# Would a man saying "I'm a feminist" to explain his lack of deferential manners to dates be OK?

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**Created:** [April 16, 2017, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-a-man-saying-im-a-feminist-to-explain-his-lack-of-deferential-manners-to-dates-be-ok/784578 "2017-04-16T19:44:28Z")\
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**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\
**Post date:** [April 24, 2017, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-a-man-saying-im-a-feminist-to-explain-his-lack-of-deferential-manners-to-dates-be-ok/784578/116 "2017-04-24T19:41:03Z")

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> [@TokyoBayer](#):
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> What. The. Fuck?
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> Can you please tell us what a feminist man means to you?
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> There’s more to the conversation, but there needs to be at least some understanding of the terminology in order to continue.
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> In your view, what makes a man a feminist? What means that a man isn’t?

To be honest, it gets confusing.

Can one be all for equal rights, equal pay, equal opportunity, all that but still be proud to be a guy and ok to get turned on by a hot womans body? Granted I know you can look but dont touch or allow yourself to be seen looking.

So I need to ask you, is a feminist man required to turn off the “boobies are hot” part of their brains?

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