# Women find male genitals replusive, and most men don't even know it **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 30, 2017, 11:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564 "2017-04-30T11:25:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 12:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/21 "2017-04-30T12:25:13Z")
> [@Faylasouf](#): > > Oh ffs. Just google it like I told you. Save your breath, women just don’t listen, Amiright? ---
**Author:** ![Faylasouf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3be4f8/32.png) [@Faylasouf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Faylasouf)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 12:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/22 "2017-04-30T12:29:18Z")
> [@Smapti](#): > > And what controls have you applied to this survey? Is your survey sample representative of the general population? Have you corrected for cultural biases? > > Or are you just looking for “data” that confirms what you want to believe? You’re saying it was confirmation bias. Tell me, how is it you can google hundreds of forums with thousands of opinions from women and they always say the same thing? Where did my bias enter into that? And why would culture have an effect on biological instincts? My own gf hasn’t told me word for word that she finds penises disgusting, but I’ve picked up on it cause once a man sent her a dick pick she was visibly enraged and revolted, telling him it looked like a piece of stool (his penis looked fine). Another time a friend of hers flashed his penis in front of her, she said she was literally going to puke and had to hold her mouth to keep it down. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 12:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/23 "2017-04-30T12:37:05Z")
> [@Smapti](#): > > Cite? Hey, he said “Many researchers show…?” Isn’t that enough for you people?! ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/24 "2017-04-30T12:38:17Z")
Oh dear. Maybe there was something else about the penisis she didn’t like, such as who they were attached to? Or maybe she was putting on a show for you, so you wouldn’t think she was enjoying looking at an other man’s penis? I’ve never had any incline that someone else didn’t like my penis. I think some women probably think a penis can be a bit funny, and they’re right. How does your theory cope with women who don’t want anything in return other than the sex itself? (E.g., one night stands with no strings attached.) ---
**Author:** ![Deanna\_D](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e495f1/32.png) [@Deanna\_D](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Deanna_D)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/25 "2017-04-30T12:38:42Z")
> [@Faylasouf](#): > > Oh ffs. Just google it like I told you. There’s millions of women saying the same thing, not just one random youtube gal. > > And everything else I said still holds. If you want proof about the penis cutting reaction I’ll gladly show you the links. Oh, I am so sorry, but I don’t think I have time to Google that right now. I’ve decided instead to spend my time on conducting some real-life research on an actual man. I’m sure he won’t mind being my research subject. And hey, maybe he’ll be so grateful that I let him do the deed, he’ll buy me some stuff! I love being a woman! ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/26 "2017-04-30T12:50:37Z")
[quote=“Faylasouf, post:5, topic:785564”] Oh, here we go. We’ll start with this video: [/QUOTE] Dude, that’s a bunch of semi comedic flippant answers to some silly questions. ---
**Author:** ![Faylasouf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3be4f8/32.png) [@Faylasouf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Faylasouf)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 12:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/27 "2017-04-30T12:51:32Z")
> [@Smapti](#): > > Cite? I know I read another research paper but I can’t find it. This one seems close enough: > **[What Women Want (Maybe) (Published 2008)](https://www.nytimes.com/2008/06/12/fashion/12bisex.html)** > > A new documentary about bisexuality provides scientific evidence that places female sexuality along a continuum between heterosexuality and homosexuality, rather than as an either-or phenomenon. > [@](#): > > Dr. Chivers, a research fellow at the Center for Addiction and Mental Health at the University of Toronto, says she has data to support this assertion. She recently published results of a study in which she showed people video clips of naked men and women in various sexual and nonsexual situations and measured their genital arousal. > > Heterosexual women, Dr. Chivers and her colleagues found, were no more excited by athletic naked men doing yoga or tossing stones into the ocean than they were by the control footage: long pans of the snowcapped Himalayas. When straight women viewed a video of a naked woman doing calisthenics, on the other hand, their blood flow increased significantly. > > … > > And when Dr. Chivers asked her subjects to rate their own arousal to the videos they watched, the women, whether gay or straight, tended to give higher ratings to films showing women. “Heterosexual women are responding to women, which is counterintuitive,” Dr. Chivers said. “Why are women so turned on by watching other women?” **Straight and gay men, as well as lesbians, were more predictably aroused by images of their preferred sex** , Dr. Chivers found. ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 1:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/28 "2017-04-30T13:01:29Z")
According to your cite, women are more aroused by sensual images, including men and women, than of just naked pictures. It says, for example, that they respond to footage of masturbation. None of this supports your claim that women don’t find men attractive or that they think penises are ugly, it’s just saying they tend to get physically aroused by different things than men do. Because I’m not a women, I’m not about to make any assertions about the accuracy of the study or its claims. ---
**Author:** ![Ruken](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f475e1/32.png) [@Ruken](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruken)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 1:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/29 "2017-04-30T13:08:49Z")
There is a group that lives elsewhere on the internet that self-labels as “incel”, or “involuntarily celibate” that has peculiar views about women, particularly about when they will or will not “give” men sex. ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 1:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/30 "2017-04-30T13:12:01Z")
