# Women want men to look at their eyes, not at their breasts **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 4, 2003, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361 "2003-04-04T02:06:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![mr.splitfoot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8e8cbc/32.png) [@mr.splitfoot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mr.splitfoot)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/61 "2003-04-06T04:35:36Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Achernar \* > \*\*Well, when we rely on such impeccable research methods as that, it’s hard to see how there could be any confusion on the matter. \*\* I completely agree. If everyone were always intoxicated, things would be so much more clear. * * * Mr. S. says “Like all great minds before him, Einstein loved the sauce.” ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/62 "2003-04-06T18:43:03Z")
I’ve never minded that men looked at my chest as long as they didn’t actively drool. ---
**Author:** ![Branwen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ea924/32.png) [@Branwen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Branwen)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2003, 11:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/63 "2003-04-06T23:42:10Z")
I never notice men checking out my boobs. Either there’s something wrong with them (my boobs, I mean) or I’m just oblivious. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/64 "2003-04-07T00:04:27Z")
If a woman is wearing a shirt that has a slogan on it, Ill just ask her what it says. They usually then pull there shirt tight so I can read it. Yumm. ---
**Author:** ![SCSimmons](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e495f1/32.png) [@SCSimmons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SCSimmons)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2003, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/65 "2003-04-08T21:00:15Z")
**handy** , you are a bad, bad person. Oh, and thanks for sharing that trick-I plan to use it regularly. ---
**Author:** ![Gulo\_gulo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bcef8e/32.png) [@Gulo\_gulo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gulo_gulo)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2003, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/66 "2003-04-08T21:17:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by AntaresJB \* > \*\*I still someday really want to own a shirt that says, in smaller-than-usual type, directly across the boobage, “Stop staring at my tits”. It would be highly amusing, I think. 😃 > \*\* If you ever make those shirts, put me down for one! Mwahahaha! As for the OP, there’s nothing wrong with glancing, but outright unblinking stares are simply creepy. I tend to wear form-fitting shirts and tank tops, so I’d be stupid to not expect _some_ looks at my tittage. ---
**Author:** ![flight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbce88/32.png) [@flight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flight)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2003, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/67 "2003-04-08T23:07:26Z")
Reminds me of walking down the street with a friend. VERY well-endowed woman is walking the other way and he is staring the whole time. When we get to each other she lifts and squishes her brests together and says, “Can you see them now?” I am a breast man and look all the time but I have refined it into an art form. I have had discussions about this with female friends, and at the end I will say, “21.” She says, “What?” and I reply that that is how many times I have looked during the conversation. She was none the wiser. You say in the OP that you have to look away on occasion, well she does to. That is when you glance. Glance faster than her and no one ever knows. You can look and not be insulting. Hell, I dated a woman once who was at least L, don’t know for certain as she had to get special made bras. She always liked that I never stared at her. Yeah… Funny thing is guys feel quite the opposite. An earlier poster asked if we mind when women stare at our crotch/butt. I think it’s great. I have a fond memory of walking down a street in Virginia Beach while in a suit (ditching a conference) and a girl leaning out a car yelling, “nice ass.” That rocked. Maybe it would get old if it happened as much as it happens to women, but that is not normally a problem for us. ---
**Author:** ![iamthewalrus\_3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/258eb7/32.png) [@iamthewalrus\_3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iamthewalrus_3)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 6:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/68 "2003-04-09T06:24:02Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by LurkMaster_I often find my eyes drawn toward large breasts, particularly when they’re “on display” in low-cut, tight or open clothing. Damned if I know why. Ooh. ooh! I know why. What do I win? ---
**Author:** ![Audrey\_Levins](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Audrey\_Levins](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Audrey_Levins)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 7:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/69 "2003-04-09T07:31:53Z")
There was a guy at my bar once when I got into work one night who wanted to shake my hand when he introduced himself to me. He shook my hand really vigorously. Then he chortled and said, “Just wanted to see if they were real.” So at this point, I’m kind of immune to guys checking out my chest, as long as they’re not pumping my arm and down to make sure it’s not a mirage. And for the record, I’m not unusually blessed in that department; I think guys just like boobs. Period. Expecting them to ignore boobs when they are presented with a fine-looking pair is kind of like expecting them to turn down free beer. Yeah, right. ---
**Author:** ![Audrey\_Levins](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Audrey\_Levins](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Audrey_Levins)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 7:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/70 "2003-04-09T07:33:56Z")
Oh, and that would be _up_ and down. I hate it when men stare at my typos. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/71 "2003-04-09T15:33:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Branwen \* > \*\*I never notice men checking out my boobs. Either there’s something wrong with them (my boobs, I mean) or I’m just oblivious. \*\* Unless they’re growing out of your elbows, or covered with coarse, shaggy hair, there’s nothing wrong with them. But, we can check out small to average boobs much faster than really large ones. We don’t have to try to decide if they’re real, for one thing. Then, again, you could just be oblivious. My GF is. I love oblivious women. You can get away with so much more. ---
