# Women: how large should men's penises be? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 1, 2017, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500 "2017-04-01T14:40:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2017, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/21 "2017-04-03T02:57:22Z")
> [@DrForrester](#): > > If only there were some consumer product, meant to simulate a penis, that could be designed objectively with the best possible size and shape needed to provide maximum pleasure to the user… > > […] > > Nope. Can’t think of one. Sorry. The odd thing is the bewildering variety of sizes and shapes of devices that are available. Almost makes you think that maybe personal preference enters into which is best and there’s no generalized answer to the OP’s sensible question. Whodathunkit? OTOH, I’d wager the average toy is 10-20% bigger than the average real one. And that’s ignoring the truly horrifically oversized ones. So to a first approximation we already know the answer to the OP’s Q. ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2017, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/22 "2017-04-03T03:03:27Z")
> [@Trinopus](#): > > Is it true that if the tip bumps into the woman’s cervix, it’s painful (to the woman?) … It doesn’t feel too good for the man, either. Oy – my problems, you should have. ---
**Author:** ![DorkVader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/73ab20/32.png) [@DorkVader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DorkVader)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2017, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/23 "2017-04-03T03:25:01Z")
Mrs. guest says this, “is it up? then put it in! It’s all good” so either ‘no change’ or ‘other’ she’s deliberately vague about stuff like this, probably to shield me from the hurtful truth. The European dude in scrubs at the Big He clinic does NOT fill me with confidence. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2017, 7:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/24 "2017-04-03T07:13:26Z")
Large enough that his owner feels comfortable, not so large that I’d feel uncomfortable. Cannot answer the poll as it is completely nonsensical. ---
**Author:** ![blindboyard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blindboyard/32/2833_2.png) [@blindboyard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blindboyard)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2017, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/25 "2017-04-03T18:30:18Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > In all seriousness, I have been told that women like girth much more than length. Length is basically useless except for odd sexual positions because the vagina only has significant nerve endings near the front. Excessive length is also bad, sad even, because it is harder to stay erect much like birthday clown animal balloons two days later. It doesn’t matter how big it is if you are much more FLOP than BOING! Hence the saying: Long and thin goes too far in, but short and thick does the trick. ---
**Author:** ![DrCube](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a3d4f5/32.png) [@DrCube](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrCube)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2017, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/26 "2017-04-03T21:29:43Z")
> [@LSLGuy](#): > > OTOH, I’d wager the average toy is 10-20% bigger than the average real one. And that’s ignoring the truly horrifically oversized ones. So to a first approximation we already know the answer to the OP’s Q. I’d wager that dildo size varies even more than actual penis size, so there are no answers coming from that direction. Except for the fact that the only answer is “more variety”. ---
**Author:** ![Tranquilis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tranquilis/32/3639_2.png) [@Tranquilis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tranquilis)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2017, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/27 "2017-04-04T19:16:26Z")
> [@Llama\_Llogophile](#): > > Long enough to reach the ground. Amputate legs? ---
**Author:** ![peedin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/peedin/32/14095_2.png) [@peedin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/peedin)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2017, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/28 "2017-04-04T19:36:13Z")
Doesn’t need to touch bottom, but gotta be hell on the sides. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2017, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/29 "2017-04-04T19:45:22Z")
Had to take a look at the results so far. Seems not many women care enough to even vote. Anyway, there’s a joke about ‘medium’ and ‘rare’ but it doesn’t work that well in written form. ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2017, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/30 "2017-04-04T19:45:59Z")
I believe a man can add some length and girth by holding off on ejaculating for several days. More so with younger men if my own experience can be generalized. It really does turn a woman on when she suddenly sees it bigger than normal. They have this uncontrallable urge to put it in their mouth. I don’t get very excited by a woman blowing me to excite ( still enjoy it) But I get real excited when I feel like they have fallen in love with my dick. ---
