# Women’s Mate Retention Behaviors, Personality Traits, and Fellatio **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 15, 2015, 8:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095 "2015-05-15T08:48:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![racepug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f1d935/32.png) [@racepug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/racepug)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2015, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/21 "2015-05-16T05:23:06Z")
> [@Typo\_Negative](#): > > I guess there had to be _one_. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2015, 5:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/22 "2015-05-16T05:35:24Z")
> [@Gatopescado](#): > > _She Blinded Me With Science!_ Sorry, you want the Hand Job study, on the next floor. ---
**Author:** ![Spiderman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spiderman/32/230_2.png) [@Spiderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiderman)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2015, 2:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/23 "2015-05-16T14:03:06Z")
> [@Gatopescado](#): > > _She Blinded Me With Science!_ Were you never told, “Stop, or you’ll go blind!”? [quote=] Oral sex is a prominent feature of human sexuality. Oral sex is practiced cross-culturally (e.g., Guadamuz et al., 2010; Iwawaki & Wilson, 1983; Kaestle & Halpern, 2007; Santtila et al., 2007), often depicted in pornography (Rimm, 1994) [/quote] So Rimm’s job was to watch porn & count the number of BJ scenes? ---
**Author:** ![Stoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stoid/32/272_2.png) [@Stoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoid)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2015, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/24 "2015-05-16T18:11:20Z")
On a serious note, I’d like to say that in my True Love relationship (now over, there was only one) I experienced an organic desire to give my man mind-blowing fellatio as a direct expression of my love for him. Both in the sense of “Damn, I love him so much I just gotta get down with his body in this way to express and feel the intensity of my love!” as well as “Damn, I love him so much, how can I show him? I know! I’ll suck his cock!” It’s the only time in my life that really had that direct love\<-\>sex connection. I had loved others, and had wonderful sex with them, but being as they weren’t True Love, I guess, it didn’t feel so directly expressive of love. It was nice. ---
**Author:** ![Rune](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e68b1a/32.png) [@Rune](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rune)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2015, 12:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/25 "2015-05-17T12:37:06Z")
> [@Spiderman](#): > > So Rimm’s job was to watch porn & count the number of BJ scenes? No, Rimm’s job was something else. ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2015, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/26 "2015-05-17T19:11:34Z")
An old lover from college, way back then - she LOVED fellatio. At the time she told me she’d never done it for anyone before. The first time she did, it was urgent and eager. During the year or so we dated, it was a constant. Literally there were times I had to beg her to let me reciprocate, or please God could we just fuck? We broke up during school, I hadn’t seen her for almost 25 years. We ran into each other literally just walking down Dearborn one afternoon. We’re both married and happy. We decided oh heck a drink is fine. Yes it was a drink ONLY. She asked me if I remembered the last time she fellated me? I recalled it vividly and described the occasion and location. Her dad’s birthday party, we snuck out to their boat on the lake. I knew you wondered. 🆒 She said, THAT, that was the last time she had ever done that. Engaged twice, married for 15 years and no one but me had ever gotten that. I always wanted to believe that but in the back of my mind wondered. Thanks, I wonder a little less today. > [@Stoid](#): > > On a serious note, I’d like to say that in my True Love relationship (now over, there was only one) I experienced an organic desire to give my man mind-blowing fellatio as a direct expression of my love for him. Both in the sense of “Damn, I love him so much I just gotta get down with his body in this way to express and feel the intensity of my love!” as well as “Damn, I love him so much, how can I show him? I know! I’ll suck his cock!” > > It’s the only time in my life that really had that direct love\<-\>sex connection. I had loved others, and had wonderful sex with them, but being as they weren’t True Love, I guess, it didn’t feel so directly expressive of love. It was nice. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2015, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/27 "2015-05-17T19:27:49Z")
I’ve mentioned this before on this board, but I once had a GF who had orgasms when I came in her mouth. (This was verifiable - she was one of those women who ejaculated when she climaxed.) So for her, giving me a blowjob was its own reward. Unfortunately, she was also easily the most neurotic of my exes. You know what they say about not sticking your dick in the crazy? Well, it was worth it, at least for a little while. But only for a while. ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2015, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/28 "2015-05-17T23:46:07Z")
> [@RTFirefly](#): > > I’ve mentioned this before on this board, but I once had a GF who had orgasms when I came in her mouth. (This was verifiable - she was one of those women who ejaculated when she climaxed.) So for her, giving me a blowjob was its own reward. Proof that real life imitates the movies. You know. . . THAT movie. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2015, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/29 "2015-05-18T02:37:23Z")
> [@racepug](#): > > My wife (and, for that matter, all of my ex-girlfriends/lovers/sex partners) must feel pretty secure in her relationship with me (if you’re not reading between the lines: I don’t ask my wife to do that for me and I don’t want her to do that for me. I HATE BJs [even the _thought_ of them makes my penis want to go and hide far, far away]), then. > [@Typo\_Negative](#): > > I guess there had to be _one_. :: raises hand :: two… ---
**Author:** ![racepug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f1d935/32.png) [@racepug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/racepug)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2015, 4:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/30 "2015-05-18T04:49:32Z")
> [@AHunter3](#): > > :: raises hand :: > > two… Make that three (you forgot/didn’t see “Martian Bigfoot”'s post, above). ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2015, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/31 "2015-05-19T05:16:42Z")
> [@Colibri](#): > > I love this sentence from the report: > > Possibly the least-erotic sentence ever published on the subject of blowjobs.🙂 The “bootstrapping technique” – humma humma. ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2015, 6:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/32 "2015-05-19T06:34:33Z")
I was married to my first wife 20 years, she was never too concerned with pleasing me and certainly felt secure. She was also very good about blow jobs I suspect because she enjoyed giving them. Present girlfriend of almost 20 years, gives a lot more blow jobs when she is feeling insecure. No pattern here beyond I like blowjobs. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2015, 10:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/33 "2015-05-19T10:52:51Z")
Is there a significant flaw in the survey? They only surveyed university students, who are likely to be younger. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2015, 10:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/34 "2015-05-19T10:56:48Z")
> [@Quartz](#): > > Is there a significant flaw in the survey? They only surveyed university students, who are likely to be younger. Ssh! That’s how the research needs to be done. Some older men should be used in the study sure, but there are numerous valid and necessary reasons that only young women should participate in the research. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2015, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095/35 "2015-05-19T16:39:33Z")
> [@racepug](#): > > Make that three (you forgot/didn’t see “Martian Bigfoot”'s post, above). Yeah, I did somehow scroll past that one, thanks. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-s-mate-retention-behaviors-personality-traits-and-fellatio/720095.md?page=1)