# Women that refuse to perform oral sex... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 14, 2013, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203 "2013-01-14T19:00:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/41 "2013-01-15T00:13:46Z")
My ex was a beautiful lady from Guatamala, sucking dick disgusted her. She would try it now and then but it ruined it for me watching her struggle with it. I opted to find a less beautful but much better dick sucker. My current relationship is not crazy about receiving oral most of the time but loves giving. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/42 "2013-01-15T00:15:39Z")
> [@Loach](#): > > Yeah you would think so. Then by about 5 years into the marriage I was hoping for it to happen at least once a year on my birthday. Then I thought, hey, maybe on my 40th… or 50th… ---
**Author:** ![FoieGrasIsEvil](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foiegrasisevil/32/16638_2.png) [@FoieGrasIsEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FoieGrasIsEvil)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/43 "2013-01-15T01:05:57Z")
Still trying to quantify the reasons for “Get that floppy proboscis away from me!”. I get the hygiene argument…The “fromunda” smell from the underside of a man’s sweaty ballsack is not an enticing aroma, and neither is that “honey, your pussy smells like a can of tuna that was left opened outside for days in the Summertime”. I am trying to get to the crux of the matter, which is: if all hygiene situations are equal and accounted for, why not then? I have been with women where “performing” is something they would do gladly, and some that outright refuse. I cannot believe that ALL the women that refuse to do this are doing it out of a lack of hygiene, nor are those that are uncomfortable with cunnilingus performed on them. There’s got to be some uncomfortable body issues going on. Ladies, it’s ok…sucking dicks is largely viewed as favorable amongst the male population. ---
**Author:** ![ceilidh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f05b48/32.png) [@ceilidh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ceilidh)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/44 "2013-01-15T01:46:40Z")
I have nothing against the concept of oral, but I have a very sensitive gag reflex. I’ve tried a few times, but it really didn’t end up being a good experience for either one of us. This is why I haven’t gone down on another guy since then. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/45 "2013-01-15T02:05:48Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > Is there a particular reason you (The OP) don’t give blow jobs? > > What’s that? It’s not your thing? The idea squicks you out altogether? You don’t even want to think of it? > > Then how is it, in any way, possible to\*\*\* not\*\*\* understand why some women don’t care for it? > > How be you go out and give a couple of blow jobs and come back with you findings? Classic. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/46 "2013-01-15T02:12:29Z")
> [@Morgenstern](#): > > Tip for the guys. > > Tattoo a 100 dollar bill on your stinger. There isn’t a woman alive who doesn’t blow a hundred dollar bill when they get a chance. Hilarious. 😃 > [@aruvqan](#): > > Temporomandibular joint disease. Not into pain, thanks. Huh, “I can’t blow you on account of this TMJ.” That’s a new one. ---
**Author:** ![AngelSoft](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angelsoft/32/440_2.png) [@AngelSoft](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelSoft)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/47 "2013-01-15T02:20:06Z")
I just find it absolutely revolting. I hated doing it when I was married. I didn’t even want to LOOK at the disgusting thing, let alone put it in my mouth. But doing it meant the entire thing got over with much quicker, so I just bit the bullet and did it. I didn’t want him anywhere near my nether regions either, but I admit that’s more my own issues with self esteem and such than anything. I wouldn’t even let a woman down there if the situation presented itself. ---
**Author:** ![FoieGrasIsEvil](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foiegrasisevil/32/16638_2.png) [@FoieGrasIsEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FoieGrasIsEvil)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/48 "2013-01-15T02:29:25Z")
> [@ceilidh](#): > > I have nothing against the concept of oral, but I have a very sensitive gag reflex. I’ve tried a few times, but it really didn’t end up being a good experience for either one of us. This is why I haven’t gone down on another guy since then. And there’s nothing wrong with that. And by “blowjobs” I am NOT referring to that disgusting trend whereby men in porn videos TRY to trigger a woman’s gag reflex by thrusting their dicks deeply into their throats. That is disgusting. When I (Innocently!) stumbled upon a porn video of my brother’s when we used to share an apartment called something like “Gaggers Part 3” and it featured that, it was all I (and the girls in the video) could do to not vomit. > [@AngelSoft](#): > > I just find it absolutely revolting. I hated doing it when I was married. I didn’t even want to LOOK at the disgusting thing, let alone put it in my mouth. But doing it meant the entire thing got over with much quicker, so I just bit the bullet and did it. I didn’t want him anywhere near my nether regions either, but I admit that’s more my own issues with self esteem and such than anything. I wouldn’t even let a woman down there if the situation presented itself. That’s ok too, but you call the penis “a disgusting thing”…was that more because of what you were being “made” to do or do you find a penis disgusting in general? ---
