# Women making the first move **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 15, 2010, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-making-the-first-move/529117 "2010-02-15T20:53:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2010, 11:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-making-the-first-move/529117/81 "2010-02-19T11:49:26Z")
> [@dukette71](#): > > Here is what I have found (not bringing into it my bad taste in men)- > > Men don’t have to be especially interested in someone to date them. I do. So I ask a guy out, go out a few times just to find that I am waaaay more interested in him than he is in me. I have to dump him because I had hoped for more. It has nothing to do with being too much of a wall flower to ask a guy out, I just don’t want to waste time with someone who isn’t that into me. But that’s a large part of what dating _is_. Spending time with people who, it turns out, aren’t that into you, or who you aren’t that into. If you hadn’t asked them out, you’d just still be wondering whether that could have gone somewhere, and it’s not as though a million women can’t attest that a guy can ask you out, and still be not all that into you. Me, I figure that you miss out on a lot in life by waiting to be chosen, rather than choosing. ---
**Author:** ![Khaki\_Campbell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9de053/32.png) [@Khaki\_Campbell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khaki_Campbell)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2010, 12:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-making-the-first-move/529117/82 "2010-02-19T12:27:25Z")
> [@Cyn](#): > > Speaking just for me, as a woman > > 1. chocolate Speaking (unfortunately) from experience : astrology. That’s why I’m always :dubious: when they ask me for my date of birth. 80% of times, it’s not for knowing when they shall get me a present. It’s for, “oh so you’re a Sagittarius _[that’s when I don’t lie on my DOB, but most of the times I do, so as to prove their woo-woo wrong]_, I’d have guessed it ! You’re so this-and-that !” [QUOTE=DianaG] Me, I figure that you miss out on a lot in life by waiting to be chosen, rather than choosing. [/QUOTE] Yeah. Tell that to the Frenchwomen :(. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2010, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-making-the-first-move/529117/83 "2010-02-19T14:42:18Z")
> [@Cyn](#): > > Speaking just for me, as a woman > > 1. chocolate I think you mean [‘Chocolate! Chocolate! Chocolate! Ack!’](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KbCT5fXdhhc) ---
**Author:** ![breaking-reality](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a8b319/32.png) [@breaking-reality](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/breaking-reality)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2010, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-making-the-first-move/529117/84 "2010-02-19T15:53:45Z")
> [@Khaki\_Campbell](#): > > Speaking (unfortunately) from experience : astrology. > > That’s why I’m always :dubious: when they ask me for my date of birth. 80% of times, it’s not for knowing when they shall get me a present. It’s for, “oh so you’re a Sagittarius _[that’s when I don’t lie on my DOB, but most of the times I do, so as to prove their woo-woo wrong]_, I’d have guessed it ! You’re so this-and-that !” One of my male friends will look up the astrology of a girl he’s interested in…He’s even been known to look up the compatibility of their signs. Honestly, I used to read horoscopes for a good laugh back in high school, but does anyone really believe in any of that? I can’t imagine asking when someone’s b-day is to learn anything more about them besides when their birthday is. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-making-the-first-move/529117.md?page=4)