# Would people describe you as an asshole/bitch and are you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 19, 2012, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305 "2012-02-19T05:11:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Cubsfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Cubsfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cubsfan)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/1 "2012-02-19T05:11:44Z")
Answer honestly. Theres no judgement in here for all the assholes and bitches on the SDMB. ---
**Author:** ![MsWhatsit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@MsWhatsit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsWhatsit)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/2 "2012-02-19T05:12:20Z")
Yes. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 5:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/3 "2012-02-19T05:20:59Z")
Mostly people think I am really sweet and nice and cute, but secretly I’m kind of a bitch. Also on Facebook I am often an asshole. ---
**Author:** ![CatherineZeta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e95f7d/32.png) [@CatherineZeta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CatherineZeta)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/4 "2012-02-19T05:22:11Z")
Yes. I don’t think I’m ever rude, but when I’m at work I expect to **work** \*\*\*\* and I’ve had at least two employees who had issues with that. In my mind they were the assholes, not me. ---
**Author:** ![Cubsfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Cubsfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cubsfan)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/5 "2012-02-19T05:22:37Z")
Now that a few people answered I’ll state that people think I’m an asshole and I am an asshole. As long as my wife can deal with me though I’m ok with that at this point in my life. ---
**Author:** ![Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hazle_Weatherfield)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 5:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/6 "2012-02-19T05:25:15Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > Mostly people think I am really sweet and nice and cute, but secretly I’m kind of a bitch. Also on Facebook I am often an asshole. Same here. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/7 "2012-02-19T05:28:46Z")
Yes and yes. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 6:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/8 "2012-02-19T06:15:09Z")
This is hard to answer; I’m not often a bitch, but I can rise to the occasion. Does that make it a Yes for me? ---
**Author:** ![Taomist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@Taomist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taomist)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 7:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/9 "2012-02-19T07:10:59Z")
People think I’m nice in general, and I am, but there are times I know I could have been a lot nicer than I was. I’m not so much a bitch as bitchy. And if people c ould hear what I’m really thinking…whoohooo! The fun days are when my mouth runs away on it’s own. That happens often enough that I can only imagine what’s gonna happen when I get full-blown Alzheimers! It’s gonna be great. ---
**Author:** ![MaltLiquor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/858c86/32.png) [@MaltLiquor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MaltLiquor)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 7:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/10 "2012-02-19T07:43:45Z")
I honestly think that nearly all the people that I know think I am a great guy. I find it hard to act like an asshole, not that it hasn’t happened, but they know it is a fleeting moment. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 7:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/11 "2012-02-19T07:52:21Z")
I didn’t vote, because there’s a big difference between an asshole and a bitch. I’m not an asshole, and I trust nobody thinks I am. But I am capable of being a bitch if the situation arises. And everyone knows that. ---
**Author:** ![Stelios](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8dc957/32.png) [@Stelios](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stelios)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 8:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/12 "2012-02-19T08:16:31Z")
The only personality based criticism I ever get is that I’m too nice for my own good, so no for both. ---
**Author:** ![Knorf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/58956e/32.png) [@Knorf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Knorf)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 8:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/13 "2012-02-19T08:17:41Z")
Yep. Asshole. Guilty as charged. I try to be otherwise, but I have to face facts. ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 11:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/14 "2012-02-19T11:23:20Z")
I might be called a stuck-up bitch behind my back, but I’m just very socially phobic. It’s not that I think I’m too good to talk to strangers, it’s that I don’t think I’m good enough. D: So maybe! I dunno for sure, but I wouldn’t be surprised. I’m certainly capable of being bitchy online (usually after my intelligence has been insulted), but everyone is so that hardly counts. ---
**Author:** ![GoodOmens](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/d26b3c/32.png) [@GoodOmens](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GoodOmens)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/15 "2012-02-19T13:52:20Z")
I’m sure some of my students sometimes think I’m an asshole. My wife probably does now and then. I don’t think I’m an asshole overall, but we all have our moments. ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/16 "2012-02-19T15:08:40Z")
Yes, but only because when I am not a bitch, my intentions can be misread. It’s easier to be seen as a bitch sometimes when you work around almost all men. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/17 "2012-02-19T15:52:26Z")
Not an asshole. It would make me very uncomfortable to try and be one. But you had no choice for “sarcastic bastard”. ---
**Author:** ![Enuma\_Elish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/5e9695/32.png) [@Enuma\_Elish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enuma_Elish)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/18 "2012-02-19T15:58:33Z")
I voted no/no. I am usually described by others as weird or mean or off-putting. People who describe me as mean are people who don’t ‘get’ sarcasm. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/19 "2012-02-19T16:04:37Z")
There are a fair few on this board who would unhesitatingly state that I am. IRL, not many people personally dislike me. I would say that I am an asshole, though, based on all the things I have to actively resist doing and saying. ---
**Author:** ![Mrs.Cake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/2acd7d/32.png) [@Mrs.Cake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mrs.Cake)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/20 "2012-02-19T16:07:39Z")
Depends - I have been called a bitch a few times in the past, but not recently, at least not to my face. In the last 10 years I’ve had to be a lot more diplomatic and circumspect for work reasons in a field where it seemes everyone knows everyone, so except around very close friends I tend to keep everything professional and non-confrontational. I’ve even tried, and I hope succeeded in keeping my anonymous online interactions civil, and only say what I would say if I were in a roomful of people. Means I don’t post a great deal, and when I do my posts are mostly ignored, but I’ve always been good with being a fly on the wall. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305.md?page=2)