# Women find male genitals replusive, and most men don't even know it **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 30, 2017, 11:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564 "2017-04-30T11:25:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 13
**Author:** ![Not\_Carlson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/bc79bd/32.png) [@Not\_Carlson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Not_Carlson)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/241 "2017-05-02T16:17:45Z")
> [@Jane\_Elliot](#): > > And if women found penises repulsive, they won’t masturbate with toys that look like them, but they obviously do. Hah! This week’s installment of \*Oh Joy Sex Toy \*just happens to be a review of life-cast dildos. Very NSFW: [A bundle o’boners!](http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/fleshjack-dildos/)Wonder what the OP would make of that. > [@Mijin](#): > > I think it’s because in some small way, some of us can relate…slightly. > > Now hear me out (before I get myself on the wrong side of this flaming…) > > For some guys, when they’re very young if they don’t have much interaction with girls they can start to get some weird ideas about relationships. They see that women don’t generally respond well to overtly sexual approaches and try to make sense of that while viewing women’s sexuality on the same spectrum as men’s. > And they may see guys who are high status apparently get a lot of attention, and then BOOM – they see what sex is “really” about; the “truth” everyone pretends to not see. > > Fortunately, most such lads eventually pick up enough dating / relationship experience, and maturity, to appreciate that women’s sexuality is _different_, on average, not _less_. And the astonishing fact that being attractive to most women is \*\*neither \*\*sending them dick pics, nor trying to brag about your success or cash. > > But some minority of guys get bitter about the whole thing. The OP ISTM is much too far gone, sad to see. Wouldn’t flame you for that. That frustration is understandable and sad. Problem is when folks let their frustrations and self-absorption shrivel them into bitter little [pickled plums](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Umeboshi)of resentment. By way of a peace offering to our new member: [5 Ways Modern Men Are Trained to Hate Women: Update](http://www.cracked.com/article_19785_5-ways-modern-men-are-trained-to-hate-women.html) > [@](#): > > [From the article:] We Were Told That Society Owed Us a Hot Girl \*It’s a Cracked article. \*\*Cracked is a humor site. \*\*\*Sometimes they make dick jokes too. ---
**Author:** ![MikeF](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@MikeF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MikeF)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/242 "2017-05-02T19:21:12Z")
Way back on page one Deanna D said “And third, go out and meet some real women. You’ll be stunned to find that some of us are smarter than you seem to think.” DD - you could have stopped right after the word “you”. And anomalous 1 just had to go and bring up size. Carry on with the skewering. ---
**Author:** ![Bone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bone/32/407_2.png) [@Bone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bone)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/243 "2017-05-02T19:24:06Z")
> [@Bone](#): > > This is a warning for accusing another poster of being a troll. Do not do this outside the Pit. > > If you suspect someone is a troll, please dnftt, report, or pit. It should be very easy to not respond to someone being wrong on the internet if you follow that recommendation. > > [/moderating] I have reversed this warning given Weisshund’s relative newness and the nature and circumstances of the thread in question and the comment that was being responded to. [/moderating] ---
**Author:** ![eschereal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eschereal/32/18939_2.png) [@eschereal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eschereal)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/244 "2017-05-02T19:32:57Z")
> [@Channing\_Idaho\_Banks](#): > > OP has a girl friend who thinks cocks look like dookie. > > Wants to know if all women feel the same way. Hmm. I wonder if that is a plea for a certain type of sex. ---
**Author:** ![Filbert](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/filbert/32/3433_2.png) [@Filbert](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Filbert)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/245 "2017-05-02T19:34:52Z")
I’m just trying to decide which classic English recipe to post if this goes on any longer. Spotted Dick, or Toad In The Hole…? ---
**Author:** ![The\_King\_of\_Soup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a87d85/32.png) [@The\_King\_of\_Soup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_King_of_Soup)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/246 "2017-05-02T20:09:42Z")
Why do I get the feeling that after the OP masturbates, he leaves money on his dresser? ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/247 "2017-05-02T20:16:33Z")
