# Would it bother you if a gay friend sees you (or your wife/parnter) breastfeed? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 10, 2011, 4:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952 "2011-06-10T04:37:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 4:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/1 "2011-06-10T04:37:34Z")
I was talking to my wife today about the Weiner case, and the difference between men’s and women’s response to seeing nakkid bits and such. So I thought back to when our gay friends came visit us once and when it was time for my wife to breast feed, the gay friends turned their backs. She openly breast feeds in front of her female friends but not male ones. At the time, I told her I didn’t care because seeing a naked breast wasn’t going to be exciting \*these \*particular friends, but she said she still feels uncomfortable. Would it bother you? ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 4:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/2 "2011-06-10T04:41:04Z")
Would it bother me if a gay man saw my tits without cloth on them? About as much as if a straight guy saw them; it would bother me if the dude was an ass about it, but that’s got to do with his being an ass, not with his sexual orientation. The bits which are equivalent to a man’s dick? Those only get displayed in public at the doctor’s or when I’m actually with a sexual partner. Do men like looking at vagina pics? ETA: ISTR one of our gay posters stating that he does find boobies fascinating because it’s something he doesn’t have - it’s not something he’s particularly interested in interacting with sexually but that’s a different matter. Makes sense to me. ---
**Author:** ![heathen\_earthling](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/13edae/32.png) [@heathen\_earthling](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/heathen_earthling)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/3 "2011-06-10T04:58:09Z")
Your poll has two options for “I’m male and it would bother me” and none for “I’m male and it would bother me.” I wouldn’t mind any of our friends seeing my partner breastfeed, if she was fine with it (hypothetically, we don’t have kids). > [@Nava](#): > > Do men like looking at vagina pics? Yes. ---
**Author:** ![Hedda\_Rosa](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hedda_rosa/32/1204_2.png) [@Hedda\_Rosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hedda_Rosa)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 5:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/4 "2011-06-10T05:04:34Z")
Back when I was breast feeding anyone was welcome to see me do it. When a woman is breast feeing her breasts are not acting as sexual objects, they are providing nutrition to the baby. Anyone thinking pervy thoughts was the one with the problem, not me. Besides, breastfeeding mamas get pretty good at doing it without showing much of anything (though squirmy 10 month olds can make that challenging.) I don’t see how sexual orientation is relevant. ---
**Author:** ![mnemosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@mnemosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mnemosyne)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 5:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/5 "2011-06-10T05:53:55Z")
Though I don’t have kids and therefore don’t breastfeed, I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t bother me if _anyone_ saw me do so; gay or straight, male or female. ---
**Author:** ![alexandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e68b1a/32.png) [@alexandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alexandra)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 6:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/6 "2011-06-10T06:57:58Z")
Um, I’d do it in public so I really don’t think I’d care. I wouldn’t worry about anyone perving on my boobs when I’ve got a baby sucking on the end of them. ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 7:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/7 "2011-06-10T07:30:28Z")
> [@Hedda\_Rosa](#): > > When a woman is breast feeing her breasts are not acting as sexual objects, they are providing nutrition to the baby. Anyone thinking pervy thoughts was the one with the problem, not me. This. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 7:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/8 "2011-06-10T07:34:59Z")
I voted “other,” because I’d be the “gay friend.” I’ve seen breastfeeding and it didn’t bother anyone involved, including me. Why would it? ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 7:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/9 "2011-06-10T07:42:55Z")
I find it as weird as staring at someone blowing their nose or peeing. It’s a bodily emanation. You don’t look. ---
**Author:** ![foolsguinea](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foolsguinea/32/14751_2.png) [@foolsguinea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/foolsguinea)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 9:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/10 "2011-06-10T09:01:16Z")
> [@heathen\_earthling](#): > > Your poll has two options for “I’m male and it would bother me” and none for “I’m male and it would bother me.” The missing “n’t” got you too! This is why I picked, “I’d take photos and post them on the net” ---
**Author:** ![SciFiSam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/47e85d/32.png) [@SciFiSam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SciFiSam)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 9:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/11 "2011-06-10T09:06:35Z")
Your wife doesn’t breastfeed in front of male friends? What, is she whipping out her boobs and shouting ‘PAY CLOSE ATTENTION TO MY NIPPLES!’ or something? Breastfeeding barely shows any flesh. ---
**Author:** ![Imago](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/85e7bf/32.png) [@Imago](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Imago)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 10:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/12 "2011-06-10T10:18:38Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > I find it as weird as staring at someone blowing their nose or peeing. It’s a bodily emanation. You don’t look. I stare at women peeing. 😛 In all seriousness, I wouldn’t be the slightest bit bothered by someone _seeing_ me breastfeed (hypothetically), but if they _stare at_ me breastfeeding then no matter who they are I’m going to ask them what their problem is. Same goes for my hypothetical wife if she’s the one with the kids. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 10:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/13 "2011-06-10T10:37:04Z")
> [@heathen\_earthling](#): > > Your poll has two options for “I’m male and it would bother me” and none for “I’m male and it would bother me.” :smack: Well would it bother you or would it bother you? The second one should have been I’m male and it wouldn’t bother me. ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 11:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/14 "2011-06-10T11:55:23Z")
I have it on good authority that even gay men love boobs, so it’s not a matter of whether they get turned on by it or not. Everyone likes boobs. If you don’t there’s something wrong with you. That said, boobs are boobs, and if they’re not mine to play with I don’t care who looks at 'em. ---
**Author:** ![UncleRojelio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unclerojelio/32/3160_2.png) [@UncleRojelio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleRojelio)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 11:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/15 "2011-06-10T11:58:31Z")
I’m a guy and it did not and would not bother me to have anyone see my wife breastfeed my children. Your poll did not appear to have this option. ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 12:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/16 "2011-06-10T12:34:10Z")
Honestly, how I would be about breastfeeding would have more to do with my perception of my audience’s comfort level than my own. I am pregnant now, and it’s hard to see for sure how I would be, but I honestly think that in my own home I would not only feel comfortable breastfeeding in front of just about anyone, I wouldn’t even feel compelled to use blankets to minimize skin (though I wouldn’t go out of my way to strip to the waist or anything). However, if I felt like my guests would be uncomfortable with seeing me breastfeed, I’d use a blanket or go to the other room. ---
**Author:** ![Agent\_Foxtrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9fc29f/32.png) [@Agent\_Foxtrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Agent_Foxtrot)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/17 "2011-06-10T12:43:49Z")
My best friend’s girlfriend and my brother’s girlfriend both breastfed in front of me, and I’m straight. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 12:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/18 "2011-06-10T12:46:07Z")
I voted for it would but that was a mistake–I meant to vote for the second option… ---
**Author:** ![Antigen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/848f3c/32.png) [@Antigen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antigen)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 1:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/19 "2011-06-10T13:00:46Z")
I’d be _breastfeeding_, not inviting people to watch as I whip out the puppies with tassels on them. It’s not a sexual thing! I don’t think it would bother me to have _anyone_ around, unless they were staring at me intently and masturbating while I’m trying to feed my kid. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 1:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952/20 "2011-06-10T13:11:39Z")
Yes, it would bother me. It would bother me to suddenly discover that I have a wife and child. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-it-bother-you-if-a-gay-friend-sees-you-or-your-wife-parnter-breastfeed/584952.md?page=2)