# Women, how many orgasms? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 3, 2007, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684 "2007-05-03T23:47:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Chessic\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7c8e57/32.png) [@Chessic\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chessic_Sense)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2007, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/1 "2007-05-03T23:47:17Z")
How many times do you orgasm in one sex encounter, typically? Don’t count the ones where no one’s really trying. Include how long you’ve been with your partner for a general idea of how well they know “what it takes”. IntelGF averages about 3. ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/2 "2007-05-04T00:27:16Z")
Define “the ones where no one’s really trying” please? ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Push\_Up\_Bra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/edb3f5/32.png) [@Freudian\_Push\_Up\_Bra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Push_Up_Bra)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 12:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/3 "2007-05-04T00:32:02Z")
In the general lazy sort of sex, four. If he’s really concentrating on me, six. But they’re like small intensive waves so I tend to hold them until just before he’s done so they’re one big one. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 12:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/4 "2007-05-04T00:34:29Z")
:dubious: Why do you want to know? ---
**Author:** ![Chessic\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7c8e57/32.png) [@Chessic\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chessic_Sense)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/5 "2007-05-04T00:49:29Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] :dubious: Why do you want to know? [/QUOTE] Call it “collegiate debate”. GF’s friend was saying that it basically takes a touch to send her off. Then there was the thread about average penis length, and it segued into this. This is more or less an ongoing poll of people I run into around campus at parties and whatnot. It’s interesting party conversation to say the least. ETA: Oh, and by “no one’s really trying”, I mean like when neither party is really “into it” and they’re just looking for something quick to get them through the day, etc… ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/6 "2007-05-04T01:56:49Z")
Three or so. ---
**Author:** ![Olive\_The\_Other\_Reindeer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Olive\_The\_Other\_Reindeer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Olive_The_Other_Reindeer)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/7 "2007-05-04T04:13:01Z")
Usually, five to seven . . . On occasion, up to 10. Even better/worse, I’m a female ejaculator, and the bed gets pretty wet ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/8 "2007-05-04T04:29:02Z")
Dated \*\*Drachillix \*\* for 2 years, married to him for 5 years. We rarely engage in “just getting by/not really trying”. We average about my four to his one. I love him. A lot. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 6:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/9 "2007-05-04T06:16:42Z")
42, give or take. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 8:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/10 "2007-05-04T08:08:47Z")
Once, sometimes twice if we have the time to stay in bed longer. What counts as one orgasm? I have several contractions, but those are all within 4 to 5 seconds, so I count the whole thing as one. ---
**Author:** ![Baffle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/dec6dc/32.png) [@Baffle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baffle)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 8:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/11 "2007-05-04T08:37:03Z")
Zero. ---
**Author:** ![RedRosesForMe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/91b2a8/32.png) [@RedRosesForMe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RedRosesForMe)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 8:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/12 "2007-05-04T08:49:10Z")
Wow, I am amazed at these 4s and 6s. If I’m lucky, it’s 1, sometimes 2 if we go at it multiple times in an evening. Perhaps I’m just not having sex long enough? The number is 0 when he is on top- I haven’t found a single guy who can bring me to orgasm that way. Hell, I didn’t have my first orgasm from sex for the first 8 years I was sexually active, and I haven’t had an orgasm from cunnilingus in a decade. I’m not shy or embarassed, either- I’m very vocal and let him know exactly what I like. But, even after 2 years of really great sex with my last boyfriend, who was willing to try just about anything, still nothing if he’s on top. So I’ve pretty much given up. Funny thing is, I can orgasm in about 2 minutes when I masturbate. Oh well, I’m happy with my sex life (or at least I was). ---
**Author:** ![Marlitharn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/779978/32.png) [@Marlitharn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marlitharn)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 9:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/13 "2007-05-04T09:12:07Z")
One. After that, I’m done. Stop touching me, it’s painfully irritating. This still baffles my husband and we’ve been together 10 years. ---
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 10:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/14 "2007-05-04T10:11:38Z")
Not enough. Nope. Nowhere near enough. ---
**Author:** ![Lissla\_Lissar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@Lissla\_Lissar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lissla_Lissar)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/15 "2007-05-04T12:01:55Z")
Without _trying_? You have sex _without trying_? What’s the point? Three or four. If we’ve got more time and I’ve got more energy, from six up to fifteen. ---
**Author:** ![Avarie537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/48db29/32.png) [@Avarie537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avarie537)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 12:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/16 "2007-05-04T12:04:10Z")
Generally one. Sometimes two. Lucky bitches! ---
**Author:** ![Pixisis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@Pixisis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixisis)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/17 "2007-05-04T12:15:44Z")
with my current SO, 4-6 is typical. If he tries to be nice to me 10-12. I guess. He works crazy (long) hours so I haven’t really felt like asking for more (which he could easily do with a little refocussing). But my max is somewhere over 100. ( it’s really hard to keep track after 30 😃 ) A friend of mine sent over one of his friends to “cheer me up” when I was having a horrible time getting over a jerk. ( I knew he was bad news, just couldn’t stop thinking about him. It was like I was addicted. ) Anyway, this boy was **really** into watching girls orgasm. And since I can orgasm is “non traditional” ways, he would spend hours just seeing how many orgasms I could have. [sigh] I miss that boy, sometimes. ---
**Author:** ![Sierra\_Indigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f0a364/32.png) [@Sierra\_Indigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sierra_Indigo)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 12:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/18 "2007-05-04T12:22:05Z")
[QUOTE=Marlitharn] One. After that, I’m done. Stop touching me, it’s painfully irritating. This still baffles my husband and we’ve been together 10 years. [/QUOTE] Welcome to the world of the female refractory period, **Marli**. I’m your sister in the sologasm. Once it’s over, GTF off of me and stop touching it. It’s sensitive! Wiki seems to think if we work through our irritation we’d be capable of having more than one orgasm, but after I’m done it’s snoozy time so I’m never bothered enough to try. It amused my husband when we had sex the first few times. He was used to his exes who wanted to sit and cuddle and talk for hours after sex. I climbed off, curled up and started snoring before he did. ---
**Author:** ![Caricci](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/85f322/32.png) [@Caricci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Caricci)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/19 "2007-05-04T13:10:03Z")
Two usually, but the record was 4, but never during intercourse, but during foreplay. When we were newlyweds, I would have one during intercourse, but that was nearly 12 years ago. I used to be too sensitive after the first one to go for another but not anymore. Incidentally, the first orgasm and the second are very different from each other. ---
**Author:** ![Rhiannon8404](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rhiannon8404/32/17929_2.png) [@Rhiannon8404](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhiannon8404)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2007, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684/20 "2007-05-04T13:46:47Z")
[QUOTE=Sierra Indigo] Welcome to the world of the female refractory period, **Marli**. I’m your sister in the sologasm. Once it’s over, GTF off of me and stop touching it. It’s sensitive! [/QUOTE] Add me to the club. I _might_ have two if the first was mild, but after the big one it’s, “Wow, that was awesome, get off me, nighty-night, zzzzzzzzz…” ETA: We’ve been together 16 years, married almost 14. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-how-many-orgasms/402684.md?page=2)