**Author:** ![Sir\_T-Cups](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Sir\_T-Cups](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sir_T-Cups)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2017, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/31 "2017-04-04T19:50:06Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > Had to take a look at the results so far. Seems not many women care enough to even vote. > > Anyway, there’s a joke about ‘medium’ and ‘rare’ but it doesn’t work that well in written form. If the joke doesn’t end with the woman sighing and saying “well done”, then it’s not a joke I want to hear! ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2017, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/32 "2017-04-04T20:50:47Z")
> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#): > > I believe a man can add some length and girth by holding off on ejaculating for several days. How in the world does this make sense? ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2017, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/33 "2017-04-04T21:17:22Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > How in the world does this make sense? Why in the world didn’t you quote the entire post? ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2017, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/34 "2017-04-04T22:13:33Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Why in the world didn’t you quote the entire post? Why in the world would I? It wasnt relevant to my question. Seriously, huh? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2017, 5:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/35 "2017-04-07T05:40:31Z")
> [@Tranquilis](#): > > Amputate legs? Just spare the third one. ---
**Author:** ![Riemann](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/riemann/32/3133_2.png) [@Riemann](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Riemann)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2017, 8:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/36 "2017-04-07T08:40:13Z")
There is science. Women’s Preferences for Penis Size: A New Research Method Using Selection among 3D Models > **[Women's Preferences for Penis Size: A New Research Method Using Selection...](https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371%2Fjournal.pone.0133079)** > > Women’s preferences for penis size may affect men’s comfort with their own bodies and may have implications for sexual health. Studies of women’s penis size preferences typically have relied on their abstract ratings or selecting amongst 2D, flaccid... > [@](#): > > Women (N = 75) selected amongst 33, 3D models. Women recalled model size accurately using this method, although they made more errors with respect to penis length than circumference. Women preferred a penis of slightly larger circumference and length for one-time (length = 6.4 inches/16.3 cm, circumference = 5.0 inches/12.7 cm) versus long-term (length = 6.3 inches/16.0 cm, circumference = 4.8 inches/12.2 cm) sexual partners. These first estimates of erect penis size preferences using 3D models suggest women accurately recall size and prefer penises only slightly larger than average. ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2017, 12:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/37 "2017-04-07T12:21:02Z")
> [@](#): > > These first estimates of erect penis size preferences using 3D models suggest women accurately recall size and prefer penises only slightly larger than average. Oh, yeah? Well, then I’m gonna prefer women’s breasts only “slightly larger than average”. See how you like that! ---
**Author:** ![Princhester](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Princhester](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Princhester)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2017, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/38 "2017-04-07T12:44:20Z")
> [@DrForrester](#): > > If only there were some consumer product, meant to simulate a penis, that could be designed objectively with the best possible size and shape needed to provide maximum pleasure to the user… > > […] > > Nope. Can’t think of one. Sorry. I think this is totally misleading though. I suspect a lot of oversize dildoes are bought as a joke or novelty. Also, you can buy a 12 inch dildo and insert it till you feel like stopping, even if that means there’s half of it left outside. But this doesn’t work so well if you have a guy with a 12 inch cock who wants to ram it all the way in. I really don’t know that there would be as much data to be obtained from this source as you might think. ---
**Author:** ![Darren\_Garrison](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darren_garrison/32/92_2.png) [@Darren\_Garrison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darren_Garrison)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2017, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/39 "2017-04-07T15:55:44Z")
> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#): > > I believe a man can add some length and girth by holding off on ejaculating for several days. More so with younger men if my own experience can be generalized. It really does turn a woman on when she suddenly sees it bigger than normal. They have this uncontrallable urge to put it in their mouth. I don’t get very excited by a woman blowing me to excite ( still enjoy it) But I get real excited when I feel like they have fallen in love with my dick. Okay, now I’m envisioning a meadow filled with wildflowers. A woman and HoneyBadgerDC’s exceedingly-swollen penis suddenly notice each other from across the distance and begin running towards each other in slow motion while [the love theme from Romeo and Juliet](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fHvnMi9_9mM) plays in the background… ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2017, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500/40 "2017-04-07T16:05:30Z")
Strictly out of scientific curiosity, I have taken private exit polls over the years which consistently demonstrate that women like both an exceptionally large girth and length. Oh, sorry, with all these recent threads, I get mixed up which window is the Dope and which is Penthouse Forum. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-large-should-mens-penises-be/783500.md?page=3)