# Would a man saying "I'm a feminist" to explain his lack of deferential manners to dates be OK?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-a-man-saying-im-a-feminist-to-explain-his-lack-of-deferential-manners-to-dates-be-ok/784578>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [April 16, 2017, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-a-man-saying-im-a-feminist-to-explain-his-lack-of-deferential-manners-to-dates-be-ok/784578 "2017-04-16T19:44:28Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 1\
**Showing post:** 115

<div class="post-metadata">

**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\
**Post date:** [April 24, 2017, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-a-man-saying-im-a-feminist-to-explain-his-lack-of-deferential-manners-to-dates-be-ok/784578/115 "2017-04-24T19:34:09Z")

</div>

> [@ruadh](#):
>
> I think UrbanRedneck is supposing that feminists think there’s something inherently sexist about being sexually attracted to women’s bodies, and that “male feminists” have somehow unlearned this attraction as part of their feministisation process.
> 
> I’m not sure if it’s a serious question or not but it’s not totally off the wall. The way that some feminists carry on about “objectification” of women, it almost does seem as though they find the very idea problematic.
> 
> I have encountered heterosexual men who regard themselves as feminist and feel guilty about their sexual attraction to women’s bodies. These are the ones that self-describe as radical feminists, and spend inordinate amounts of time on social media lecturing sex workers and their allies that they’re doing feminism wrong.

That is pretty close to my thinking.

I think [this picture](http://www.chucklebuzz.com/hooters-protester-women-funny-caption-image/258/) explains it.

It just seems to me that “feminists” hate it when say men get turned on by sexy women’s bodies. That whole term “objectification” is they get mad at men for being… well men. I knew one woman who told me “I should be able to walk down the street totally naked and you shouldnt do anything about it”. Probably also why so many feminist women dress so dumpy.

---

_[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-a-man-saying-im-a-feminist-to-explain-his-lack-of-deferential-manners-to-dates-be-ok/784578)._