# Would the statement, "I would like to have sex with you" work on you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 2, 2002, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677 "2002-09-02T15:11:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/21 "2002-09-03T02:51:45Z")
I don’t pick up on subtle hints, so a direct approach would help clue me in to what the other person wants. Would it be an automatic in? Nope. I’m just not that way. But if anything were to eventually develop, I sure would prefer a direct conversation to pussyfooting about. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/22 "2002-09-03T02:58:55Z")
It generally works on me when my wife says it to me. It’s mostly effective when I say it to her, too. I think it works for us because we’re mostly pretty nice to each other in other areas of our lives, too. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/23 "2002-09-03T04:35:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tripler \* > \*\*I utter this phrase to one of my limbs every night. > > If a real live human would utter that to me, I believe I’d have to oblige her. > > Tripler > **Tripler’s Law** stands unbroken. ☹ \*\* Son, your desperate situation is breakin’ my heart. You’ve got your life on the line serving our country and you’re reduced to [begging for home made porn](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=133649) for cryin’ out loud. We need to start a fund drive to get you some companionship. What do you need to make the natives friendlier? Chocolate bars, beads, an MP3 player, Prada handbags and Ferragamo pumps, Microsoft stock options… what? Where do you want this stuff sent? I can’t make heads or tails of your location coordinates. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 6:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/24 "2002-09-03T06:37:57Z")
If I were not involved with someone, and I found the propositioner attractive…yeah, I’d be all over it. Oddly though, I was propositioned by 2 women (at different times) I did NOT find attractive, and had to pass. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 10:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/25 "2002-09-03T10:57:19Z")
I remembre one time (a long time ago) me and this woman got to talking at a bar. After a couple of hours it was time to close the following conversation took place: Her: “so you seeing anyone right now” me: “No” Her:“so if I call you up sometime maybe we could go out on a date?” me: “Well I don’t know about all that shit, but we can go back to my place and fuck if you want to…” Her: \*\* "HEY! What kind of girl do you think I am!\*\* Me: “well if you don’t want to thats fine. I’ll just…” Her: “OK, Lets go!” ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 11:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/26 "2002-09-03T11:55:22Z")
I remembre one time (a long time ago) me and this woman got to talking at a bar. After a couple of hours it was time to close the following conversation took place: Her: “so you seeing anyone right now” me: “No” Her:“so if I call you up sometime maybe we could go out on a date?” me: “Well I don’t know about all that shit, but we can go back to my place and fuck if you want to…” Her: "HEY! What kind of girl do you think I am! Me: “well if you don’t want to thats fine. I’ll just…” Her: “OK, Lets go!” ---
**Author:** ![vanilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f19dbf/32.png) [@vanilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vanilla)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/27 "2002-09-03T14:01:10Z")
only if it were spoken by Ralph Nader. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/28 "2002-09-03T15:40:44Z")
Yep, situationally contingent here, too. Although in many situations I’d be favorably predisposed, I’d definitely have to engage in some risk-benefit calculus. (Is this person married/dating a big mutha/crazy/leading a risky lifestyle/crooked/stupid?) To members of my same sex, the answer is: That’s very flattering, but no, thanks (meanwhile making mental note to avoid bars named “The Drill Shaft” in the future 😛 ). Just-met person, I’d stall until I can do the R-B. “That’s very flattering, but I like to get to know someone better as a person.” Must confess that if she could qualify to be in Playboy/the Victoria’s Secret Catalog/SI Swimsuit Issue, this familiarization process could be completed to my satisfaction within the hour 😃 :o Person I already know at least well enough to know if there’s anything I should worry about. If both that is clear AND there’s attraction it _would_ work VERY well. Otherwise, again “Flattered, but no/wait”. ---
**Author:** ![Judith\_Prietht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b19c9b/32.png) [@Judith\_Prietht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Judith_Prietht)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/29 "2002-09-03T16:00:39Z")
I respect the direct approach. A friend (well, acquaintance, really) asked me one night if I wanted to have sex with him. I politely declined, and we went right on talking as if nothing had happened. I suppose it took some pressure off him, and left him open for other options that evening. With an ex, however, it’s somewhat to be expected, and kind of nice if there are no emotional strings attached. I don’t believe I’ve ever had a stranger come up to me and say that. But I imagine I’d say no. ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/30 "2002-09-03T16:02:35Z")
Twenty-some years ago, I got a visit from a former college classmate (he’d flunked out) just after I bought my first house. I’d been attracted to him in college, but he was more interested in pursuing that new-fangled “Computer dating” so I gave up on him. I was showing him around the place, and when we got to the dining room, he said, completely out of the blue, “Would you like to have sex with me sometime?” I immediately laughed. It wasn’t so much the inanity of having sex with him, but the way he asked and the completely unexpected nature of the conversation. We’d never gone on a date, never hugged or kissed, never shared anything more than conversation. I did apologize for laughing. He left and I never heard from him again. Too bizarre… ---
