# Women with big stones - Are big, flashy gemstones in jewelry in poor taste of not? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 7, 2010, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803 "2010-07-07T01:18:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/21 "2010-07-07T14:46:24Z")
What exactly is the statement of any jewelry? You wear it because you like it. ---
**Author:** ![BrotherCadfael](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@BrotherCadfael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrotherCadfael)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/22 "2010-07-07T15:56:24Z")
> [@The\_Second\_Stone](#): > > Angelina Jolie would look good in just about anything. She’d look better in nothing… ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/23 "2010-07-07T16:21:39Z")
> [@Gruntled](#): > > What exactly is the statement? I just got a manicure and I’m showing it off? I have a very nice long neck and I’m drawing attention to it? I wear my hair long and in a pony usually so I’m going to draw attention to my updo? I guess it kind of depends on the piece in question - a statement piece is going to draw attention to whatever body part it’s on. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Second\_Stone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbe5ce/32.png) [@The\_Second\_Stone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Second_Stone)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/24 "2010-07-08T00:36:57Z")
> [@BrotherCadfael](#): > > She’d look better in nothing… Yet even that doesn’t help Gia. ---
**Author:** ![Gruntled](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/34f0e0/32.png) [@Gruntled](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gruntled)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/25 "2010-07-08T01:40:14Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > I just got a manicure and **I’m showing it off?** > > I have a very nice long neck and **I’m drawing attention to it**? > > I wear my hair long and in a pony usually so **I’m going to draw attention to my updo**? > > I guess it kind of depends on the piece in question - a statement piece is going to **draw attention** to whatever body part it’s on. Why the obsession with getting attention? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Not\_a\_Platypus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/d26b3c/32.png) [@Not\_a\_Platypus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Not_a_Platypus)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/26 "2010-07-08T01:47:35Z")
Maybe not attention so much as that particular piece of jewelry will accentuate that particular area. It’s similar to putting more effort into eye makeup and less into your lips because you want your eyes to stand out more (or because you hate your mouth), or choosing a particular cut of dress to accentuate your assets. ---
**Author:** ![wolf-alice](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/9e8a1a/32.png) [@wolf-alice](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolf-alice)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 9:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/27 "2010-07-08T09:56:50Z")
[QUOTE=Gruntled] Why the obsession with getting attention? [/QUOTE] You tell me. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 9:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/28 "2010-07-08T09:58:09Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > I think a large statement piece is lovely. > > I think if you’re wearing 20 large statement pieces, it’s not clear what you’re trying to say. That when you grow up, you want to be Mr T? ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 11:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/29 "2010-07-08T11:45:18Z")
Depends on the context. I’m not a huge fan myself of huge gemstones - but I have little occasion to wear them. I think QVC sells a lot of “fantasy items” - because it isn’t exactly like you see most women walking around with that much bling at the mall. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 11:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/30 "2010-07-08T11:47:03Z")
> [@Gruntled](#): > > Why the obsession with getting attention? 😕 I take it that you’re unfamiliar with the concept of “Event Dressing?” ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 11:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/31 "2010-07-08T11:58:49Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > I take it that you’re unfamiliar with the concept of “Event Dressing?” Sounds dreadful, like schmoozing, but with high credit-card bills afterwards. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/32 "2010-07-08T12:01:16Z")
> [@Sunspace](#): > > Sounds dreadful, like schmoozing, but with high credit-card bills afterwards. Oh certainly. Although it also often includes free booze and snacks and anonymous bathroom sex, so it all works out in the end. ---
**Author:** ![Bridget\_Burke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7cd45c/32.png) [@Bridget\_Burke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bridget_Burke)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 12:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/33 "2010-07-08T12:58:17Z")
> [@Gruntled](#): > > Why the obsession with getting attention? 😕 I’d rather get attention by wearing a piece of distinctive jewelry than by being a grouch. Interesting accessories (including jewelry) can liven up a dull outfit. And most of us do this to make ourselves feel better, not to seduce men or to make other women green with envy. Just one noticeable piece at a time is enough, unless you’re wearing your [Ruby Parure](http://www.royaldutchjewels.nl/Mellerio_Ruby_Parure.htm) to a Royal Wedding. A sizeable quartz ring, for example, need not be expensive–or limited to the most formal occasions. Statement Jewelry is, in fact, the current style. Which anybody is free to ignore. But, if you like the look, why not? ---
**Author:** ![pbbth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@pbbth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pbbth)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 2:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/34 "2010-07-08T14:13:20Z")
> [@Bridget\_Burke](#): > > Just one noticeable piece at a time is enough, unless you’re wearing your [Ruby Parure](http://www.royaldutchjewels.nl/Mellerio_Ruby_Parure.htm) to a Royal Wedding. Wow. That is both exquisite and sizable! It actually makes the tiara I’m wearing for my wedding look positively tiny. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/35 "2010-07-08T14:43:44Z")
It largely depends on the woman, and also the style of the jewelry. I recently met a woman that wore a ton of oversized costume jewelry. Nothing expensive, nothing precious or semi-precious. You’d think that anyone over the age of 12 wouldn’t be able to get away with that, but somehow she made it work. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/36 "2010-07-08T16:16:07Z")
> [@Gruntled](#): > > What exactly is the statement? Look!! ---
**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/37 "2010-07-08T16:59:57Z")
I used to sell jewelry at a mall store. When women with large hands would come in I’d say, “Oh, you’re so lucky you have the hands to pull off a large piece. When you have small hands like me, they just look silly.” When women with small hands would come in I’d say, "Oh, a large ring would dwarf your pretty hand. You can carry off the look of a really well-cut, classic single stone. " Although I was actually the store’s collection person, I was #2 in sales. 😃 stG ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2010, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/38 "2010-07-08T17:25:02Z")
> [@Gruntled](#): > > Why the obsession with getting attention? 😕 Pffft! Some people just have no sense of fashion. Seriously, you want people to notice you, and you want to look good and make a good impression. What’s so wrong about that? ---
**Author:** ![Girl\_From\_Mars](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/3da27b/32.png) [@Girl\_From\_Mars](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Girl_From_Mars)\ **Post date:** [July 9, 2010, 10:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/39 "2010-07-09T10:50:52Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > Pffft! Some people just have no sense of fashion. > > Seriously, you want people to notice you, and you want to look good and make a good impression. What’s so wrong about that? Nothing, when you look like [Christina Hendricks.](http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_FW86_jO7k_A/TDR9SnE-irI/AAAAAAAB1Fw/XJToC-o2iJA/s1600/Christina%2BHendricks%2BLA%2BTimes%2BMagazine%2B4.jpg) ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2010, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803/40 "2010-07-10T02:42:52Z")
> [@Girl\_From\_Mars](#): > > Nothing, when you look like [Christina Hendricks.](http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_FW86_jO7k_A/TDR9SnE-irI/AAAAAAAB1Fw/XJToC-o2iJA/s1600/Christina%2BHendricks%2BLA%2BTimes%2BMagazine%2B4.jpg) I WANT that necklace. 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/women-with-big-stones-are-big-flashy-gemstones-in-jewelry-in-poor-taste-of-not/545803.md?page=3)