> [@Faylasouf](#): > > I think men greatly underestimate the amount of disgust women feel towards this part of the male anatomy. I think you overestimate how homogeneous women are in their thinking. > [@](#): > > First question you would ask is why then do women have sex with men? Well it’s a transaction. If a man gives her enough resources and emotional commitment, she will give him sex in return. She’ll allow the penis to go inside her. She doesn’t feel any attraction to it, she just knows it makes her man happy, and if he’s happy then she’s happy. Er… are you aware that women enjoy sex, and can even have orgasms? Maybe they enjoy sex because it feels good? Along with other potential reasons. > [@](#): > > Why is rape so horrible to women? It’s two-fold: > The first thing is that a woman expects to get something in return for sex, either an emotional bond or something material. During rape the man takes it for free, he gives her nothing. This is obviously very bad for her. > The second is the fact women find the penis repulsive. In order to allow it inside her she first needs to psychologically cope with it, she needs to think of it as a necessary part of an emotional bond no matter how disgusting she finds it. In rape there is no bond, the penis going inside is as repulsive to her as a spider crawling around in your mouth. You don’t think think that rape is horrible because it often comes with a physical beating/harm? Potential unwanted pregnancy? In many cultures a raped woman is outcast from society, potentially even _executed_ - you don’t think that maybe, just maybe, that might have something to do with women finding rape horrible? I don’t think it’s so much that women find penises disgusting as they don’t find them nearly as wonderful and fascinating as men do. Women don’t actually _need_ a penis for sexual gratification or, since the invention of the turkey baster, even to get pregnant. Many women _want_ a penis, in the sense of wanting to engage in sexual intercourse with a penis-possessor, because such activities can be fun, but they don’t _need_ one. And some men find this threatening. They want women to _need_ them, and if women don’t _need_ them why, then, there must be some greed-based motivation (Gifts! Money! Resources! Free booze at bars!) for women to associate with them. Women couldn’t _possibly_ want to associate with men for reasons like common interests, or a mutual hobby, or friendship because, you know, they’re _women_ and not like real people like other men. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 1:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/31 "2017-04-30T13:17:10Z")
How do these people find this board? It’s as if ignorance were counterattacking. (And what is the “Great Debate” anyway?) ---
**Author:** ![Smapti](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/smapti/32/17938_2.png) [@Smapti](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smapti)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 1:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/32 "2017-04-30T13:19:38Z")
> [@Faylasouf](#): > > My own gf hasn’t told me word for word that she finds penises disgusting, but I’ve picked up on it cause once a man sent her a dick pick she was visibly enraged and revolted, telling him it looked like a piece of stool (his penis looked fine). Another time a friend of hers flashed his penis in front of her, she said she was literally going to puke and had to hold her mouth to keep it down. Perhaps what you should take from this is “women don’t like when men whip their dicks out in front of them uninvited”, not “women find dicks inherently repulsive and only sex men in order to get stuff from them”. ---
**Author:** ![Bill\_Door](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/50afbb/32.png) [@Bill\_Door](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bill_Door)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/33 "2017-04-30T13:23:23Z")
**Faylasouf** , describe in single words. Only the good things that come to your mind. About your mother. ---
**Author:** ![sevenwood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/6de8d8/32.png) [@sevenwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sevenwood)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 1:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/34 "2017-04-30T13:53:53Z")
> [@Richard\_Pearse](#): > > I think some women probably think a penis can be a bit funny, and they’re right [Elaine Benes] “I don’t know how you guys walk with those things.” [/Elaine Benes] ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 1:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/35 "2017-04-30T13:54:29Z")
That’s enough, children. I find there to be potentially enough of a debate to stay here. As such, keep it impersonal. I may not agree with the OP, but he deserves to be heard out. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/36 "2017-04-30T13:57:50Z")
nm ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/37 "2017-04-30T14:16:57Z")
> [@Jonathan\_Chance](#): > > That’s enough, children. I find there to be potentially enough of a debate to stay here. As such, keep it impersonal. I may not agree with the OP, but he deserves to be heard out. Sure. I look forward to the companion thread, “Do men like looking at naked women?” ---
**Author:** ![Filbert](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/filbert/32/3433_2.png) [@Filbert](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Filbert)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/38 "2017-04-30T14:43:17Z")
> [@Faylasouf](#): > > My own gf hasn’t told me word for word that she finds penises disgusting, but I’ve picked up on it cause once a man sent her a dick pick she was visibly enraged and revolted, telling him it looked like a piece of stool (his penis looked fine). Another time a friend of hers flashed his penis in front of her, she said she was literally going to puke and had to hold her mouth to keep it down. Riiight… I mostly think penes look, frankly, a little funny, in the amusing sense. They don’t, truth be told, look all that attractive to me, a female woman, but they do, when used correctly, feel nice. I don’t find them repulsive, but I wouldn’t necessarily want pictures of them hung on the wall. On the other hand, when I got flashed by a neighbour, I didn’t find that funny, I found it pretty disgusting, repulsive and threatening. A penis attached to a guy I like, who is acting in an appropriate fashion is perfectly pleasant. Its appearance (even an unexpected appearance) is likely cause for happiness and excitement, in fact. An unexpected penis attached to a guy I don’t know, or have no desire to engage in happy fun times with, who is acting in an inappropriate manner is quite a different thing, _despite the remarkably similar appearance of the penis itself_. To use a common analogy: I enjoy eating cake, I do not enjoy being forced to eat cake. I want to choose my cake and eat it. ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/39 "2017-04-30T15:01:16Z")
> [@Filbert](#): > > To use a common analogy: I enjoy eating cake, I do not enjoy being forced to eat cake. I want to choose my cake and eat it. You know you only eat the cake to get the ice cream! ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2017, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-find-male-genitals-replusive-and-most-men-dont-even-know-it/785564/40 "2017-04-30T15:06:53Z")
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