# Women, Have You Ever Given A Number Rating to a Man? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 21, 2010, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-have-you-ever-given-a-number-rating-to-a-man/536892 "2010-04-21T18:00:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-have-you-ever-given-a-number-rating-to-a-man/536892/21 "2010-04-22T02:28:04Z")
Nope. That doesn’t mean we don’t discuss their looks, but not by numbers. It’s usually more specific than just saying, “he’s a 5/3/10/whatever”. ---
**Author:** ![GilaB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8e7dd6/32.png) [@GilaB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GilaB)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-have-you-ever-given-a-number-rating-to-a-man/536892/22 "2010-04-22T02:51:23Z")
Only if very specifically pushed to do so by my husband, although more often he’ll ask me to rate other women. (He also uses percentages rather than a 1-10 rating system, ie ‘top 20%,’ ‘top third’ etc.) It’s not something that would ever occur to me otherwise. ---
**Author:** ![KarlGrenze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dbc845/32.png) [@KarlGrenze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarlGrenze)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-have-you-ever-given-a-number-rating-to-a-man/536892/23 "2010-04-22T03:11:20Z")
Not by numbers, but certainly if something I or someone else in the group sees something attractive, heads are turned and we looked at each other with approving (or disapproving) looks. At one capoeira meeting, my group was just females and one token guy. We were all together, looking around and seeing the guys (some of which were quite cute), and then realized the guy from our group was at that time shirtless. We looked at him, then look at each other and said “well, it’s not bad”. Similarly, we look at some of the higher ranked guys and appreciate their physiques, and make comments as to whether or not we would like to see them shirtless. And this is with friends. With my family, many times have I been walking with aunt/mom/sister, look at a guy passing by, and then listen to my companion say “That guy’s hot!!!” or something similar. But no, I don’t think I’ve used numbers. ---
**Author:** ![KarlGrenze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dbc845/32.png) [@KarlGrenze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarlGrenze)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 3:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-have-you-ever-given-a-number-rating-to-a-man/536892/24 "2010-04-22T03:13:24Z")
BTW, I don’t see anything bad about finding people attractive or not based on superficial traits. It’s when those superficial traits define how you interact with the person that they become a problem. For example, people (of either sex) whose dates have bad personalities and are incompatible, but they’re “just so hot”. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-have-you-ever-given-a-number-rating-to-a-man/536892/25 "2010-04-22T03:21:30Z")
> [@Perciful](#): > > I am with you all. A man is a lot more then just his looks. The OP says a man one has _just met_. What do you know about anyone other than what they look like at that point? Not much. But no, I don’t think rating men is that common. They rate themselves if you ask them to - see several threads here asking dopers to do that - but women rating them? It surely happens, but it isn’t common. I didn’t suppose men go around rating every woman they meet as a general rule, either, though. ---
**Author:** ![Electric\_Warrior](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@Electric\_Warrior](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electric_Warrior)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-have-you-ever-given-a-number-rating-to-a-man/536892/26 "2010-04-22T03:29:33Z")
Sure. My friends and I sometimes do it for fun and to be shallow, and we enjoy our moments of shallowness in a world that tends to criticize us for it. I won’t and can’t apply numbers to people I’m in a relationship with - to me that makes them an 11. I should also mention I’ve been majorly attracted to people who I wouldn’t rate above a 5. Personality is so important, and it’s not about what lot you drew looks-wise, it’s what you do with it. ---
**Author:** ![Tethered\_Kite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a5b964/32.png) [@Tethered\_Kite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tethered_Kite)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 4:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-have-you-ever-given-a-number-rating-to-a-man/536892/27 "2010-04-22T04:15:03Z")
If I ever commented to a friend on a man’s appearance with a rating system it would have to be one of my very youngest friends and then she’d know I was making a jest. Actually just thinking about it makes me feel a little slimy. Often it isn’t the physical body appearance at all that causes a second glance. It may be a colorful touch in the clothing that indicates a playful spirit. Or it may be a certain mannerism or way of walking which catches my eye. Or noticing the way he interacts with others around him. And definitely good eye contact is attractive. What’s good eye contact? Not staring at body parts, attentiveness, little crinklies around the eyes when there’s levity. How do you give a number to healthy human connection with someone? Just got back from the pet shop a little while ago and a kid young enough to be my grandchild helped me with some tadpoles. He was so “right there” and natural in his interaction with me that I think I fell a little in grandma love with the guy! ---
**Author:** ![Essured](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/278dde/32.png) [@Essured](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Essured)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 7:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-have-you-ever-given-a-number-rating-to-a-man/536892/28 "2010-04-22T07:25:50Z")
Yup, often. Especially if we’re just hanging around. Mostly when I was in my 20s, but it still occasionally happens. It is only about physical aspects - we’re rating total strangers on looks, not personality or anything else. Normally we all get a laugh at how astronomically different our ratings are, and then that leads to a chat about what we find physically attractive and different tastes, which then leads into other things we find attractive, which then leads to another round and chatting about something entirely different, i.e, it’s just mild chatter, usually started if someone in the group notices a random stranger they find extremely attractive, during a conversation lull ---
**Author:** ![mnemosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@mnemosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mnemosyne)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-have-you-ever-given-a-number-rating-to-a-man/536892/29 "2010-04-22T16:01:21Z")
Never. The closest I’ve come to such a thing is reducing a drunken debate about the relative physical merits of [Vinny Lecavalier](http://www4.images.coolspotters.com/photos/140413/vincent-lecavalier-profile.png)and [Carey Price](http://habsinsideout.com/files/hio/images/Habs%20presser01.preview.JPG) to us yelling “Four!” “Thirty-one!” "Four! “Thirty-one!” at one another for a few minutes. But then we both remembered the existence of [number Thirty](http://i305.photobucket.com/albums/nn237/pickmyteeth/Henrik%20Lundqvist/HenrikLundqvist.jpg) and the whole argument was rendered moot. So not only did we not really use a number rating, the scale made no sense either. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-have-you-ever-given-a-number-rating-to-a-man/536892/30 "2010-04-22T16:32:59Z")
> [@Perciful](#): > > I am with you all. A man is a lot more then just his looks. > [@Sunspace](#): > > This is… encouraging. Not really. Now I have to figure out what _else_ I’ve got to worry about. 😃 > [@elfkin477](#): > > I didn’t suppose men go around rating every woman they meet as a general rule, either, though. Yes. Yes we do. You’re a 9, by the way. 😉 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-have-you-ever-given-a-number-rating-to-a-man/536892.md?page=1)