It’s a little more casual than what I’d wear.
For a sleeveless dress, I’d recommend adding on something like this crocheted bolero. My usual church-event wear consists of a cream one of those, a brown chemise underneath, and a peach-and-brown skirt. That’s what I went to get my confirmation in (as an Episcopalian, yes, but we’re not all that different stylistically!), and I was not out of place.
Way, WAY too casual for a wedding. That’s something I’d have considered appropriate to wear to work, not a wedding. (Then again, I AM a big dress person)
Huh – I’ve always worn sleeveless dresses to church (yes, Catholic churches), and I never thought of it as any big deal. In fact, my cousin got married at a Catholic church, and his wife’s dress was strapless (it was beautiful) – and a good thing. The church wasn’t air-conditioned.
Each church is different irt dresses. My priest said no to a strapless dress. If the wife showed up with one either shed have to put this poncho thing over it or he wouldn’t have married us.
I don’t like the blouse. I like the pants but not for a wedding. The shoes are not fancy enough either.
( O/T - I hate hate hate the strapless wedding gown and don’t know why it’s stuck around for years and years - I read where brides can’t FIND anything different in the shops, because apparently sleeves and a neckline are passe. :mad: So every bride, from a 90 lb. stick insect to a full-figured 300 lbs. is crammed into the strapless, and maybe one in a dozen look all right in it. … Beatrice’s hat thing sold for over $130,000 :eek: but at least the proceeds are going to charity!)
(sorry for continuing the hijack but yeah - they are just horrendous. Beyond my personal feeling it’s not particularly classy on one’s wedding day, nearly all women, even slender ones, end up with back bacon overhang. The bodice rarely fits correctly, you get that nasty armpit-boob-fat bulge going on… just yuck. When my sister went shopping for wedding dresses it was either the strapless bejewelled thing, or terribly matronly high-necked dresses, nothing inbetween. 'Tis why I eloped in navy blue Max Azria)
What time is the wedding? The later the wedding, the fancier the outfit.
No. Your outfit is not even on the borderline, either.
Just because the other 364 days out of the year they’re dressed like it came from Goodwill or the consignment shop does not mean they don’t want you and everyone else to dress like it’s the happiest day of their lives. Two guys did this at my best friend from college’s wedding and they looked like assholes. No pants, either. Skirt at minimum, dress is better.
Heh, think that’s bad? At one family wedding a few years ago, one of our cousins wore a tee-shirt and a pair of black cords. Ugh!
Do you have a picture of your dress, btw?
Strapless dresses might be more comfortable, since they’re cooler. You don’t get all hot and over-heated. Personally, it all depends on the dress. I’ve seen some that are ugly, and some that are beautiful. I’d prefer something vintage looking myself. (Sleeveless or not)
Wow! That is casual.
I don’t want to believe you. I want to call you a filthy liar. But I know, deep down, that this it must be true.
Wedding dress? Not getting hitched for awhile. Or did you mean the dress I wore to his wedding? Hmm, it was like this (Steeler colors!) but it was black/white floral print and the straps were thinner, like 2 or 2.5" thick. I had a thin sweater covering the shoulders too, IIRC. I prefer cocktail dresses but this was a daytime wedding too. (And before anyone else says OMG $140 that’s 3 videogames, this dress is also quite cute and perfectly acceptable at a daytime wedding.)
:smack: I did laugh out loud re-reading it though.
Yeah, I’d say it’s too casual. I could see getting a nice floral skirt to match the shirt, and that would be fine. “Formal enough” I’d say.
And I don’t want to be the fashion police, but I wouldn’t wear brown shoes with a blue top. Even those nice shoes and a navy top.
What happened to the post where I suggested this??? It’s gone… but clearly it was here for a while…?
Whatever - I had some bitch show up in sweat pants and uggs with an uninvited guest. She then got in a snit when I tried to accommodate her and her tag along at a table other than the one she wanted. Total cunt.
Anyhoo OP, your outfit is delightful for work but totally inappropriate for a wedding, particularly if you’re doing a reading. Personally I think the blouse with skirt would be too casual for the wedding you describe as well, and the shoes are totally out. Either do a quick juice diet before the wedding so your pretty dress fits, get your dress altered to fit your current bigness, or buy a new dress. If you shop at the beginning of July, you can likely find spring dresses on sale and not have to break the bank.
Juice diet? That’s such a checks forum not… good… idea. The wedding’s in July. It’s currently late May. To the OP: are you more than, say, ten pounds from fitting into the dress? If not, do you think you could start up a moderate exercise regime right now, and reduce food intake, specifically junk food, treats and snacks (think of it as recovering some money after spending some bucks on this wedding)? Then consider the dress. If you are more than ten pounds from fitting in the dress, take it out of the equation. I personally am not against pants for a wedding guest, especially if they look like the ones you linked to, but you’d need a much dressier top, something fitted. Some women are just not comfortable in dresses; nothing wrong with that. Start looking for either a dress, or a nice top. If the choice is cheap-looking dress, versus classier fitted shirt/pants combo, I know which I’d choose.
I think you win the thread. Was she a relative or a boss? Otherwise I can’t see why you didn’t kick her right the hell out. That’s awful.
OP, I linked to that Sears dress…I didn’t think Sears sold anything but appliances and tools, but you might wanna check it out if money’s a concern. I’m gonna check it out the next time I’m in a shopping area. I was pretty surprised at the # of cute dresses under $30. DSW is also a good place for shoes. Moleskin on new shoes is your friend too.
Relative of my husband - not too much I could do there.
And a Juice diet over a week or two to get rid of extra water and pudge is really no big deal - actresses do it before awards shows all the time to look their best in their fancy dresses. I wouldn’t do it for months at a time 'cus that really is a bad idea, but for a week? Meh.
Obviously if the dress is 20 pounds away from fitting, a juice diet is not the way to go.
For a Catholic church, isn’t some kind of hat or veil pretty much standard?
I’m in agreement that slacks are not appropriate for this wedding, and that brown shoes are probably less than ideal with a navy top.
Also, very long earrings probably aren’t appropriate unless you are in evening wear or Edwardian dress. My experience with women in upscale outfits is that they don’t do more than, say, an inch long earrings with dressy day wear. (Casual wear and long funky earrings are different.)
The outfit you’ve described would be ideal for a nice work occasion. Very attractive outfit. But not for a wedding. For a wedding, you want a floral print or solids in pastels or dusty/muted colors. Skirt, not pants. You can pull off a business suit if it’s not too dark and you wear a very dressy blouse and jewelry. Otherwise wear a dress or two-piece outfit (as opposed to just some skirt and blouse).
Covered heads haven’t been standard in Catholic churches since Vatican II. It’s entirely POSSIBLE that this church may be full of old traditional ladies wearing hats, but it’s equally possible that there won’t be a hat in the place.
nods Understandable. Still, it would have been warranted if you beat her with a rusty paddle.
