# Women stay angry longer..Yes or No **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 19, 2002, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-stay-angry-longer-yes-or-no/124551 "2002-08-19T04:26:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Profane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e47774/32.png) [@Profane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Profane)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 7:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-stay-angry-longer-yes-or-no/124551/21 "2002-08-20T07:09:27Z")
Well **MarkF** , I was just offering it as evidence that its not only women who don’t like to admit they are wrong. It’s not like I’m _mad_ about the fact he’s hates saying sorry. I’ve accepted it as the way he is. Considering our fights all end with a cuddle and a cup of tea, I don’t think you can paint me as one of the those hold a grudge types. I am, however, “blessed” with an excellent memory for conversations, even if I try to forget I can’t. They’re all there floating around in the deep recesses of my brain, and believe me if I held onto anger I’d go barmy. So, not I’m not _counting,_ I just remember. ---
**Author:** ![SUPERKARLENE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/22d042/32.png) [@SUPERKARLENE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SUPERKARLENE)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 11:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-stay-angry-longer-yes-or-no/124551/22 "2002-08-20T11:55:32Z")
I think **amarinth** has hit the nail on the head here. **MadSam** , your experiences with other men may just be due to temperament. Are these men you work with? If they are, then perhaps your assertions that men are more logical boil down to _that_. > [@](#): > > If I have a disagreement with a male friend or vice versa, we state the issue, discuss it in a logical manner and almost always one of us states: I understand where you are coming from; that was stupid of me…I’m sorry and as I said…a couple minutes later, everything has returned to normal. Ever heard of the Myers-Briggs personality test? It differentiates among people according to four criteria, one of them being predisposition towards logic or emotion. If you and your friends (or coworkers) are having a problem, and you find it easily resolved, it may be because you all have that inherently logical personality trait. “Like attracts like”… Your experiences with men are this way because YOU might be this way. There are plenty of logical women out there. That said, I find this statement a bit harsh: > [@](#): > > I find that women in general detour from common sense and logic (and I’m not speaking just of MY wife or Daughter) as they seem to bypass listening to reason and completely ride on the back of emotion. “Completely ride on the back of emotion”? Here, you seem to discount completely that emotion can be just as meaningful a source of information as logic can. Scientific data isn’t the only source of information. Ultimately, I think your problem can be condensed into issues of personality - not gender. Look up some ways to better communicate with the women in your life. The “tackle and deal” method of handling your problems apparently is no longer working (at least in this arena). You’ve got to be a wee bit more patient. ---
**Author:** ![OliverTwistofLime](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/b487fb/32.png) [@OliverTwistofLime](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OliverTwistofLime)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-stay-angry-longer-yes-or-no/124551/23 "2002-08-20T15:32:32Z")
Amarinth and SUPERKARLENE: I do believe that you both have given me some insight…It could very well be the friends that I choose that create this perception that I had. What I find amusing is that as an ob/gyn and having heard so many patients tell me that they stay angrier/longer, I really did believe my OP…but then again perhaps I listened to but did not hear the side the majority of the above posts have presented. ---
**Author:** ![SUPERKARLENE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/22d042/32.png) [@SUPERKARLENE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SUPERKARLENE)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-stay-angry-longer-yes-or-no/124551/24 "2002-08-20T15:58:31Z")
_squeak_ You’re an obgyn?! _endsqueak_ This makes things MUCH clearer! As an obgyn, you have great experience with females and hormones, so you can correct me if I’m wrong: Don’t pregnant women tend to have incredible hormone surges, that can result in unintended emotional outbursts? Crying for no apparent reason, etc? > [@](#): > > What I find amusing is that as an ob/gyn and having heard so many patients tell me that they stay angrier/longer… Doctor: And how are you feeling today, Mrs. Smith? Patient: Great! Those prenatal vitamins do wonders! D: How’s the blood pressure? P: Good. D: Morning sickness? P: Gone. D: Unexplainable bouts of anger? P: I still think my husband is an evil farfenuggen. ---
**Author:** ![OliverTwistofLime](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/b487fb/32.png) [@OliverTwistofLime](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OliverTwistofLime)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-stay-angry-longer-yes-or-no/124551/25 "2002-08-20T16:35:51Z")
SUPERKARLENE: Speaking of women, there is no question that women and their significant others often attribute the wide emotional swings that many women have to “hormonal changes”. But there are so many other factors involved as well. Pregnant women go thru so many anatomical, hormonal, and physiological changes in pregancy, it would be more difficult to explain those who DON’T have emotional swings. ---
**Author:** ![SUPERKARLENE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/22d042/32.png) [@SUPERKARLENE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SUPERKARLENE)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-stay-angry-longer-yes-or-no/124551/26 "2002-08-20T17:29:33Z")
Thanks for the 411, **MadSam**. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![burundi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3ec8ea/32.png) [@burundi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burundi)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-stay-angry-longer-yes-or-no/124551/27 "2002-08-20T21:19:16Z")
It depends entirely on the woman. I’m very leery of statements like “women in general” or “men in general.” Especially when followed by “bypass listening to reason.” I’ve known women who have very quick tempers, but don’t hold grudges, and men who do the “slow burn” thing. ---
**Author:** ![SUPERKARLENE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/22d042/32.png) [@SUPERKARLENE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SUPERKARLENE)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2002, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-stay-angry-longer-yes-or-no/124551/28 "2002-08-20T22:25:03Z")
Try googling for gender + “psychological differences”. More than a 1000 hits. I think the role of the individual is key here, but biology definitely plays a part (albeit not inconquerable). ---
**Author:** ![muppeteer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/57b2e6/32.png) [@muppeteer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/muppeteer)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2002, 11:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-stay-angry-longer-yes-or-no/124551/29 "2002-08-21T11:07:23Z")
**SUPERKARLENE:** After making the sweeping generalization: > [@](#): > > … women are usually better at determining the feelings of others purely from body language. Men, on the other hand, aren’t as skilled at this. They seem to prefer dealing with concrete events and actions, rather than thoughts and intentions. You proceed to say: > [@](#): > > But my experiences are by no means a generalization for all of womankind or mankind. I would question the validity of this not-generalization; whats the evidence that sensitivity is related to sex? IMHO I think that men and women are the same and have the same instinctive emotional capacity, but stereotypical male development discourages the development of this faculty, while women have no barriers in its use. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-stay-angry-longer-yes-or-no/124551.md?page=1)