If you’re alone on the beach and he’s peeing in the water, fine…BUT…
Naked babies and toddlers on the beach are cute, though maybe not so sanitary. (“Toddler” describing those still mastering walking and running.) Youngsters—say three, four, five—in only underpants barely register a glance. But a naked four-year-old is not a toddler and already knows some kind of clothing is usually worn in public. Kinder to let him pick out his own swimming trunks than to be shamed by another family’s six-year-old’s sneer.
Just make sure you apply sunscreen to all of the exposed skin.
Four year olds running around sans clothing isn’t offensive to me. Most families have at least one kid that sheds his / her clothes as a preschooler. The peeing should be done in the water though.
Since I’m arguing against sexualizing young children, I guess I would draw the line at the point where the nudity itself is portrayed in a sexual fashion. Where that line goes when it comes to such an inherently fuzzy concept, though, I have no real clue.
Now I’m wondering exactly what emotions you fear that an inadvertent glimpse of a kid’s tiny sausage might stir up in you. I’m not really sure if I want to ask, though.
A naked 4 year old wouldn’t disturb me. And I don’t see why it’s your problem if some pedophile sees your kid at a distance and jerks off later. That’s NOT what pedophiles do that hurts kids. But…
I don’t want to see anyone peeing at the beach, even an infant. I’m not worried about germs, I just think it’s gross. And stale pee smells really nasty, so I hope he pees someplace where it will be washed away by the ocean.
In America, it is customary for people to cover their bodies with clothing. Kids need to learn that sometime. Four seems like an age when kids are learning social norms, like hiding their genitalia in public. So you might be giving mixed messages, and some other kid and/or parent who is applying that rule to 4 year olds might hassle you or the kid, which would be unpleasant for the kid.
FWIW, I’ve twice accidentally stumbled upon a nude beach, and come across people of all ages (including lots of old wrinkled people) with no clothes. And that didn’t bother me, either. It was just people enjoying the beach. Also, while I only do it privately, I personally, love swimming in the nude. Water sliding across your body just feels different when there is nothing between you and it.
Like toilet training, this is one of the things that people need to be less stressed out over. Yes, they need to learn it sometime. If they haven’t picked it up by the time they’re in college, you’ll have a problem. But, like with toilet training, I somehow don’t see that as being a realistic scenario.
In other words, letting little kids run naked at the beach isn’t really going to increase the risk of them showing up naked at job interviews later in life because they somehow never learned that people tend to wear clothes. They’ll probably get that message anyway.
I’m not sure why but if I’m caught looking at nudity when I’m not allowed to I feel like I’m a pervert. Maybe I got trained that way when I was young. BTW I avoided some camps in primary school because I thought people would see me in the shower.
John, if the boy is running around in full view, and happens to be in your line of sight, I think it’s fair to say that you’re allowed to notice his existence, in a neutral and factual sort of way, without that making you a pervert.
The beaches I go to have naked kids and maybe 1/4 of the women topless. Men generally wear trunks, but will discretely-ishly change from bathing suit to shorts right where they are.
As long as the kid doesn’t come over and take a dump by me why would I care? (Happened. Dad came with a bag and retrieved the kids offering)
I certainly wouldn’t be disturbed by other peoples’ 4-year-olds running around on the beach. Not a parent; if I were I’d also let a 4-year-old of mine (of either sex) run around naked on the beach.
Peeing anywhere you happen to be would be right out, OTOH. I expect parents to make their children discreetly pee where nobody steps in it (i.e. in the water or in dune vegetation where present).
JohnClay already said he doesn’t feel comfortable having naked kids around. He’s not ogling them or trying to see more, but strives to avoid it. What more do you want from him?
With the media’s obsession with pedophilia, I’m sure a lot of people feel this way. In a sense, they practically advertise it by portraying kids as “forbidden fruit.”
In answer to the thread title, no, I wouldn’t be disturbed, but I’d put clothes back on my kid.
In answer to your OP, I certainly wouldn’t avoid the beach (and certainly not for fear of pedophiles). Kids do all sorts of “embarrassing” things, this one is pretty harmless.