# Workplace griping, anyone? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 12, 2010, 6:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401 "2010-11-12T06:39:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 352
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7022 "2014-01-18T02:57:44Z")
> [@Cognoscant](#): > > And at the end of the last interview, the SVP said, “I think you’re the person we’re looking for here, and so does the hiring manager and the interview committee. When do you think you can start?” > > All my current job’s troubles past, open seas at last… :D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D Sooooo very very happy for you! ---
**Author:** ![kayT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayt/32/3633_2.png) [@kayT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayT)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7023 "2014-01-18T03:03:42Z")
Hurrah! Good news at last! When do you start? ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7024 "2014-01-18T03:19:39Z")
A new guy started in my area at work this week. Turns out he was on my the team I started with on my very last IT job back in 1999. The team was pretty toxic, so I transferred off of it after six months. He put me in touch with a friend from my last team there. I had kept contact after I left, but lost touch in the aftermath of my divorce when I changed my email provider. He described what a toxic hellhole the place was (yeah, that’s why I left in 2001), how he quit, etc. My friend is still there :eek:, and he’s trying to convince her to leave as well. One more person for me to pray for/wish happy things for and hope she gets out of there to better things. The past is starting to trickle back. One of my greatest pains over the last 10 years was the sudden, violent and unwelcome break from everyone and everything in my life back then, and the complete lack of contact with anyone at all. Being turned away from the few people I did contact. Feeling as if a cold steel door had closed behind me whether I wanted it or not. Now I’m slowly meeting people I knew, most of whom I wasn’t really close to, but under friendly and happy terms. It is a connection to that past that is very healing. I’m not returning to the dark place I was in, I’m not going back to that past. Instead, it is filling in holes and healing the feeling of loss and emptiness from that brutal disconnect. So, little things, but making me happy. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7025 "2014-01-18T04:30:06Z")
OK: **Chimera** , **Cognoscant** , stop turning this into the Pink Fluffy Bunnies thread! _takes a carrot from the veggies basket and offers it to the bunnies_ ---
**Author:** ![Seanette](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/seanette/32/9139_2.png) [@Seanette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Seanette)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7026 "2014-01-18T04:56:54Z")
> [@Cognoscant](#): > > And at the end of the last interview, the SVP said, “I think you’re the person we’re looking for here, and so does the hiring manager and the interview committee. When do you think you can start?” > > All my current job’s troubles past, open seas at last… [doing the Snoopy dance of joy for you] SO glad to see good news! ---
**Author:** ![Dread\_Pirate\_Jimbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dread_pirate_jimbo/32/3897_2.png) [@Dread\_Pirate\_Jimbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dread_Pirate_Jimbo)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 5:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7027 "2014-01-18T05:33:41Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > OK: **Chimera** , **Cognoscant** , stop turning this into the Pink Fluffy Bunnies thread! > > _takes a carrot from the veggies basket and offers it to the bunnies_ I think we can take a little good with all the bad. Congrats, **Cognoscant**! ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 6:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7028 "2014-01-18T06:56:41Z")
Echoing the congratulations to **Cognoscant** , and adding a question. Your life seemed to be in a pretty bleak place immediately before you joined this thread, IIRC. And a lot of it appeared to be traceable to your work situation. I don’t want to claim TOO much credit to this community (or too LITTLE ;)), but were you giving serous thought to engineering this escape route before becoming a Workplace Griper? ---
**Author:** ![anya\_marie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@anya\_marie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anya_marie)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 8:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7029 "2014-01-18T08:29:57Z")
Fuck you, Genevieve, you unbelievably useless asshole. Fuck you for making me ask for your useless fucking help a dozen times. Fuck you for sitting there with your thumb in your vagina while I am trying to help a customer who’s got no idea when she is getting the television she paid $1200 USD to buy. That fucking engagement ring you wear has obviously cut off all the oxygen to what’s left of your brain. I don’t know who’s ass you eat to keepp this job but I hope that they quit bathing and you still have to tap that ass. I hate you, you need a dozen asskickings and a ginormous boxful of clues. I am not the slightest bit unhappy with the customer for being so damned mad at Sears and the fuckups at One Click LLC our vendor partner, that she screams at me. Lame-asssed Sears bloody motherfucking deserves it. I hope an asteroid falls on your office and warehouse and blows you to smither-fucking-reens. You suck dead goats’ assholes like no other fucktastic failbus ever did. Fuck my stupid job for letting people use their customer service reps as emotional punching bags. Of course, this fucking mess was my goddamned fault for trying to be tactful and diplomatic with a very perturbed customer. Fuck you, Anya, for trying, and fuck you for emailing vendors. ---
**Author:** ![WolfpackJeep](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wolfpackjeep/32/2921_2.png) [@WolfpackJeep](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WolfpackJeep)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 9:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7030 "2014-01-18T09:43:43Z")
YAAAAAY **Cognoscant**!!! My work rant: I’ve been trying all week to find some time to sit down and complete some “worst-case” calculations for an assembly prior to its shipment, which should have been yesterday. Thanks to a string of distractions ranging from people wandering into my office to a manager from another department demanding that I drop everything to write a procedure that will ultimately prove to be worthless, I didn’t exactly have a block of uninterrupted time to sit down and work with these numbers until today. Turns out that I made a complete mess of it…long story short, I was trying to run multiple worst-cases at the same time, and got my numbers mixed up. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Cognoscant](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Cognoscant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cognoscant)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 10:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7031 "2014-01-18T10:51:46Z")
