# Women: hot and lousy in bed or ugly and great in bed? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 14, 2008, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-hot-and-lousy-in-bed-or-ugly-and-great-in-bed/437622 "2008-02-14T17:49:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2011, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-hot-and-lousy-in-bed-or-ugly-and-great-in-bed/437622/41 "2011-07-26T15:59:30Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > To be perfectly honest, I would rather masturbate than sleep with either of them. Gets it in one. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2011, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-hot-and-lousy-in-bed-or-ugly-and-great-in-bed/437622/42 "2011-07-26T16:24:13Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > Oh, and I don’t know if this is even an issue, but sex is possible with the unattractive one because you can get aroused **knowing** how good he is in bed. Am I psychic in this scenario, or does he bring letters of reference? ---
**Author:** ![otternell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecc23a/32.png) [@otternell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/otternell)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2011, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-hot-and-lousy-in-bed-or-ugly-and-great-in-bed/437622/43 "2011-07-26T16:47:35Z")
**Olives** has the best answer. But the Zombie Johnny Depp is also an awesome answer - as long as his flesh wasn’t actually decomposing I could see this. Otherwise, being forced to choose: ugly and awesome in bed sounds like my route. ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2011, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-hot-and-lousy-in-bed-or-ugly-and-great-in-bed/437622/44 "2011-07-26T17:50:55Z")
If the hot guy in question is Alexander Skarsgård, then I’ll go with that option. nom nom nom nom nom nom Otherwise, I’ll take the ugly guy. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [July 26, 2011, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-hot-and-lousy-in-bed-or-ugly-and-great-in-bed/437622/45 "2011-07-26T17:58:10Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > but sex is possible with the unattractive one because you can get aroused knowing how good he is in bed. This is impossible for me. ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2011, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-hot-and-lousy-in-bed-or-ugly-and-great-in-bed/437622/46 "2011-07-27T01:54:53Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > This is impossible for me. You seem to be an outlier. I can’t possibly fathom having sex with _any_ attractive guy who wasn’t enthusiastic. Not even the Deppmeister. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2011, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-hot-and-lousy-in-bed-or-ugly-and-great-in-bed/437622/47 "2011-07-27T05:45:48Z")
This may not be the answer you are looking for - I’m guessing you want folks to make a choice between one or the other. My choice is neither. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2011, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-hot-and-lousy-in-bed-or-ugly-and-great-in-bed/437622/48 "2011-07-27T18:29:30Z")
> [@rachelellogram](#): > > You seem to be an outlier. I can’t possibly fathom having sex with _any_ attractive guy who wasn’t enthusiastic. Not even the Deppmeister. It wouldn’t be great, but if the alternative is attempting to have sex with someone who is physically unattractive to me… ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2011, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-hot-and-lousy-in-bed-or-ugly-and-great-in-bed/437622/49 "2011-07-27T18:31:21Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > It wouldn’t be great, but if the alternative is attempting to have sex with someone who is physically unattractive to me… I don’t understand the point of sex with someone you aren’t attracted to. A big part of what makes sex good is the attraction to the other person. ---
**Author:** ![alexandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e68b1a/32.png) [@alexandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alexandra)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2011, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-hot-and-lousy-in-bed-or-ugly-and-great-in-bed/437622/50 "2011-07-27T19:58:59Z")
I’d be totally excited by the idea of having someone who’s amazing in bed. I’d definitely go for that option! I could easily get past the ugly thing, and even someone being too fat. Although…contradicting what I just said, shagging someone very skinny is not a nice idea for me. ---
**Author:** ![Lacunae\_Matata](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@Lacunae\_Matata](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lacunae_Matata)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2011, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-hot-and-lousy-in-bed-or-ugly-and-great-in-bed/437622/51 "2011-07-27T21:36:11Z")
Honestly? I’ve tried both. My husband is rather overweight (but working to change that,) and won’t win any prizes based on looks. But he has his hidden talents! So yeah, option b. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-hot-and-lousy-in-bed-or-ugly-and-great-in-bed/437622.md?page=2)