# Would people describe you as an asshole/bitch and are you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 19, 2012, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305 "2012-02-19T05:11:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![kayT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayt/32/3633_2.png) [@kayT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayT)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/21 "2012-02-19T16:11:32Z")
I am a bitch and everyone knows it. They just don’t know how much bigger a bitch I would be if I said everything I am thinking. I used to have a license plate frame that said “It isn’t PMS; I’m always bitchy.” I loved it. My boss gave it to me. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/22 "2012-02-19T16:35:17Z")
> [@Enuma\_Elish](#): > > People who describe me as mean are people who don’t ‘get’ sarcasm. Sarcasm is almost always mean. I am nice, and I am almost certain that people generally think I’m nice. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/23 "2012-02-19T16:52:07Z")
Yes, yes, and proud of it. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/24 "2012-02-19T18:12:31Z")
I said “People don’t think I’m a bitch” based on real life. Around here, not so much – at least not since I became a mod. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/25 "2012-02-19T18:28:02Z")
> [@kayT](#): > > They just don’t know how much bigger a bitch I would be if I said everything I am thinking. This. I say a lot of things that everybody else is thinking but is scared to say for fear of being branded a bitch, but people have _no idea_ how much time I spend biting my tongue. ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/26 "2012-02-19T18:31:34Z")
I am \*certainly \*a bitch (and a snob, and an elitist), but I do \*not \*think I am an asshole. The two are not always synonymous. ---
**Author:** ![kayT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayt/32/3633_2.png) [@kayT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayT)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/27 "2012-02-19T20:23:21Z")
When I read the OP I took it to mean “bitch” for women and “asshole” for men. ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/28 "2012-02-19T20:27:32Z")
IRL? I don’t think so; unless people think I’m an asshole for not talking much. Online? Yes, I tend to be. I suffer from bouts of [Internet Fuckwad Syndrome.](http://penny-arcade.com/comic/2004/03/19) ---
**Author:** ![Ostrya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/35a633/32.png) [@Ostrya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ostrya)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/29 "2012-02-19T20:30:13Z")
I’m not an asshole but everyone else is. ---
**Author:** ![Prelude\_to\_Fascination](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a183cd/32.png) [@Prelude\_to\_Fascination](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Prelude_to_Fascination)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/30 "2012-02-19T20:31:33Z")
> [@rachelellogram](#): > > I might be called a stuck-up bitch behind my back, but I’m just very socially phobic. It’s not that I think I’m too good to talk to strangers, it’s that I don’t think I’m good enough. D: > > So maybe! I dunno for sure, but I wouldn’t be surprised. > > I’m certainly capable of being bitchy online (usually after my intelligence has been insulted), but everyone is so that hardly counts. Substitute asshole for bitch, and I could’ve written this. “Socially phobic” almost describes how I feel, although I’ve recently thought of myself as “anthropophobic,” but I’m not really afraid of people, and any fear I have isn’t irrational. I’m just not socially comfortable, although when I was young, I was comfortable around people most of the time. In any event, people mistake my social uncomfort, lack of self-confidence and lack of self-esteem for being an asshole and stuck up. So I’d say yes. But they’re wrong. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![chizzuk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e36b37/32.png) [@chizzuk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chizzuk)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/31 "2012-02-19T21:50:33Z")
I feel bitchy a lot of the time but I think I do an OK job of hiding it (people seem to want to hang out with me reasonably often). My biggest problem is that I’m reflexively sarcastic and cynical and sometimes that leads to foot-in-mouth moments. ---
**Author:** ![VunderBob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/839c29/32.png) [@VunderBob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VunderBob)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/32 "2012-02-19T21:55:40Z")
I don’t believe as a general rule I can be an asshole, but I will admit that I can be at times. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/33 "2012-02-19T22:06:32Z")
I am not a bitch and I really hate when people describe women using that word, but I probably am sometimes perceived as one because 1)I’m shy and 2)I tend to have strong opinions and even in this day and age, a lot of people don’t like that in a woman. Actually, I’m a very nice person. ---
**Author:** ![blondebear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blondebear/32/1022_2.png) [@blondebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blondebear)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/34 "2012-02-19T22:10:09Z")
Everyone is an asshole in their own way. I consider myself considerate and respectful, but some people just annoy the hell out of me and bring out my inner assholeness. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 10:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/35 "2012-02-19T22:32:12Z")
For the longest time, I’d have to say no, I’m not a bitch or an asshole. But when I was younger, I felt it was necessary to get my (right!) opinion across no matter how I had to beat that dead horse. So yeah, I was certainly bitchy then. However, I currently comment on an entertainment app that doesn’t have very reasoned debate and I’m sure, to some of the people there, I’m very much a bitch because I don’t back down over incorrect facts they say. Guess I’ll just have to live with that one though. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/36 "2012-02-19T22:48:34Z")
Hopefully not anymore. But probably at one time. A close friend just paid me this compliment at Christmas time: You have \*always \*been a _good_ man - you have also grown into a \*nice \*man. I knew what she meant. ---
**Author:** ![crookedteeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b4bc9f/32.png) [@crookedteeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/crookedteeth)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/37 "2012-02-19T23:11:50Z")
Yes, people think I’m a bitch. No, I’m not… at least not most of the time. My social anxiety makes me seem unfriendly. My inability to keep my thoughts and feelings to myself means that I sometimes say things that aren’t socially acceptable (but they’re true). I’m generally a nice person though, just keep to myself most of the time. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2012, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/38 "2012-02-19T23:28:22Z")
Simple answer, without any explanations/clarifications: Yes, people often describe me as an asshole and no, I am not an asshole. ---
**Author:** ![Sudden\_Kestrel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecd19e/32.png) [@Sudden\_Kestrel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sudden_Kestrel)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2012, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/39 "2012-02-20T00:13:40Z")
I’m the quiet weird kid in the back row/corner. I think the only people who would ever have described me as a bitch (or an asshole) would have been a couple of women rivals from my youth, and they’ve probably grown out of that by now. Still, I’ve probably only known a half-dozen people in my life that I would refer to as either assholes or bitches, so it’s probably more a difference in perception than any particular non-bitchiness on my part. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2012, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305/40 "2012-02-20T00:22:52Z")
I tease an awful lot, but if you looked into my eyes as I did so, you’d see no malice. Only good natured fun. …would you believe that 1 or 2 people on this whole planet might actually think I’m funny? Ssshhh! Don’t let on you know… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-people-describe-you-as-an-asshole-bitch-and-are-you/613305.md?page=3)