**Author:** ![Branwen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ea924/32.png) [@Branwen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Branwen)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/72 "2003-04-09T16:18:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*Unless they’re growing out of your elbows, or covered with coarse, shaggy hair, there’s nothing wrong with them. But, we can check out small to average boobs much faster than really large ones. We don’t have to try to decide if they’re real, for one thing. Then, again, you could just be oblivious. My GF is. \*\* I’m still laughing.😃 Mine are where they should be, and hairless (thankfully). They are _kind_ of large though, so maybe that’s why. It’s not like anyone has to stare to see them. Okaaaayyy, I can’t believe I just shared that much about my breasts. > [@](#): > > \*\*I love oblivious women. You can get away with so much more. \*\* Yep, that’s me. At least when it comes to this sort of stuff. ---
**Author:** ![NameAlreadyTaken](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/97f17d/32.png) [@NameAlreadyTaken](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NameAlreadyTaken)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/73 "2003-04-09T16:46:34Z")
My sister **Misery’s Company** started a nice [pit thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=92037) about this a while back. The thread has some humor, some sexual discrimination stuff, and other relevant thoughts from the SDMB masses. ---
**Author:** ![superkentclark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/898d66/32.png) [@superkentclark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/superkentclark)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/74 "2003-04-10T05:23:29Z")
hey whats that over there (poiinting out into the oblivion)… _ogle time_ Im not quite as lucky as some of the guys that have oblivious GF’s. Ive been caught quite a number of times. e.g. We were sittingn at the beach and i noticed a girl that was going to walk past us. Thinking i could catch a good long “glance” b/c i had sunglasses on… i ended up catching shit from my gf. Nonetheless, i talked my way out of it. It went something like: Hey, i cant see to well and she looked familiar so i had to look reallly hard at her to figure out if i knew her or not… And as for my smiling, i was doing so because i was thinking i knew her. Thinking that i might know her, i put on a smile so that i would be greeting her in a friendly manner. I dont know if this works entirely, but it certainly gets me out of a jam. OP, u could say that u thought you saw a hair on her shirt. 😃 Another (contradictory to my previous statement) time, one of her friends leaned over my side of the car we were in to give us directions (or something, how the hell should i know;-)). Anyways, I took in an eye-full (they were right there… besides that is the best quality she has… she isnt ugly, but he aint pretty either). GF never noticed, but i asked her if she saw the great display, and she said “no”… better yet she wasnt even mad. ---
**Author:** ![SCSimmons](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e495f1/32.png) [@SCSimmons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SCSimmons)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 1:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/75 "2003-04-10T13:45:03Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Branwen \* > \*\*Mine are where they should be, and hairless (thankfully). They are _kind_ of large though, so maybe that’s why. It’s not like anyone has to stare to see them. \*\* Cite? 😃 (You must have known that _someone_ was going to ask …) ---
**Author:** ![Branwen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ea924/32.png) [@Branwen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Branwen)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/76 "2003-04-10T16:08:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SCSimmons \* > \*\*Cite? > > 😃 > > (You must have known that _someone_ was going to ask …) \*\* :smack: No, it never even occured to me. See what I mean? Oblivious. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/77 "2003-04-10T20:18:57Z")
**Women want men to look at their eyes, not at their breasts** Yeah, but take it from me, they smartly change their tune when it comes to the bit about licking. ---
**Author:** ![Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c77e96/32.png) [@Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Speaker_for_the_Dead)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/78 "2003-04-10T20:22:36Z")
Apparently I have a big staring problem when it comes to breasts, and the worst part is, I couldn’t even remember what the girls’ breasts looked like at the end of the conversation anyway. So I get in trouble, with no benefits. _sigh_ ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/79 "2003-04-11T14:43:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Branwen \* > **Mine are where they should be, and hairless (thankfully). They are _kind_ of large though, so maybe that’s why. It’s not like anyone has to stare to see them.** So…what _does_ one need to do, to get to see them? Would a…How YOU doin’? 😉 …work? > [@](#): > > \*\*Okaaaayyy, I can’t believe I just shared that much about my breasts. \*\* You can blame me. I don’t mind. A lot of women find themselves telling me things they can’t believe they’re saying. I wish I knew why. I’m not complaining, mind you. But, if I understood it, I’d write a book and retire. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361/80 "2003-04-11T14:45:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Mangetout \* > \*\ ***Women want men to look at their eyes, not at their breasts** > > Yeah, but take it from me, they smartly change their tune when it comes to the bit about licking. \*\* Well, yeah. Cuz…licking eyes is just…oogy! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-want-men-to-look-at-their-eyes-not-at-their-breasts/166361.md?page=5)