coworkers with mixed signals at your office?

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