> [@kaylasdad99](#): > > Echoing the congratulations to **Cognoscant** , and adding a question. Your life seemed to be in a pretty bleak place immediately before you joined this thread, IIRC. And a lot of it appeared to be traceable to your work situation. I don’t want to claim TOO much credit to this community (or too LITTLE ;)), but were you giving serous thought to engineering this escape route before becoming a Workplace Griper? Yeah things were bad before and I’m not going to pretend this will solve everything. I’m still going to to have to fight my bipolar disorder, that won’t stop. But being away from the workplace insanity is going to help. Talking with the SVP ( who I got along with great) convinced me that a lot of the problems I have a my current job won’t go on at the new one. The constant grudges and people whoare just along for tthe ride (whose work was so frequently dumped on me) won’t be tolerated. And if someone needs equipment or software, they actually get it. It was instructional but not efficient to have to use Excel for everything down to predictive modeling Talking to you guys really helped me realize that there were real problems in my office that were beyond typical. I mean, the workplace harassment incident that happened in August is STILL not resolved. (Just Thursday Victim asked me for the consultant’s email address, so it’s still percolating.). And recently I’ve been dragged into disputes between people in other departments solely because our VP is too little of a leader to resolve them. You helped me realize this is not normal. When you’ve been somewhere for over ten years you forget what normal workplace behavior is. So yeah you all deserve a lot credit for saying, “this is wrong, good places don’t operate this way.”. And of course all your encouragement has been vital. I can’t say it enough. I’m going to be away from my wife and kids for a while. At least 18 months while my stepson graduates from high school, which I understand. But he’s already expressed an interest in going to college at my new town. And my wife and stepdaughter might follow–stepdaughter is taken with idea, and my wife is getting marketable skills at her job. So it might work out. Despite everything. And I can’t thank you all enough for it. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 1:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7032 "2014-01-18T13:05:59Z")
**Cat Whisperer** , TAKE A BOW!!! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7033 "2014-01-18T14:38:52Z")
> [@Cognoscant](#): > > So it might work out. Tears of joy, man. ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7034 "2014-01-18T15:53:12Z")
> [@Cognoscant](#): > > I’m going to be away from my wife and kids for a while. At least 18 months while my stepson graduates from high school, which I understand. But he’s already expressed an interest in going to college at my new town. And my wife and stepdaughter might follow–stepdaughter is taken with idea, and my wife is getting marketable skills at her job. So it might work out. Despite everything. Good! Sounds like you’re well on the way to an upward swing. Having some time to yourself while you make the transition will be very helpful, as well. And hey, if you spend time alone and find out you prefer it, then you’re not a bad person if you want to keep that rolling. There are married couples who do better living apart, or sleeping in separate bedrooms. Of course, it’s gotta be something that both halves of the couple want. But think of it as a trial run for your future. ---
**Author:** ![Cheez\_Whia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d26b3c/32.png) [@Cheez\_Whia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheez_Whia)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7035 "2014-01-18T16:02:31Z")
Yay **Cognoscant** and **Chimera**! ---
**Author:** ![shantih](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f6c823/32.png) [@shantih](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shantih)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7036 "2014-01-18T16:34:39Z")
Huzzah, **Cognoscant**!! Here’s to fresh beginnings and watching your current hellish workplace diminishing in the rear view mirror of your life! Huzzah to you, too, **Chimera**! ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Girlfriend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dr.girlfriend/32/193_2.png) [@Dr.Girlfriend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Girlfriend)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7037 "2014-01-18T18:53:25Z")
Yay for **Cognoscant** and **Chimera**! _does happy dance, throws confetti in air_ I know how much this place helped me out when I was stuck in a stinking hellhole of a job. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7038 "2014-01-18T19:03:17Z")
> [@Dread\_Pirate\_Jimbo](#): > > I think we can take a little good with all the bad. Congrats, **Cognoscant**! Oops, that was me. Borrowing my husband’s iPad for the weekend. > [@kaylasdad99](#): > > **Cat Whisperer** , TAKE A BOW!!! 😃 No way, man. We’re all [del]to blame[/del] contributors here. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7039 "2014-01-18T21:03:12Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > No way, man. We’re all [del]to blame[/del] contributors here. 😃 What can we talk someone else into? Hey, you. Yeah, you, Mr. JoinDateJan2014. Quit that job. Snorkel with that Orca. Start that band. Make that Baked Alaska. Build that treehouse. Leave that bitch (oops, too far?). ---
**Author:** ![flatlined](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/eb9ed0/32.png) [@flatlined](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flatlined)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2014, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7040 "2014-01-18T23:22:23Z")
Joins **Dr. G** in the happy dance 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2014, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401/7041 "2014-01-19T04:36:24Z")
> [@kaylasdad99](#): > > **Cat Whisperer** , TAKE A BOW!!! 😃 > [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > No way, man. We’re all [del]to blame[/del] contributors here. 😃 C’mon, that’s like Unca Cecil refusing to take credit for the SDMB existing. Yours the inspiration, ma’am. Go ahead and bask in it. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401.md?page=351) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/workplace-griping-anyone/560401.md?page=353)