# Would a man saying "I'm a feminist" to explain his lack of deferential manners to dates be OK?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [April 16, 2017, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-a-man-saying-im-a-feminist-to-explain-his-lack-of-deferential-manners-to-dates-be-ok/784578 "2017-04-16T19:44:28Z")\
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**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\
**Post date:** [April 22, 2017, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-a-man-saying-im-a-feminist-to-explain-his-lack-of-deferential-manners-to-dates-be-ok/784578/95 "2017-04-22T13:20:16Z")

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> [@MandaJo](#):
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> So if I’m walking ahead of a guy and I hold the door for him and he isn’t offended, you think that means somehow he loses his libido? How does that work, exactly?

Wow, are you clueless on men’s brains.

Let’s say a guy drops something, you being the helpful person, bend over to pick it up for him and he gets a good look down the front of your shirt at your beautiful and ample busoms. When you stand up he stutters slightly and says thank you, or maybe… thank you!

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