**Author:** ![TeaElle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8491ac/32.png) [@TeaElle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TeaElle)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/31 "2002-09-03T16:44:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by robertliguori \* > **Was wondering. If apporached by a member of the gender that you are attracted to and propositioned re the OP, what would your reaction be?** If I was attracted to the person to an equal extent, that line would work on me just as well as any other. But then, I appreciate directness. Come to think on it, Mr. tlw used similar language on me, once upon a time… ---
**Author:** ![monster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@monster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monster)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/32 "2002-09-03T19:04:22Z")
Not even if I were attracted to the guy initially. That would turn me off. It would be like seeing a cute guy light up a cigarette. Ugh. ---
**Author:** ![Lissla\_Lissar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@Lissla\_Lissar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lissla_Lissar)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/33 "2002-09-03T20:22:40Z")
Even if I weren’t taken… nope. Romance works better for me. Unless, of course, it was my husband asking… sometime after December 28th 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Avalonian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ee7513/32.png) [@Avalonian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avalonian)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2002, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/34 "2002-09-03T22:15:07Z")
The only way it would work for me would be if I knew the woman saying that to me pretty well. When I was in college, a couple random girls in a bar once did that to me, and I backed out as politely as possible (they were drunk as well, so double-whammy). However, my wife says things like that to me now and again. Works like a charm. It’s the best way to get me off the damn computer. _looks up_ What’s that, love? Oh…my. Bye. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Tripler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripler/32/21807_2.png) [@Tripler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tripler)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2002, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/35 "2002-09-04T02:17:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by astro \* > \*\*What do you need to make the natives friendlier? Chocolate bars, beads, an MP3 player, Prada handbags and Ferragamo pumps, Microsoft stock options… what? Where do you want this stuff sent? I can’t make heads or tails of your location coordinates. \*\* Just send _something_, anything. Write **Tripler, Middle of Nowhere, USA**. They know how to get it here. Tripler Please. Hurry. I can feel the atrophy set in. ---
**Author:** ![MadScientistMatt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/bc8723/32.png) [@MadScientistMatt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MadScientistMatt)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2002, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/36 "2002-09-04T02:59:30Z")
Call me a religious fanatic, but I don’t believe going around screwing random girls (or even not so random ones) is the right thing to do. But even if it wasn’t for that, call me a cynic instead - I’d have to suspect her motives for asking me so directly at random (unless I know her well enough to know her motive). As much as I’d like to believe she said it because I’m an attractive and sexy guy, I know well enough that I’m not attractive and sexy enough to get randomly propositioned like that. My first guess (unless the reason is clearly that she’s had way too much to drink) would be that she’s out to toy with my emotions and tease me, and the offer isn’t serious - I’ve met a few girls who seem to have that sort of motive. My second guess would be she’s hoping to steal my wallet. And if it’s not one of those, I’d suspect it’s some other ulterior motive that I wouldn’t care to find out about. Maybe I’m too much of a suspicious bastard, but that’s just a question that would automatically make me suspicious if a woman randomly approached me and asked that. ---
**Author:** ![kevja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/aeb1de/32.png) [@kevja](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kevja)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2002, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/37 "2002-09-04T03:14:36Z")
If I was attracted to the guy, hell yes the line would work on me. What in the world would there to be to think about! If I was not attracted to the guy, it wouldn’t matter. I’d just say no thanks. End of discussion. ---
**Author:** ![Beighley](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a587f6/32.png) [@Beighley](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beighley)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2002, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/38 "2002-09-04T03:26:26Z")
Having just been dumped by a total jerk, I would have to say that if the guy were attractive, heck yeah I would, as long as it was no strings attached. Normally I would say no way, I have standards, but you caught me at a weak moment. =( ---
**Author:** ![Koffing](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/898d66/32.png) [@Koffing](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koffing)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2002, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/39 "2002-09-04T04:19:30Z")
If the person was the opposite sex, and doing the deed wouldn’t get me arrested, then chances are very good that it would work on me. ---
**Author:** ![Blalron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@Blalron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blalron)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2002, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677/40 "2002-09-04T05:11:46Z")
Just out of curiousity, where do you live Beighley? 😉 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/would-the-statement-i-would-like-to-have-sex-with-you-work-on-you/126677.md?page=3)