I think women greatly underestimate the amount of disgust men feel towards friendships and emotional support. The question, then, is why do men provide these things? Well, it’s a transaction. If a woman gives him enough sex, he will give her friendship and emotional support in return. He doesn’t feel any pleasure in it, he just knows that it makes his woman happy, and if she’s happy then he’s happy. Which brings us to the dreaded friend zone. Why is the friend zone so horrible for men? Well, it’s two-fold: The first thing is that a man expects to get something in return for his emotional investment, namely sex. In the context of platonic friendships, the women takes it for free, she gives him nothing. This is obviously bad for him. The second is that men find women’s minds repulsive. In order to be able to engage with a woman’s mind, he first needs to think of it as a necessary part of a sexual object, no matter how disgusting he finds it. In platonic friendships there is no sex, and having to talk to women, deal with their “feelings”, and being forced to watch chick flicks, is as painful and excruciating as pulling teeth while doing your taxes. But without a doubt, the most obvious example is when we hear of those frequent cases of men who never call a woman back as soon as she has given up sex. The vast majority men erupt in ecstatic cheers of happiness when they hear anecdotes about this, regardless of their political stances. It a man had hurt a women emotionally in any any other way, like called her fat or run over her dog, most men would either condemn it or they wouldn’t care. But when it’s specifically about having sex with a women and and then not sticking around to invest in a relationship, men around the world love it and call him a stud. “Good on him! That is so awesome! More men should do it! I wish I could bang lots of chicks and never see them again afterwards, too!” If this doesn’t show the real amount of disgust and revulsion men have towards women’s minds and emotional needs, nothing does. The problem is that most women don’t want to believe this. They don’t want to believe that the person who provides them with friendship and support, both emotional and material, who comforts them in bad times and shares their joys in good times, and who even helps bring up their children, has such a lowly view of them. So they’ll deny it, or they don’t want to think about it. They’ll give replies like: “You don’t know men”, or “it’s just you who have a dreadful personality, men love mine”, no matter how much evidence you show them. ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/248 "2017-05-02T20:33:35Z")
Bravo! ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/249 "2017-05-02T20:34:01Z")
Too late for edit: Oh, wow, that was a lot of typos. I really should proofread. Oh, well, this thread is the deepest corner of the cesspool. At least it’s not GQ or anything. Hey, you know what \*really \*makes men around the world cheer? Those high-profile cases of men who have sex with women, knock them up, leave, and then refuse to pay child support. That’s proper revenge on all womankind for all that friend-zoning. Also, when men take a woman on a date, and then run away without paying the bill. Let her do it! High fives all round. See, I think women greatly underestimate the amount of disgust men feel towards financial expenditures. ---
**Author:** ![Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malleus_incus_stapes/32/3293_2.png) [@Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malleus_Incus_Stapes)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/250 "2017-05-02T20:36:34Z")
Now that this is in the Pit: does anyone think the OP is sort of fishing for compliments? Like, he’s worried that women think his junk looks stupid, he wants to be assured this is not so, but he figures that if he posts, “Hey ladies! Whadaya think of penises? They’re great, amirite?”, most women will just think he’s a creeper and ignore him. So he posts this ri_dick_ulous thread about how women all hate dongs, and everyone hurries in to say, “No, we think they’re awesome, what are you talking about???”, and he feels better about his woeful wang. Either that, or he likes jerking off to women describing the wonders of the D. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/251 "2017-05-02T20:53:05Z")
Oh, I have zero doubt that the OP’s dong, in particular, looks like a dog’s turd, and probably smells like one, too. He might want to see a plastic surgeon about that. Or, at least there must be something that accounts for his terrible experiences with the opposite sex. Clearly, he has never had a sexual encounter that hasn’t involved money changing hands. But even so, if you interact with enough ladies of the evening, you’re likely to encounter at least a certain percentage who enjoy their jobs to some extent. If they all go “yuck” and hold their noses when the OP takes his junk out, that can’t be a good sign. ---
