# Would other Relatives Call Us Gay? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 20, 2014, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255 "2014-01-20T05:10:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Snickers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@Snickers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snickers)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2014, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/21 "2014-01-23T21:19:17Z")
Incest is best, a game the whole family can play! ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2014, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/22 "2014-01-23T21:29:24Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > Let’s put it this way, the only thing more gay than that would be Liberace playing backup piano to Judy Garland singing at the premier of Brokeback Mountain. Throw in a little incest and we have a real party on our hands. > [@Blackberry](#): > > > [@Boogly](#): > > > > What if he yells ‘no homo’ while he does this? > > Depends if homo is short for homosexual or homoerotic. > [@Guinastasia](#): > > Nothin’ spells lovin’ like bein’ gay with your cousin’! > [@Horatius](#): > > > [@Spiderman](#): > > > > Then it’s _not_ homosexuality. > > It is if it’s a boy cat! > [@Guinastasia](#): > > Not only is it gay, but if you live in West Virginia, this would be the time to start shopping for a china pattern. > [@Ambivalid](#): > > Dude, gay. So many laugh out loud responses in this thread. Thank you all for the laughs! ---
**Author:** ![LawMonkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@LawMonkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LawMonkey)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2014, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/23 "2014-01-23T21:48:52Z")
Gotta say, I am about as sexually open-minded as a person can reasonably be, and yet the OP managed to squick me right the fuck out. There oughta be an award for that, man. That said: Your life, consenting adults, knock yourselves out, please don’t tell me about it and do it in private. Also, totally gay (behavior) or at least bisexual (your sexual orientation). ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2014, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/24 "2014-01-23T22:06:01Z")
OP, where are you from? In some cultures, marriage between cousins is the preferred union and not at all squicky. Of course, the Venn diagram of cultures who prefer cousin marriage and cultures who are OK with homosexuality doesn’t have much intersection. As for what your relatives are thinking, totally gay. ---
**Author:** ![Sampiro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2acd7d/32.png) [@Sampiro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sampiro)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/25 "2014-01-24T00:56:20Z")
> [@Horatius](#): > > It is if it’s a boy cat! And he’s clearly wanting some boy pussy. ---
**Author:** ![Napier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ce73a5/32.png) [@Napier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Napier)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/26 "2014-01-24T03:46:07Z")
40% of US states allow first cousins to marry. It’s not that edgy. ---
**Author:** ![Ace309](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ace309/32/1050_2.png) [@Ace309](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ace309)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/27 "2014-01-24T05:09:19Z")
OP, your mom raised some weird kids. ---
**Author:** ![Sampiro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2acd7d/32.png) [@Sampiro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sampiro)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 5:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/28 "2014-01-24T05:56:53Z")
> [@Napier](#): > > 40% of US states allow first cousins to marry. It’s not that edgy. I wonder if there’s been a gay first cousin marriage yet. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/29 "2014-01-24T06:04:27Z")
How old are you guys? p.s. gay ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 6:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/30 "2014-01-24T06:41:09Z")
> [@Sampiro](#): > > I wonder if there’s been a gay first cousin marriage yet. I only support gay first cousin marriage if the family is hot. ---
**Author:** ![Hermitian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hermitian/32/470_2.png) [@Hermitian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hermitian)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/31 "2014-01-24T16:34:38Z")
> [@RichieBoy](#): > > When I greet the rest of my cousins it’s useally with a kiss for a female… A little off topic here. I don’t know where the OP is, but is this normal in the US? I (male) usually just give a hug to female cousins. ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/32 "2014-01-24T16:40:39Z")
I think it’s pretty normal, although maybe not as common in some places as others. A kiss on the cheek for greeting is certainly common enough. A peck on the lips is less so, but I still know plenty of people who use that as a greeting. What the OP describes is a little beyond a normal greeting. ---
**Author:** ![RichieBoy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b5e925/32.png) [@RichieBoy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RichieBoy)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/33 "2014-01-24T17:27:07Z")
> [@Green\_Bean](#): > > How old are you guys? > > p.s. gay Where both 33 ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/34 "2014-01-24T18:11:05Z")
> [@RichieBoy](#): > > Where both 33 Well, that wasn’t what I was expecting. The vibe from your OP suggested some confusion about your sexuality. Between that and a nearly baffling cluelessness about how your actions would be perceived by others, I had you pegged in your teens. So forget what your family thinks. What do _ **you** _ think? Is it a “homosexual” act in your mind, or simply a platonic way you demonstrate your closeness to your cousin? And what are you looking for from us - validation that it’s OK? Sure, I’ll say it. Go for it if you want to. Consulting adults and all that. You might have to deal with some family fallout, but who cares if people on this board are squicked out. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/35 "2014-01-24T18:16:12Z")
> [@RichieBoy](#): > > Where both 33 Between the OP and the user name, I totally did not expect that answer. I figured you guys were 17. ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/36 "2014-01-24T18:23:24Z")
33? Okay, do whatever you want but stop playing grab-ass in front of the family. It’s tacky. ---
**Author:** ![RichieBoy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b5e925/32.png) [@RichieBoy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RichieBoy)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/37 "2014-01-24T18:26:50Z")
> [@Chimera](#): > > Between the OP and the user name, I totally did not expect that answer. I figured you guys were 17. Guess you got thrown off the Track a Bit! ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/38 "2014-01-24T18:27:19Z")
> [@Gyrate](#): > > 33? Okay, do whatever you want but stop playing grab-ass in front of the family. It’s tacky. Extremely tacky. And you can bet your family notices and probably doesn’t appreciate it so if I were you I’d knock it off. ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/39 "2014-01-24T18:28:38Z")
Agreed. If you were 16 I’d say you need to learn some boundaries, but 33? You already know this is inappropriate and it’s making people uncomfortable. Groping anyone at all at a family event is inappropriate, I don’t care if it’s your Wife, Husband, Lover, same sex, or opposite sex. ---
**Author:** ![RichieBoy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b5e925/32.png) [@RichieBoy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RichieBoy)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2014, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255/40 "2014-01-24T18:29:13Z")
> [@TroutMan](#): > > Well, that wasn’t what I was expecting. The vibe from your OP suggested some confusion about your sexuality. Between that and a nearly baffling cluelessness about how your actions would be perceived by others, I had you pegged in your teens. > > So forget what your family thinks. What do _ **you** _ think? Is it a “homosexual” act in your mind, or simply a platonic way you demonstrate your closeness to your cousin? > > And what are you looking for from us - validation that it’s OK? Sure, I’ll say it. Go for it if you want to. Consulting adults and all that. You might have to deal with some family fallout, but who cares if people on this board are squicked out. Thank You TroutMan, you at least have some compassion [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-other-relatives-call-us-gay/679255.md?page=3)