# Women (well, hell, men too) do you ever cry when you can't help it? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 26, 2012, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985 "2012-04-26T03:46:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Christopher\_Robin\_Davies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8dc957/32.png) [@Christopher\_Robin\_Davies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Christopher_Robin_Davies)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2012, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985/41 "2012-04-26T19:45:53Z")
I do not cry at all. I cannot make myself cry even when I need to. ---
**Author:** ![Gleena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b3f665/32.png) [@Gleena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gleena)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2012, 12:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985/42 "2012-04-27T00:30:35Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > How old are you all? I only ask because this is something I got control of, over time. Now of coure everyone’s different but it’s possible that some of you may eventually gain control over it…I never cry in public now, unless it’s for a good reason and usually not even then. I’m 43. It was worse when I was younger, and strong emotion of any sort made me cry at any time. Then for a while (mid 30s or so) I was good, and never cried in public. I would have scoffed at the idea. But I was also on hormonal birth control. Now for various health reasons that don’t matter here, I can’t use hormonal BC anymore. The 24 - 48 hours before my period are when I can’t stop the insanity. ---
**Author:** ![CCitizen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4af34b/32.png) [@CCitizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CCitizen)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2012, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985/43 "2012-04-27T02:00:49Z")
Very rarely and only when I am alone. ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2012, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985/44 "2012-04-27T02:11:24Z")
All the time. Sadly, that’s been true all my life. If I’m furious, embarrassed, really happy, relieved, you name it - I’ll cry. The only time I don’t cry is if I have no emotional connection to the person with whom I’m sharing the emotion. Then, of course, I hold it together and lose it later. It’s very frustrating to try to have an unemotional argument with my husband. We don’t yell at each other, but I’ll start crying and all he sees is, “Oh, no! She’s crying! Make it stop!” And all the while I’m trying to have a conversation but can’t manage to convince him, despite my completely normal tone of voice, “Look - think of it as _leaking_ - my eyes are leaking, ok?” ---
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2012, 3:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985/45 "2012-04-27T03:45:49Z")
When I do it usually “blurts” out of me and I have no control over it. A family member was in dire straits in the hospital, a very dark time in my life. I’d stopped at the mailbox after work as usual, and opened a card. It said “Good News!” I thought, Yeah, yeah, what’s this crap. Every female coworker in the office had written how much they cared about me and how they hoped things would be better. At least that’s what I read later. Because after glancing over the first line tears sprang from my eyes onto my glasses and I was in a “dry” choking sob. It really was good news. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Woo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7c8e57/32.png) [@Dr.Woo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Woo)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2012, 10:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985/46 "2012-04-27T22:45:51Z")
> [@Lasciel](#): > > Me too. > > Tired? Check. > > Overstimulated? Check. (god I hate family get-togethers so much. I end up going to the bathroom to sob a bit during just about every one of them.) > > Frustrated? God yes. Then I get - > > Angry - aaaand I cry worse, because I’m sooo pissed off at myself for being all weak and snively, and that’s on top of the whatever it was that I was failing miserably at in the first place. > > Chastised/Yelled At/Disciplined? Yep. All the time. What’s worse is the throwing up. That happens pretty regularly also. ☹ > > Thankfully, I’m a passive and totally obedient little worker-bee, so I get hauled out for questioning rarely - but when it happens, fuck that. I’m done for the day, sometimes the next day. > I also cry like a fucking baby at movies (even Disney and Pixar), when someone’s being nice (to me, or to someone else), when I’m watching YouTube videos (especially cute/touching ones) and God-Damn-It-All, yes, I have cried because of stinking Hallmark greeting cards. > > I truly have no words to express how absolutely I detest this about myself. If I could get my tear-ducts cauterized and not have it fuck up my eyesight, I’d be the first in line. Manipulative my ass - there’s no way in hell I would voluntarily cry over all that shit. Well that describes me perfectly, right down to how much I detest my lack of control. I cry at beer commercials for pete’s sake. I cry when I’m overstimulated, and I’m ALWAYS overstimulated. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2012, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985/47 "2012-04-27T23:08:11Z")
Why are you always overstimulated? ---
**Author:** ![ToeJam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/dfb087/32.png) [@ToeJam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ToeJam)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2012, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985/48 "2012-04-28T00:15:14Z")
Guy here. I get misty eyed all the time whenever I see someone else crying. It’s weird. Happens when I watch movies and things too. Rom-Coms are pains in the asses for it. _sniff_\* But they’re just so beautiful, man!\* ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Mapp](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miss_mapp/32/369_2.png) [@Miss\_Mapp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Mapp)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2012, 1:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985/49 "2012-04-28T13:16:18Z")
I didn’t used to, but in the last 2-3 years I’ve begun to tear up over all kinds of ridiculous things–the ends of movies, songs on the radio, and not always sentimental stuff either. Half the time, I don’t know what it is that set me off and feel stupid crying over it. I blame it on hormones; menopause must be just around the corner. ---
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2012, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985/50 "2012-04-28T14:19:09Z")
I’m a big ol cryer too. Sad, mad, frusterated, niceness? Yup, Here come the waterworks! But you know what? I have realized\* I can’t help it\*. I’m 33, so maybe “I’ll grow out of it” someday, but I don’t forsee that happenening. I agree with **ThelmaLou**. Let it happen, and don’t beat yourself up about it. (Although I will admit, crying at work is embarrassing. ) As for movies, my friends all laugh at me cause I always cry at movies. Frikking ALWAYS. They will watch me instead of the move. They suck 😛 I am soo glad this thread was started. I thought it was just me. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2012, 2:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985/51 "2012-04-28T14:32:20Z")
No woman, no cry. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2012, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985/52 "2012-04-28T14:53:39Z")
I never cry out of sadness, anger or frustration. I get madder than hornets, I get down, but I don’t cry over it. I can count on one hand – nay, one finger – the amount of times I’ve cried because I was unhappy in the past 5 years. I have, however, found myself crying like a little bitch when something is beautiful enough to move me. You know those videos of babies getting Cochlear implants and hearing for the first time? Yeah, I can’t watch those. Dust gets in my eye or something every time. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-well-hell-men-too-do-you-ever-cry-when-you-cant-help-it/619985.md?page=2)