**Author:** ![ioioio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ioioio/32/316_2.png) [@ioioio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ioioio)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/252 "2017-05-02T21:07:37Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > I think women greatly underestimate the amount of disgust men feel towards friendships and emotional support. . . . [snipped because all I want is to show which post I’m referring to] **Martian Bigfoot** , that was a thing of beauty. Just wanted you to know. ---
**Author:** ![anomalous1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e56c9b/32.png) [@anomalous1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anomalous1)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/253 "2017-05-02T21:09:08Z")
That was entertaining to say the least, **Martian Bigfoot** and a perfect parody that gets the point across, I wish I would have just done something like that instead of all the time wasted trying to get OP to swallow the red pill. ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/254 "2017-05-02T21:16:08Z")
I was expecting the OP to get royally roasted once this was moved to the Pit, and I was prepared to join in, but on reflection I feel he is either just a complete troll, in which case, whatever, have your fun move on see ya later; or he has had some terrible experiences with women, in which case I just feel sorry for him really, and want to give him a big ol’ man hug. ---
**Author:** ![anomalous1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e56c9b/32.png) [@anomalous1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anomalous1)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/255 "2017-05-02T21:20:34Z")
I second that. ---
**Author:** ![TreacherousCretin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/treacherouscretin/32/476_2.png) [@TreacherousCretin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TreacherousCretin)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/256 "2017-05-02T21:33:54Z")
> [@The\_King\_of\_Soup](#): > > Why do I get the feeling that after the OP masturbates, he leaves money on his dresser? Probably just force of habit. That’s where he always finds his allowance. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/257 "2017-05-02T22:05:41Z")
> [@Tierce](#): > > If you Google zebras, you won’t find a lot of horses. But that’s damn near all you get if you Google Unicorns. > [@Shodan](#): > > No we’re not. Not necessarily. ---
**Author:** ![Kamino\_Neko](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kamino_neko/32/34_2.png) [@Kamino\_Neko](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kamino_Neko)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/258 "2017-05-02T22:10:58Z")
> [@Bryan\_Ekers](#): > > That’s how it might seem at first glans, but I dunno… Come now, people, use your heads. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/259 "2017-05-02T22:28:50Z")
You know, when I first read the OP, I thought the guy had overstated his case, but maybe there was a little sliver of truth in there. A penis is rarely the most attractive part of a man, and while many women love sex for sex’s sake, a non-trivial number of women don’t care much about it. Then I read this: > [@Faylasouf](#): > > … > My own gf hasn’t told me word for word that she finds penises disgusting, but I’ve picked up on it cause once a man sent her a dick pick she was visibly enraged and revolted, telling him it looked like a piece of stool (his penis looked fine). Another time a friend of hers flashed his penis in front of her, she said she was literally going to puke and had to hold her mouth to keep it down. 🤣 He thinks that a woman’s reaction to an unsolicited dick pic reflects on how she feels about dicks in general. 🤣 Dude, a penis carries some risk, some threat. Most women find unsolicited penises unpleasant, even women who really love dick in the right circumstances. And then this > [@Faylasouf](#): > > A woman can enjoy sex as much as she enjoys clipping her toenails. > > Sex is not very high on her priority list for life’s enjoyments. > > It’s nowhere near as important or significant to women as it is to men. > > And I’ll remind you that even if she does “enjoy” it she still won’t find male genitals any less disgusting. I don’t know any woman who doesn’t enjoy sex more than trimming her nails. Seriously, are you able to brush your teeth and tie your shoes on your own? ---
**Author:** ![Ulfreida](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ulfreida/32/8014_2.png) [@Ulfreida](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ulfreida)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2017, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/260 "2017-05-02T22:51:35Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > I think much of **Faylasouf** ’s process is reasoning is wrong, but the \*points/observations \*that are made are valid, just poorly arrived at: > > 1. Women and men think differently; > 2. Violence by women against men is regarded differently than violence by men against women; > 3. Women have an easier time getting sex than men; > 4. Women and men are attracted to different things; > 5. Men often project their thinking onto women and think women think the same way they do. I think you are doing the OP a great disservice. I’m pretty sure the points he was actually making were: 1. I hate women. 2. I want to fuck them. 3. they don’t want to fuck me. 4. this enrages me. 5. I have a lot of time on my hands. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564.md?page=12) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564.md?page=14)