# Women, how do men act in your fantasies? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 6, 2006, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-do-men-act-in-your-fantasies/367508 "2006-08-06T00:18:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![wonderlust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonderlust/32/7237_2.png) [@wonderlust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonderlust)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2006, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-do-men-act-in-your-fantasies/367508/21 "2006-08-07T03:29:53Z")
[QUOTE=CanvasShoes] Very confident and strong. He’ll pin my wrists over my head, he’ll back me up against a wall, a hand on either side so that I can’t escape and kiss me just right (which of course leads to mad passionate love being made on the carpet in the hallway :D). But all of the “taken in hand” actions are done with the utmost in respect and the knowledge that the teensiest peep of a “no” from me would result in my release. It is the controlled power, the confidence, and the deep down love and affection for women that the man naturally possesses, that I find such a turn on. [/QUOTE] Yes, _exactly_ that. ---
**Author:** ![tashabot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tashabot/32/6250_2.png) [@tashabot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tashabot)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2006, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-do-men-act-in-your-fantasies/367508/22 "2006-08-07T06:14:13Z")
Like they give a shit. No, seriously. Up until this boyfriend every guy I had been with didn’t give a crap if I came or not. They did their business with almost no foreplay and then went to sleep. And they wondered why I dumped their asses. The Tashaboy performs very admirably, though - almost a fantasy on it’s own. 😉 ~Tasha ---
**Author:** ![Kythereia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e8c25b/32.png) [@Kythereia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kythereia)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2006, 6:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-do-men-act-in-your-fantasies/367508/23 "2006-08-07T06:54:25Z")
Nobody is wearing any clothes. If they are, they’re not for long. 😉 But seriously. There’s a lot of action and adventure, and some hurt/comfort death scenes, and some sappy romantic stuff. Mostly? It’s all porn. What else are fantasies for? ---
**Author:** ![meenie7](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7993a0/32.png) [@meenie7](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/meenie7)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2006, 7:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-do-men-act-in-your-fantasies/367508/24 "2006-08-07T07:37:24Z")
Well, first of all, as I’ve mentioned in another thread once, I’m usually a guy in my fantasies myself, interacting with other guys in a sexual manner. 🙂 So, as I’m also said before, my fantasies involve the characters from the books I write. I have a fascination with first times, particularly in these gay fantasies…there’s a certain barrier between men that fascinates me, a certain “there will be no touching!” even between close male friends, that makes even a little kiss, the type of thing I would give to a female friend without reserve and without fear of it being taken as “lesbian” at all, this sort of huge breach of protocol, and therefore so transgressive and sexy to me. My current fantasies mostly involve my characters David, who has training as a massage therapist and is mostly blind, and Julian, who has pain problems with his back and his leg due to injuries he recieved in the book he’s in, and also has a lot of trouble letting himself be loved. David has a crush on Julian, and knows for a fact that he’s gay, so he goes about trying to seduce him a bit and convince him that it’s okay to fall in love, and nothing bad will happen. So, I imagine massages, and little kisses and pets that turn into more, and then Julian says, no, no, we have to stop, and David backs off but just keeps at it later, until finally, he gets Julian to tell him why he’s so mistrustful of love and so denying of the attraction they clearly share, and then convinces him that it’s okay to give in to his feelings. 🙂 So, basically, it’s a sort of kind, slow seduction, I guess. ---
**Author:** ![Raguleader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/258eb7/32.png) [@Raguleader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Raguleader)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2006, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-do-men-act-in-your-fantasies/367508/25 "2006-08-07T16:14:50Z")
[QUOTE=meenie7] So, as I’m also said before, my fantasies involve the characters from the books I write. I have a fascination with first times, particularly in these gay fantasies…there’s a certain barrier between men that fascinates me, a certain “there will be no touching!” even between close male friends, that makes even a little kiss, the type of thing I would give to a female friend without reserve and without fear of it being taken as “lesbian” at all, this sort of huge breach of protocol, and therefore so transgressive and sexy to me. [/QUOTE] Wow… so… you write slashfic based on your own work? Somehow… that’s pretty awesome. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![meenie7](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7993a0/32.png) [@meenie7](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/meenie7)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2006, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-do-men-act-in-your-fantasies/367508/26 "2006-08-07T17:55:10Z")
[QUOTE=Raguleader] Wow… so… you write slashfic based on your own work? Somehow… that’s pretty awesome. 😃 [/QUOTE] Hee hee 🙂 Well, some of it is slashfic. David and Julian are gay in the story, and really do end up together, so what I’m imagining is just canon I haven’t written yet. 🙂 On the other hand, Julian has a friend named Paul when he’s a teenager who he has a massive crush on, and Paul is not gay at all (though perfectly open-minded and not judgemental of Julian at all). Sometimes, I like to imagine ways in which Julian might…breach the treaty between them, as it were. It usually involves a lot of alcohol. 🙂 Also, I never really write it. I just think it. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-do-men-act-in-your-fantasies/367508.md?page=1)