**Author:** ![AngelSoft](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angelsoft/32/440_2.png) [@AngelSoft](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelSoft)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/49 "2013-01-15T02:39:19Z")
> [@FoieGrasIsEvil](#): > > That’s ok too, but you call the penis “a disgusting thing”…was that more because of what you were being “made” to do or do you find a penis disgusting in general? Both really. I began to have anxiety attacks at bedtime because I was so stressed about him wanting sex/blowjobs. And mostly because I do find the penis disgusting. It just…holds no appeal to me, which made it difficult when dating men, let alone marrying one. Not to go into specifics but I just did was I felt I needed to do. But, marriage is done! No more sucky sucky for me 😃 ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/50 "2013-01-15T02:47:34Z")
> [@FoieGrasIsEvil](#): > > And there’s nothing wrong with that. And by “blowjobs” I am NOT referring to that disgusting trend whereby men in porn videos TRY to trigger a woman’s gag reflex by thrusting their dicks deeply into their throats. That is disgusting. When I (Innocently!) stumbled upon a porn video of my brother’s when we used to share an apartment called something like “Gaggers Part 3” and it featured that, it was all I (and the girls in the video) could do to not vomit. There’s just no winning with you, is there? ---
**Author:** ![FoieGrasIsEvil](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foiegrasisevil/32/16638_2.png) [@FoieGrasIsEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FoieGrasIsEvil)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/51 "2013-01-15T02:51:08Z")
> [@AngelSoft](#): > > Both really. I began to have anxiety attacks at bedtime because I was so stressed about him wanting sex/blowjobs. And mostly because I do find the penis disgusting. It just…holds no appeal to me, which made it difficult when dating men, let alone marrying one. Not to go into specifics but I just did was I felt I needed to do. But, marriage is done! No more sucky sucky for me 😃 Exactly the point of my OP! Look…I don’t wish to judge anyone, but it’s an interesting dynamic, some girls do willingly, some begrudgingly, some not at all. All of them have reasons. I am trying to get to the bottom of a deeply-embedded societal issue! 🙂 > [@colander](#): > > There’s just no winning with you, is there? Well, unless you want to, you know… **zzzzziiiiiip** ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/52 "2013-01-15T03:03:53Z")
I don’t mind giving bjs, but sometimes the pubic hair is off putting. I personally hate receiving, not from any insecurity, I just don’t like a guy slobbering all over my downstairs. The thought is such a turn off. I have had it done to me and have never liked it. Hands are great however. ---
**Author:** ![FoieGrasIsEvil](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foiegrasisevil/32/16638_2.png) [@FoieGrasIsEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FoieGrasIsEvil)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/53 "2013-01-15T03:41:48Z")
> [@April\_R](#): > > I don’t mind giving bjs, but sometimes the pubic hair is off putting. I personally hate receiving, not from any insecurity, I just don’t like a guy slobbering all over my downstairs. The thought is such a turn off. I have had it done to me and have never liked it. Hands are great however. Another interesting dynamic. The lack of pubic hair on men and women is a fairly recent thing. Throughout history, pubic hair was expected, not a problem, even DESIRED…not so much now. ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/54 "2013-01-15T03:47:24Z")
> [@FoieGrasIsEvil](#): > > Another interesting dynamic. The lack of pubic hair on men and women is a fairly recent thing. Throughout history, pubic hair was expected, not a problem, even DESIRED…not so much now. I just don’t want to be picking it out of my teeth 😛 ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/55 "2013-01-15T03:53:04Z")
I enjoy giving and receiving, but I have to say that I rather give than receive, even if someone is talented 🙂 at cunnilingus, I still get way more of a turn on by giving. I actually sometimes need it in order to get there - give that is. I know…it’s a bit weird, eh? ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/56 "2013-01-15T04:00:14Z")
Just scrolling through IMHO - what’s with all the sex threads today? ---
**Author:** ![GIGObuster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gigobuster/32/421_2.png) [@GIGObuster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GIGObuster)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/57 "2013-01-15T04:01:34Z")
> [@scootergirl](#): > > Just scrolling through IMHO - what’s with all the sex threads today? Hey, it’s cold outside.. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/58 "2013-01-15T04:02:35Z")
> [@GIGObuster](#): > > Hey, it’s cold outside.. 🙂 Hahahaha! ---
**Author:** ![Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hazle_Weatherfield)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 4:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/59 "2013-01-15T04:05:39Z")
I do it because it excites me to excite the right partner. It used to be a regular part of my repertoire. Unfortunately, I can count on one hand the number of guys who reciprocated. Oh sure, they loved the blow job. But once it was made clear to me that I was going to be left hanging (so to speak,) I quit giving. Too bad, really. The most incredible orgasms I’ve ever had have been from oral sex and I haven’t gotten it for a very long time. I really don’t get guys who love bjs but refuse to go down. Rude. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203/60 "2013-01-15T04:07:41Z")
> [@Ethilrist](#): > > Then I thought, hey, maybe on my 40th… or 50th… Well luckily her other craziness made her leave. Didn’t have to wait to 50. Now I don’t have to wait at all. Just about every night. Thank Zeus. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-that-refuse-to-perform-oral-sex/647203.md?page=4)