# Women: on choosing someone for a one night stand **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 4, 2011, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999 "2011-12-04T02:23:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![IMfez](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f07891/32.png) [@IMfez](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IMfez)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2011, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/1 "2011-12-04T02:23:53Z")
For any women on here who’ve had one of these, how did you choose your partner? Be as detailed as you want ---
**Author:** ![Rick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9f8e36/32.png) [@Rick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rick)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2011, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/2 "2011-12-04T02:48:34Z")
Male here. From what I have seen the selection process is fairly simple. There is a bar with a woman, myself and (pick one) an axe murderer, wanted felon, troll, wife beater, etc. They pick the other guy every time. Like I said the process is simple. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2011, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/3 "2011-12-04T02:54:17Z")
You nailed it, Dude. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2011, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/4 "2011-12-04T02:56:34Z")
If it’s just sex, I go by how hot he is. So: tall, good bone structure, in shape, dressed nicely, good hygiene, smells nice. ---
**Author:** ![Ashes\_Ashes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/db5fbb/32.png) [@Ashes\_Ashes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ashes_Ashes)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2011, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/5 "2011-12-04T03:14:33Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > If it’s just sex, I go by how hot he is. So: tall, good bone structure, in shape, dressed nicely, good hygiene, smells nice. Yep. Plus not repulsive in the personality/morality area. Bragging about his roster of hate crimes is not good. ---
**Author:** ![Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maggie_the_Ocelot)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2011, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/6 "2011-12-04T03:19:49Z")
Is he looking at me in that particular way? That amazing combination that is desire with a bit each of awe and respect? Then that’s the one. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2011, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/7 "2011-12-04T05:00:07Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > If it’s just sex, I go by how hot he is. So: tall, good bone structure, in shape, dressed nicely, good hygiene, smells nice. Me three. I go for as hot/sexy as I can get. 😛 (If it’s just sex.) ---
**Author:** ![Bloodless\_Turnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/82dd89/32.png) [@Bloodless\_Turnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bloodless_Turnip)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2011, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/8 "2011-12-04T05:21:52Z")
I can’t remember. ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2011, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/9 "2011-12-04T14:47:09Z")
How much you are attracted to them combined with how easy it is. Once again, women turn out not to have some sort of strange space-alien sexuality. ---
**Author:** ![nashiitashii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7c8e57/32.png) [@nashiitashii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nashiitashii)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2011, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/10 "2011-12-04T16:53:03Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > If it’s just sex, I go by how hot he is. So: tall, good bone structure, in shape, dressed nicely, good hygiene, smells nice. I do this, but try to gauge for the “he’s gonna lock me up in his basement and never let me out” red flags as well. Historically, my rule was “never bring a man back to your place for a hookup if at all possible.” If I were to be single again, this would be a little more negotiable depending on who it was and how random our one-night stand was. Did we just meet that night? His place for sure. Did we get to know each other over the course of a handful of meetings? It’s possible that I might feel comfortable with taking him back to my place. ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2011, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/11 "2011-12-04T17:15:43Z")
> [@carnivorousplant](#): > > You nailed it, Dude. No he didn’t. He got left standing at the bar while the axe murderer, wanted felon, troll, wife beater, etc. nailed it. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![obbn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/d6d6ee/32.png) [@obbn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/obbn)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2011, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/12 "2011-12-04T17:56:35Z")
> [@Rick](#): > > Male here. From what I have seen the selection process is fairly simple. > There is a bar with a woman, myself and (pick one) an axe murderer, wanted felon, troll, wife beater, etc. > They pick the other guy every time. > Like I said the process is simple. > 😉 Reminds me of the old tastless joke: What’s the difference between a whore and a bitch? A whore does everyone, a bitch does everyone but you.:smack: ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2011, 4:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/13 "2011-12-05T04:52:34Z")
I may not be the best looking guy in the bar, but right now I’m the only guy talking to you. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2011, 11:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/14 "2011-12-05T11:58:22Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > If it’s just sex, I go by how hot he is. So: tall, good bone structure, in shape, dressed nicely, good hygiene, smells nice. Of course this all becomes highly subjective after 1am. ---
**Author:** ![Slithy\_Tove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slithy_tove/32/18248_2.png) [@Slithy\_Tove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slithy_Tove)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2011, 12:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/15 "2011-12-05T12:02:46Z")
from what I’ve seen, Mr. Laugh Factory always does better than Mr. Male Model, because the latter appeals to your estrogen level, but the former to your blood-alcohol level. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2011, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/16 "2011-12-05T14:00:09Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > If it’s just sex, I go by how hot he is. So: tall, good bone structure, in shape, dressed nicely, good hygiene, smells nice. Hmmm. Tall: No Good bone structure: Average, I guess In shape: Yes Dressed nicely: Yes, depending on your definition of “nicely” Good hygiene: Yes Smells nice: I guess, in that I don’t smell bad, but I don’t use cologne. So, about 4.5 out of 6. ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2011, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/17 "2011-12-05T14:09:11Z")
I usually say, “I’m not really this tall, I’m sitting on my wallet.” ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2011, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/18 "2011-12-05T16:45:06Z")
Easygoing, laughs and smiles. Nobody wants to go home with the morose guy at the end of the bar staring into space and turning over in his mind the long list of women who didn’t give him what he wanted. And good hygiene, yeah, an absolute must. ---
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2011, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/19 "2011-12-05T19:10:55Z")
In addition to what men look for in a one night stand, women tend to also look for two important factors that men do not: safety and expected sexual satisfaction. Women tend to rate the average guy low on the ‘expected sexual satisfaction’ scale, while men tend to rate the average woman high. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2011, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999/20 "2011-12-05T21:04:25Z")
The one time I had a one-night stand, the guy was actually not that devlishly handsome. But he was sweet as pie and funny and I felt safe with him…and you know, sometimes plainer guys deliver more. He was incredibly enthusiastic and amazing in bed. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-on-choosing-someone-for-a-one-night-stand/604999.md?page=2)